OnlyJake Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 OK, so "real" dating hasn't really been working out for me, so I decided to try "college"-type dating again, despite my suspicions that this would cause more problems than the one it may potentially solve. The other weekend one of my friend's friends hosted a Big Lebowski party, and I met this really cool guy there, we chatted, hit it off, etc. Exchanged numbers. He didn't contact me via phone (except to text), but he hit me up on Facebook, so we've talked a little bit in the meantime. I'm not too into that form of communication (not even in college did I find that acceptable, but apparently that's the norm now, so I thought, what the heck, I'll give it a shot). Sooo he was asking me what I was up to for the weekend; I said I was hanging out at my friends' house (pizza, drinking, Rock Band with a bunch of people) and he should come. Unfortunately, I got stuck being the singer, and the guy I invited happened to come over in the middle of my attempt at "Heartbreaker" (not at all pretty). He laughed at me (along with me everyone else, but still), and that kinda set the tone for the night. Anyways, I won't bore anyone with the details of the entire night (which was a blast), but even though I'm not too old to enjoy a good game of beer pong, I did learn that I'm too old to do the whole hanging out/college dating thing. I think I'm going to just take matters into my own hands and start asking out all the attractive men I meet. I don't NEED a bf, but I'm not getting any younger, and I would like the option of having children one day.
boogieboy Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Thats good! I encourage you to encourage other women on this board to do what you are doing, so they can stop waiting around and be proactive for what they want.
sid3 Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 So it seems the moral of the story is, yet another clock is ticking, but instead of bitching about men, your going to be proactive, good for you.
Johnny M Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 I think I'm going to just take matters into my own hands and start asking out all the attractive men I meet. I don't NEED a bf, but I'm not getting any younger, and I would like the option of having children one day. Finally you're getting it. Being proactive is the key to success.
Author OnlyJake Posted February 2, 2010 Author Posted February 2, 2010 I already have a plan. I can't wait to go grocery shopping this weekend....I mean, probably if there's a man by himself at the grocery store on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon, he's single, right? *Where I live most wives are stay at home moms/housewives, so there's always tons of women at the store on week days.
meerkat stew Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Gogo Jakey! but consider shaving the beard and ditching the hat and cigar before going on your rampage. Will get better results! You realize by posting this thread here, we expect you to update with all the -ahem- highly specific details, right?
DiscoChick Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Your story remind me of "Beerfest." Was the "Heartbreaker" song you were sing the Led Zeppelin song? Who would even attempt to sing that? Or maybe it's just me. I agree with you about guys. My biological clock isn't ticking [i don't think it ever started], but I've found that it's not so easy to get guys. I don't party, so I never do the college scene, and I'm in college. I've said countless times that I have no problem with rejection, however, approaching men just might not be my forte. Case and point [happened earlier today]: Me: Hello, how are you? Him: Great. You? Me: Fine. Him: Good... *stares at me* Me: I find you attractive and think that your staring reciprocates the feeling. Would you be interested in dinner tomorrow? Him: Wow...no. {I give him a raised eyebrow} You're pretty and all. You're just tall, and you look like you enjoy wearing heels. You're not even wearing heels and I come up to your nose. I nod and walk off thinking "irony." Yes, rejected by an insecure short man. [i'm not even tall!!] I can only hope I don't have to work at that school again anytime soon. He is so adorable and has the sweetest voice. Infatuation. Guys are starting to disappoint me. So, all I can say is, keep trying. I guess. I'm only 24, and I'm darn near tired of the game.
