DenverBachelor Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 (edited) As I sit here riding the AB from Boulder to Denver International Airport and not correctly taking the B from Boulder to Denver City, I now realize I will be riding a bus for the next 2 hours. This made me think -- When does one learn when to cut their losses? I've noticed a lot of people that get into a relationship will often have to encounter challenges, but how do we know when to cut our losses knowing we are in a non-productive relationship? Furthermore, can anyone really think logically like that in a relationship? Why do we allow our emotions to override our clear judgement. What really is communication and when people say, "You should communicate first, full stop." Is it really the communication or learning to read what he or she is telling you non-verbally? Are we learning to feel that hidden channel of communication in a more cognitive way and bypass the filters of our emotions, past, etc.? Sometimes you're in a situation where you can't easily cut your losses. For instance, I am on the express bus to the Airport so I don't have the luxury of stopping before the very end. How many times have we subconsciously harpooned a relationship because of our own internal fears manifesting themselves in complex ways that your significant other can pick up on an instinctive level? This is especially true of women -- if you become less affectionate with them or don't give them that, "I'm a special woman in your world" feeling, they'll grow emotionally distant. Once a woman because emotionally distant, the relationship is intrinsicly dead. Kind of similar to not paying the attention of the bus you boarding, I still had that instinctive feeling something was wrong. I don't remember using this gate before. I don't recognize this bus driver. Why does everyone have luggage with them? Many obvious things put right before my eyes but I just wasn't paying attention. How often does something like this occur in actual relationships with other people? Edited February 1, 2010 by DenverBachelor
annxxdisaster Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 I really like this analogy. It's really beautiful. And writing this was probably an excellent way to kill the extra long bust ride.
CaliGuy Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 DB it's very similar to a situation where you meet someone new, the red flags/alarms start going off but in your deep desire to be in a relationship with this new person that you have the hots for, you completely ingore the warning signs. By the time you realize you've made it a mistake, the Bus has already left and you're trapped for the time being. Self-control is a difficult thing to learn, especially when the hormones are going off. The key thing is, if you aren't in control of your emotions and hormones then they are in control of you. And having control over yourself at the beginning of a relationship will pay big dividends in the end.
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