USMCHokie Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 the last breakup i had was the best thing that ever happened to me. Are there any other men here where a breakup or divorce was the right kick in the ass needed to make something of their lives? I thank my ex for helping me to become the man i am today. +1,000,000.
Woggle Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 Men need to start looking at this as a chance to be reborn and grow their balls back. It's okay to feel letdown when a woman is not who she initially presented herself to be but never let it devastate you. Any woman worth one teardrop would never make you cry in the first place so stop stressing over these chicks. You are better off without their type in your life.
Woggle Posted March 6, 2010 Posted March 6, 2010 You're right, but it isn't that easy unfortunately. You need to train yourself to make it easier. Find some hobbies or goals that you would enjoy without her being involved. Build your own life up and then you find a worthy enough woman you can make space for her in it but never base your happiness on a female. They are for the most unloyal, unreliable and will turn on you in a heartbeat so build a great life with room in it for a woman if you happen to find one of the rare good ones and if you don't you can still be happy.
monkeymaid Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 i also am the one to do the breaking up. This is by far one of the hardest things ive had to do. ..it was the second attempt at this same girl, and we were doing fine for about 10 months back together. ...in december, i decided to go back to school, finish my degree, get 2 jobs to save money for a house/family, and get back into shape (not that i was out of shape, just wanted to ramp it up). well, i come to find out that she got depressed cuz i was so busy (it was only going to be 1 year), actively flirted with another guy instead of leaning on me, i forgave her and found out that she decided to keep talking to him @3 am in the morning, so i broke it off with her. ...as far as coping. its only been 6 days but ...i function well, people think i am doing great (but i am dying inside), i am continuing on with all of my goals (lost a few lbs, exercise 6 days a week, started a side business selling bikes, got a new job as a bartender etc...), and my life makes perfect logical sense, but emotionally, like when i am all by myself for more than an hour, i wonder if i Fd up, or hope she will realize what she did and come back on her hands and knees, or of i am now an after thought etc... either way, what doesnt kill me i WILL get stronger from and this undoubtedly will be no different ill give her one thing though, i am a much harder man now because of that hot woman. more socially inclined, more dominant in every forum of life except fitness and family (i was a fitness animal before her and i let her take it from me)
monkeymaid Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 You need to train yourself to make it easier. Find some hobbies or goals that you would enjoy without her being involved. Build your own life up and then you find a worthy enough woman you can make space for her in it but never base your happiness on a female. They are for the most unloyal, unreliable and will turn on you in a heartbeat so build a great life with room in it for a woman if you happen to find one of the rare good ones and if you don't you can still be happy. spoken like a great man!
Confusedguy81 Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 When an ex-gf dumped me I didn't know what to do with my anger so I beat the crap out of a punching bag and ran as long as I could. I think when the body is in motion it can be a distraction from the breakup.
monkeymaid Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 When an ex-gf dumped me I didn't know what to do with my anger so I beat the crap out of a punching bag and ran as long as I could. I think when the body is in motion it can be a distraction from the breakup. this!! ftw! its the endorphins that keep your mind occupied, or rather satiated and that little bit of extra endorphin in your system helps stave off that crappy feeling that creeps in when you dwell. im with you on exercise being the best form of distractor
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