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Really? REALLY?! I have to risk my career and 10-20 years in jail to buy an 8-ball for the CHANCE at a date? :(

 

Yes, thats how women are these days.

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Really? REALLY?! I have to risk my career and 10-20 years in jail to buy an 8-ball for the CHANCE at a date? :(

 

Well I wouldn't go that far...but you have to realize that a club is ultimately an immature and superficial environment...so to win at that game...you have to adapt.

 

Which is why I don't like clubs, or the people who frequent them, and would suggest an alternative (or at least additional) dating strategy.

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I said I DO care what they think. I said I feel ashamed and embarrassed when I get blown off.

 

I know what you said, and that's why I said you are on the cusp. You are close to not caring, just needs more repetition, that is the key. Uncaring = attractive, as it should be. People like to think they are striving to earn the esteem, not being granted it merely because they belong to the vagina club.

 

You have to care enough to approach, flirt and charm, but there's something about you once you don't really care, and especially once they get the sense that you are evaluating them as much as they are you, and you will rarely see eyerolls again.

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Really? REALLY?! I have to risk my career and 10-20 years in jail to buy an 8-ball for the CHANCE at a date? :(

 

Nah, you are thinking crack and meth. An 8 ball will just get you a slap on the wrist, light probation. We only like to incarcerate African Americans for crack and Hillbillies for meth in the good ole USA, upstanding straight cokeheads get a break because coke adds productivity! Let's call it "the man's" privilege. ;)

 

OP, remember the "humor" caveat in my long reply? Don't go buying blow to get women. That's so easy that it will TRULY give you a bad attitude about women and clubs :laugh:

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Read Clink 'Laid guide' and West 'How to get the most beautiful girls in bed'. Go to amazon.com.

As you mention, the girls are probably not so intelligent and they are perhaps shallow. So, your values are strange for them, you might be an outsider for them. To get shallow girls, you need to match their values. For example, If they love Kardashians, you should talk about their favorite show to sound for them as an interesting and smart guy.

Anyway, the most important/interesting thing for them are they themselves, but not you yet.

So, if you talk with them about them, you are always an interesting man.

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You didnt mention your social circle of guys. Maybe it could grow. You need to hang out with more guys because the more social events you go to the more your opportunity of finding a girl grows.

 

Maybe you are successful but you dont need to say this to woman upon meeting them or you will find the wrong type of girl (golddiggers) but you could try online dating. There is no shame in makin a profile and posting a pic ..see what is out there in your city.

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You didnt mention your social circle of guys. Maybe it could grow. You need to hang out with more guys because the more social events you go to the more your opportunity of finding a girl grows.

 

This is a good point, OP it sounds like you could do with a wingman.

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You didnt mention your social circle of guys. Maybe it could grow. You need to hang out with more guys because the more social events you go to the more your opportunity of finding a girl grows.

 

Maybe you are successful but you dont need to say this to woman upon meeting them or you will find the wrong type of girl (golddiggers) but you could try online dating. There is no shame in makin a profile and posting a pic ..see what is out there in your city.

 

My social circle completely evaporated when I graduated college. I moved back home and away from everyone I knew.

 

And I won't try online dating.

 

First off, the ratio of guys to girl on online sites is probably like 3 or 4 to 1.

 

And second of all, any girl who's 18-22 years old and halfway attractive will NOT have to resort to online dating, so I won't find her there.

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Then you need to join more activities, sports or a gym that lets you make new guy friends, so you can meet more girlfriends. Stop going to the club by yourself...girls will pick up on that and think its creepy. . (just tellin ya from experience of seeing guys alone at a club and my girlfriends and i thinking it was weird) Plus your not gonna find a gf there. Online dating sites can be brutal..hey you dont even have to date any of the girls, but it can be a confidence booster to talk to some women (of your choice) and see what they think of you. Who cares what they say, you dont have to actually meet em. Dont make the assumption that they are ugly or something based on them using online dating, alot of people are just too busy with their lives or frustrated of meeting the same guys at the bar or typical places.

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I'd suggest trying a dating site and/or meetups. Just chat with women and see who keeps nibbling for more of you.

 

If you are as "all that" as you say you are then you must be messing up socially. So work on it.

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