dianna Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 So , my ex sent me a message 3 weeks ago that "i might regret this but i miss you " and then i sent him nothing. So afterwards a few days passed and I find out that he is dating one of my collegues and that he is having fun with her and stuff. My mom thinks that I was stupid because I didn't sent him a message that day and because i am full of ego..that's why he is dating that girl... Now..I feel stupid
Ronni_W Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 If you were doing N/C, then not responding was obviously what was needed. Just because your mom thinks whatever, doesn't make it true. Only you know if you didn't respond for the reason that your mom thinks. If that is the case, then...yeah, it does kinda suck to find out that following your ego's "advice" was a mistake. But. (If that is the case) It's a good lesson, right? You can now make a new decision and, in the future, just choose to follow your heart and take actions that better support what your really want and need. It's all you can do at this point...take the lesson and be grateful that it came now and not after a hundred more such mistakes. Hugs.
selena_cat Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 sending a lzy text saying i miss you is not the same as actually knowcking down yoru door asking for reconciliation. You did the righ tthing going NC Miss thang5
ginyi1111 Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 he misses you but then he goes out with another girl? i miss my ex like mad and i cant even stand the thought of going out with another guy! and im the one that got dumped. i know why you feel stupid cos if you think had you replied then he might try to get you back instead of giving up with another girl. well he should do more than just send a text to try to get you back if he dumped you...he dumped you with ease and the least he can do to try to win you back surely should be more than a text??
name witheld Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 I miss my ex but will be going out with another girl this week. Not saying you should act on that but just cos he is seeing someone else doesn't define his feelings for you. He may or may not have feelings but you can't tell until he says so. But then if he left you I'm pretty sure he would be keen on telling you (in a more substantial way) how he feels.
kwyser Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 You probably should have responded, but don't feel stupid. He is 99% likely to be dating her because he is mad at you for not answering him. And he feels like he was right in saying he will probably regret it. Try talking to him and apologizing for not answering him.
emjay22 Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 you did a good job not responding. he was obviously just saying that because of boredom and/or loneliness. if he really missed you, he would have kept trying anyways. instead he moved on really quick. don't feel bad about it.
You'reasian Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 you did a good job not responding. he was obviously just saying that because of boredom and/or loneliness. if he really missed you, he would have kept trying anyways. instead he moved on really quick. don't feel bad about it. Kept trying anyways? I think most guys get the picture pretty quick since they're quick to accuse guys of stalking and such - and no woman is worth that accusation, sorry ladies - love ya but I also respect myself. No means no. You don't respond; no self-respecting guy is not obbligated to persue.
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