ms.ac Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 it has been 42 days NC, over 2 months since the last time i saw him. I was starting to do so good, i was going out, ttalking to other guys, getting my mind off of the fact that my bf of almost 5 yrs decided to totally end our relationship and date a girl from his work, it was a bad bad breakup where he made me feel horrible about his decision by throwing it in my face, its been a while now... and i have been doing everything to get over it, it has been so hard, and he calls me on tuesday... i couldnt believe it, i waited for the day he would show up on my phone and now i wish he never did, i didnt even answer, he left a message but it has made me take a huge step back, i am thinking about him and what he did to me and how much i miss him, all of the pain annd hurt is coming back, im even starting to want to talk to him again,,, im trying to hang out with other guys but i get soo mad because i dont want to have to go throught this i dont want to have to do it all over, and i dont want to complyetely lose him either, today my sister saw him getting coffee and driving in my neighborhood, hthis is out of his way and not in a busy part of the city, I just dont know.. why does it set me back so much, why did he call, why is he showing up in places i can see him... im just in a weird place, and i cant stop crying and feeling horrible again, i thougth he was the rest of my life, and im torn, because i love him so much and im kind of happy he called me to see how i was doing but at the same time ... how dare he act like he can just call and act like he is my friend after everything he did and said, I need advice, its soooo hard ,its not fair,, is anyone in this place right now??
Silver_star Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 He feels he can just call you and "see how things are going" because he wants to be sure that you are still the crushed sad little girl that he left for someone else. He wants to be sure of this so he has a backup plan to make him feel safe and in control. You have discovered that life goes on without him, and that what he did to you was unacceptable...yeah you will miss him from time to time...but you will meet someone who would NEVER even think of leaving you. EVER! So..ignore him. Completely. Dont make the excuse of "wanting to be friends" ...would a friend have done that to you? would a friend have handled breaking your heeart that way and then just expect you to give them a high five 42 days later? Trust me on this one. Ive been through the same thing. It is time to move on and not waste any more time on the pain.
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