canadaman111 Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 I am taking a girl i met online on our first date on saturday. I am 29 with 2 boys, she is 30 with 2 girls. I met her a week ago now. We have spent countless hours chatting online and both feel ready for this. There is a very strong connection between us. We both want a long term relationship and hope this is it. We have talked about some things that are kind of weird like who would sell there house and move in with the other one and stuff like that. Sounds kind of weird but we both feel comfortable with it and know exactly what each other expectations are. I am going to take her to dinner and a movie. I am still trying to figure out what movie to see. She just wants to be surprised, she doesn't want to know where we are going or what we are doind so asking her is out of the question. Any suggestions on a movie??
Barky Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Here's a suggestion: don't go to a movie on a first date. Here's another suggestion: you're far, far too excited about this broad already. You should be dating multiple women; you should have 2 dates a week if you have the time, with 2 different women. If you can't swing that, 1 date a week with a different woman. You should be dating, and sleeping with, 2-3 women, more if you can. Here's more advice: Don't spend "countless hours" chatting online with ANY broad before you've even met her. Waste of time. They don't even show up on your radar until they've slept with you and the sex was good. You seem very new to the online dating thing. You'll learn. I've been doing it from my mid-20s for the past 10 years almost. Guard your precious time and don't get hooked on any one chick.
Barky Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 She just wants to be surprised, she doesn't want to know where we are going or what we are doind so asking her is out of the question. This is a bad sign. This is her saying, "I'm just along for the ride, you do all the work sucker." I wouldn't put up with that, especially on a first date. That's not 50/50, and I've found it behooves me to make sure I'm getting a woman who is willing to put forth at least 50% of the effort.
clueless haha Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 dont take her out for movie, its so cliche.. for 1st dates all i do is take 'em out for a nice dinner and stimulating conversation do the movie thing on date #2
clueless haha Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 @ barky no offense man and dont take this in the wrong way but you shouldn't be referring to a lady as a "broad", it's like saying cunt. JMO
sid3 Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Save the movie for later dates. Why would you want to sit in silience for two hours during a first date. Thats time you could be getting to know her better. Imagine spending that same amount of time over coffee or going for a walk. It would give you a better idea if you actually click in RL like you seem to over the internet. Then again, if you already want to spend the rest of your lives together why even bother with a first date, go ring shoping.
Barky Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 You're saying I should start calling women "cunts"? I don't think that would go over well. Kids these days......
Barky Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Don't show up. That will surprise her. Lol... first sane post I've read here in awhile. Methinks the OP doesn't have a lot of dating options
HeyThere Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 (edited) Canadaman111 is asking for advice and he’s getting a lot of hot air up his skirt? I agree movie is out, conversation is in; slooooow down before you get burned. You’re not marring this woman yet, so really get to know her. It’s good that you’re excited; just temper that so you don’t miss something you may ignore. Enjoy each others company. p.s. – especially since you’re still are not over your ex yet. Edited February 2, 2010 by HeyThere
Peter Attis Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Honey, you need to dump that zero and get you a hero!
meerkat stew Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 If you stick with the movie idea, go light and funny. Use www.imdb.com but beware, there are lots of marketing flaks on that site, you have to dig deep to get to the truth about a movie, spend a couple minutes researching. Agree with others, though, try to have an active first date where you are moving around, may be tough in Canada this time of year. A couple of small plate appetizers sitting at a bar of a restaurant is good if you have to stay indoors, gets you sitting side by side where you can touch each other.
Barky Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Never take a woman to a movie you haven't seen before in the first stages of a relationship.
Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 I am taking a girl i met online on our first date on saturday. I am 29 with 2 boys, she is 30 with 2 girls. I met her a week ago now. We have spent countless hours chatting online and both feel ready for this. There is a very strong connection between us. We both want a long term relationship and hope this is it. We have talked about some things that are kind of weird like who would sell there house and move in with the other one and stuff like that. Sounds kind of weird but we both feel comfortable with it and know exactly what each other expectations are. Are you serious? ARE YOU SERIOUS?! You're talking about moving in together and you haven't even met in person? And once again, don't go to a movie. How are you supposed to get to know eachother when you're facing a screen and you can't talk?
D-Lish Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Everyone has pretty much said everything I would have said- except for the calling women "cunts" thing. I wouldn't have said it even if I thought it- because, you know- it's a naughty word. For sure- no movie on the first date, you're supposed to TALK and get to know one another. Also, I agree, it's crazy to be talking about spending the rest of your lives together before you've met in person. I can't tell you how many guys I've chatted with online that seemed perfect- but turned out to be total douchebags. If I went to a movie with them on the first date, it would have prolonged me figuring that out.
