Greenpeacer Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 I met a very smart interpreter who started a PHD in psychologist. She invited me to a Buddhist new year cleansing event. She cancelled my room reservation at a NYC hostel nearby to make sure we had the same room. She likes the good things in life. like the best single malt whiskey. best Buddhist jewelry... she is off to India for 6 weeks. after she spent 5 hours getting frustrated over her computer and Ipod. I tried to help but she kept taking back her computer after 5 minutes from me. I said she will break or transform. in India. She tends to scratch her face out of nervousness. her parents she said were absent being child-like artists. But I like her bec she is smart and i think she liked me but cant get over my current lack of income and some excess weight. (200lbs for 5. 11 inches). SHORT VERSION- Buddhist teachings quite good. Long and very warm. repetitive. Kissing me Saturday then leaving me alone. Then not kissing me Sunday and saying she was cranky and would preferred not to be kissed bec it could not be solved. Details. She was excited with me saturday night. we were very close to "closing" the deal. hugs cuddling. Sunday night, she did not want to kiss anymore and she wanted to know my life. i told her my life story in maybe on who hour in different bunk beds. Monday, hugs but no kisses. She said she will email me from India. any comments? LONGER and MORE DETAILS- High moments able to see homeless person staying warm. She kind of ordered me to give him my fruits. After he insisted on not taking food, she got on her knees took my aero bar, orange and her teas and begged the man to take her food. He took the aero, He pretended to throw away the food but took the banana into his hand. Treating me and the rest with respect, inviting me new people to welcome others. She said it was self-interest, so she will be invited back. Low points Kissing me Saturday them leaving me alone. Then not kissing me Sunday and saying she was cranky and would preferred not to be kissed bec it could not be solved. She had worked with the homeless before. Funny Quotes. I need a big daddy to take care of me. Im tired of taking care of myself. Few people can keep up with me intellectually and artistically. I d rather live in London if I had the money. What do you do? You seem to be an eternal child. I have problems in taking care of children. It has to do with my parents busy all the time at work. The next day, I see you are the politician who cant talk to my doll “Miss Piggy”. “ You need to lose weight and compensating for your childhood by eating all the time. If you lose weight, it will be better for your ankles. some details. she was worried that I "looked" like a child. she doesnt want to take care of kids but "keeps meeting them in her life". her parents were childish. So i told her about my work in law, politics and a little film, human rights for Tibetans. (she hates beijing and chinese people which i tease her about. She is basically one who lived in the country and then in wealth until her dad died). My friends are in engineer or property management. She seemed more relaxed but allowed me to kiss her on the cheeks whereas the night before we were kissing and she was making joked about "your girlfriend". She I think she likes me But...she has concerns and I can see that she is impatient about some things in life include herself. My opinion- I think she is basically a yuppie and Im not really anymore, i used to be... even if we tried to deny it. Maybe her going to India and Nepal for 6 weeks will transform her. There is a lot of poverty and spirituality there. she has a very human and kind side so I saw a lot of her in 4 days of a trip. I hope that her life in wealthy circumstances showed it did not buy happiness with her parents who were "like children". I hope that her life in wealthy circumstances showed it did not buy happiness with her parents who were "like children". i told her "there is heart-breaking poverty there and that india will break you or transform you" and she agreed. At the end of the trip, I presented her 3 GB of photos of the Buddhist teachers, the Buddhist art and sculptures in the Museum and her prayers and she was "impressed". she found them very nice and flattering. and was smiling at times at me. wow so complicated Her picture is great but hides the fact her scratches her face in doubt and even her head so that she needs to put make up to hide the red marks. She said this was the reason she wanted to share a room with me but I guess Sat kissing came with it but not Sunday kissing 1) Ok sat we were necking until it got hot and she ran up to the upper bed. I got up at 5am and kissed her which she liked. I went up to see her and she put her leg up against the wall so I was perching on the edge. I cdnt move. 2) Sunday she said she was tired. well I asked her Sunday nite if she thought I was attractive. she said yes was concerned over my lack of goals so I told her my resume over an hour. not so tired i guess. She told me she was trying to close a deal on a condo. She did grow up in a wealthy house at one point and was living in NYC studying acting so there might be some truth to the money part. The funny thing was she would act aloof but when i asked if she wanted privacy for lunch she said No. she wanted a table for 2 and not to have to share with others. Then, she wanted me to sit beside her through the afternoon prayers. (in the morning, she sat close to me with a foot or two even if the place was still empty). she is only a one year Buddist so i dont think she understands it very well .rules about sex and misconduct. Certainly she does nt have the anger part under control. At one point sunday, she looked a well-built muscle bound Brazilian for 2 seconds. But quickly looked away as I think she knew i was watching. Later coming back after her pouting over her computer for hours, i just noticed a cute girl walking down the bus and she caught me Before that I tried to let an over-weight girl sit beside me and said No. then said "she's overweight". I said "need compassion". She said "No that was her choice to be overweight. Its bad karma for you", Its quite clear to me she is a baby buddhist (new to it) who likes the ritual, devotions and the art and jewelry. I hope she will see the deeper meaning in India and turn compassionate to others. Many mixed signals. any comments? thanks so much.
DiscoChick Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 Been dazed and confused for so long it's not true. Wanted a woman, never bargained for you...She sounds like a douche bag that you have many conflicting beliefs with. Maybe she will work herself out, but if it keep up this way, you're going to get fed up with her sooner or later. Hopefully sooner and you won't have to cry yourself to sleep.
meerkat stew Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 She likes the good things in life. like the best single malt whiskey. best Buddhist jewelry She sounds like "granola drama," a fiercely nutty and self-righteous version of everyday drama. Best let this one ride on to Kathmandu and out of your life.
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 She said she wanted a 'daddy' and that much is very clear. Understand this: men who are turned into 'daddy' rarely, if ever enjoy the fruits of a fully realized romantic and sexual relationship. They are basically walking wallets who get thrown mercy sex every once in a while. Advice? Get yourself out, now. As quickly as possible.
Author Greenpeacer Posted February 1, 2010 Author Posted February 1, 2010 (edited) Thanks. Mercy sex.. interesting term. So unanimously let her go so far? Edited February 1, 2010 by Greenpeacer
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