Author OnlyJake Posted February 2, 2010 Author Posted February 2, 2010 Gogo Jakey! but consider shaving the beard and ditching the hat and cigar before going on your rampage. Will get better results! You realize by posting this thread here, we expect you to update with all the -ahem- highly specific details, right? Will do Your story remind me of "Beerfest." Was the "Heartbreaker" song you were sing the Led Zeppelin song? Who would even attempt to sing that? Or maybe it's just me. I agree with you about guys. My biological clock isn't ticking [i don't think it ever started], but I've found that it's not so easy to get guys. I don't party, so I never do the college scene, and I'm in college. I've said countless times that I have no problem with rejection, however, approaching men just might not be my forte. Case and point [happened earlier today]: Me: Hello, how are you? Him: Great. You? Me: Fine. Him: Good... *stares at me* Me: I find you attractive and think that your staring reciprocates the feeling. Would you be interested in dinner tomorrow? Him: Wow...no. {I give him a raised eyebrow} You're pretty and all. You're just tall, and you look like you enjoy wearing heels. You're not even wearing heels and I come up to your nose. I nod and walk off thinking "irony." Yes, rejected by an insecure short man. [i'm not even tall!!] I can only hope I don't have to work at that school again anytime soon. He is so adorable and has the sweetest voice. Infatuation. Guys are starting to disappoint me. So, all I can say is, keep trying. I guess. I'm only 24, and I'm darn near tired of the game. Ha, na Pat Benetar! My clock's not ticking yet either, but I'm a planner, and I am anticipating it will start ticking in the future. As Gretzky says, "Good hockey players play where the puck is. Great hockey players play where the puck is going to be." Or something like that. Keep trying. Gretkzy also said "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take." (Yes, I was reading inspirational quotes today.)
DiscoChick Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Will do Ha, na Pat Benetar! My clock's not ticking yet either, but I'm a planner, and I am anticipating it will start ticking in the future. As Gretzky says, "Good hockey players play where the puck is. Great hockey players play where the puck is going to be." Or something like that. Keep trying. Gretkzy also said "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take." (Yes, I was reading inspirational quotes today.) Lol. It's good to be inspired. My inspiration mostly comes from a worn out bible. Pat Benatar?! I loooooooove that song. I can't sing for crap,but I would totally karaoke that song, shamelessly slaughtering it. I have to play the cd now!
boogieboy Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 I already have a plan. I can't wait to go grocery shopping this weekend....I mean, probably if there's a man by himself at the grocery store on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon, he's single, right? *Where I live most wives are stay at home moms/housewives, so there's always tons of women at the store on week days. Dont assume anyones single, you have to make the conversation first, and find out just before you give out your number. You can however ask him what hes doing at a grocery store by himself on a sat or sun. BTW may I suggest when this thread dies out, you start a thread directed at the women of the board titled "I'm going for what I want now" or something of the like, and explain your reasons why these passive women need to get active.
Author OnlyJake Posted February 2, 2010 Author Posted February 2, 2010 Dont assume anyones single, you have to make the conversation first, and find out just before you give out your number. You can however ask him what hes doing at a grocery store by himself on a sat or sun. BTW may I suggest when this thread dies out, you start a thread directed at the women of the board titled "I'm going for what I want now" or something of the like, and explain your reasons why these passive women need to get active. Give out my number? So you think I should see if the guy asks for mine after I hit on him? I was planning mostly on seeing how it goes, but I was definitely planning on asking for his number as opposed to hoping he asks/calls. I'm not gonna lie, today at work when I was brainstorming my list of places to meet men I felt an enormous sense of power over my dating future. Plus, I like the idea of doing some recon to observe the guy before making my move (example: at the cafe, what kind of coffee does he order and does he take anything in it?). Bookstore: not only is it relatively safe to assume he's literate (and may even have a large vocab ), but seeing what he's looking at gives me an idea of some possible interests. Etc.
boogieboy Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Give out my number? So you think I should see if the guy asks for mine after I hit on him? I was planning mostly on seeing how it goes, but I was definitely planning on asking for his number as opposed to hoping he asks/calls. I'm not gonna lie, today at work when I was brainstorming my list of places to meet men I felt an enormous sense of power over my dating future. Plus, I like the idea of doing some recon to observe the guy before making my move (example: at the cafe, what kind of coffee does he order and does he take anything in it?). Bookstore: not only is it relatively safe to assume he's literate (and may even have a large vocab ), but seeing what he's looking at gives me an idea of some possible interests. Etc. I suggest you write down all your brainstorming, and spread it around the board. Your words are inspiring. I think you will wind up making the guy you chat up so curious that he will ask for your number, but if you feel the instinct to do so, yeah ask him! Im sure you have ways to find out if hes single......
Author OnlyJake Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 I suggest you write down all your brainstorming, and spread it around the board. Your words are inspiring. I think you will wind up making the guy you chat up so curious that he will ask for your number, but if you feel the instinct to do so, yeah ask him! Im sure you have ways to find out if hes single...... That's an interesting idea, I like that! I plan on playing it by ear, but will definitely find out if he's taken or not...don't wanna step on any toes! I'll have to think about writing out my dating manifesto
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