Barky Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 turned out to be total douchebags. So 'cunt' is wrong but 'douchebag' is ok? Kids these days...
Itzo Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 I am taking a girl i met online on our first date on saturday. I am 29 with 2 boys, she is 30 with 2 girls. I met her a week ago now. We have spent countless hours chatting online and both feel ready for this. There is a very strong connection between us. We both want a long term relationship and hope this is it. We have talked about some things that are kind of weird like who would sell there house and move in with the other one and stuff like that. Sounds kind of weird but we both feel comfortable with it and know exactly what each other expectations are. I am going to take her to dinner and a movie. I am still trying to figure out what movie to see. She just wants to be surprised, she doesn't want to know where we are going or what we are doind so asking her is out of the question. Any suggestions on a movie?? No-No. ... NO movies dude!!!! That sucks?! How come go on a date to see a movie ... you are not going to pay attention to your partner, but the freakin' movie ... Do not make any plans ... just know where you are going and BE at the moment. By being at the moment you are establishing emotional connection with her, creating a bond. Do not think, ok .. what to do next .. for god sake do not even ASK her what she wants to do next ... Just enjoy the moment together, that's all. Forget about "dates" ... they put too much pressure on both of ya. Do not forget to express your personality freely (you know do not change your personality, because you may think this is what she likes), do not try to impress her or give her any gifts yada yada yada and also lead the situation ... make her feel in your bubble, without clingying to her.
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Here's another suggestion: you're far, far too excited about this broad already. That's not a suggestion. That's a statement. Unless you meant to follow it up with: "Try not to cum in your pants during the date."
clueless haha Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 You're saying I should start calling women "cunts"? I don't think that would go over well. Kids these days...... where did i say it's okay to call a woman a cunt?? i'm not looking for a pissing contest but i think you really misunderstood my post... you shouldn't call a lady a broad or cunt or whatever, no matter what the context of the word is, it sounds derogatory. JMO! and i'm no kid lol, i'm 18 (19 in 3 days) but believe me when i say "i am way ahead of my time" i can't even talk to people my age because 80% of them are too ignorant or immature to understand the concept of how i am so well off, despite the fact that i've worked for a living since i was 16. so i would appreciate it if you didn't refer to myself as just another "kid", thank you sir, i am done now.
HeyThere Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Look. They have not even really met, have only been talking online for a week, and they're talking about moving in together and making a life together? C'mon this kind of thing is bad news. Even if Canadaman can be excused for this, it's a real red flag that this woman he is going to date is also saying the same types of things. That is not stable, that is not healthy. Both he and the woman have children. What are they thinking exactly? What possible good could come from getting involved with a woman who says she wants to play house with you before she's even met you? I was only half joking about the Nigerian scam. There are plenty of people online who prey on vulnerable people's emotional weaknesses. I agree 110%. The big concern is that he (and maybe she) are coming off a failed marriage with two children each feeling a pressing need to solve that issue. Now they are immediately talking about playing house when without getting to truly know each other could put them back in the same bad situation.
Author canadaman111 Posted February 2, 2010 Author Posted February 2, 2010 Not many positive replys, and I can understand that. We have talked about them type of things but it doesn't mean that they are going to happen. I don't believe in dating just for the fun of it, never have never will. if i am going to date someone i have every intention of it lasting. I think we are still going to see a movie. This is going to be a long date. First off it is a 30 minute drive to the city we are going to. Then i have made reservations at a nice place for dinner. Then a nice walk around the waterfront(weather pending) then finally a movie. There will be plenty of conversation time before and after the movie. By the way I think we are going to see Dear John. Looks like a good date movie
sid3 Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 As for the troll comment, I digress. Good luck on your date.
clueless haha Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 i hate channig tatum but amanda seyfried is a good actress... good luck and have fun!! let us know how it goes
clueless haha Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 (edited) hey canadaman111, no one asked so i will... is she a good looking woman?? lol im from hamilton btw, i bet you're a few hours north eh?? Edited February 2, 2010 by clueless haha
sagetalk Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Don't show more enthusiasm about the relationship then she does. Other than that, I don't know what to say. A movie is a bad idea like the others said. Do that a few dates in.
sagetalk Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 I can't tell you how many guys I've chatted with online that seemed perfect- but turned out to be total douchebags. If I went to a movie with them on the first date, it would have prolonged me figuring that out. I have the same philosophy. Might as well go ahead and get it over with. There is no sense dragging it out, if the two of you aren't compatible, then it's best to know that right up front. I'm curious, what's an example of something they did on the date to give them that title?
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