Men: how many of you have successfully approached a woman in a public place??

[Phateless]

It's a skill, like any other, that needs practice before you perfect it.

 

Just go start chatting people up.

 

You're not doomed just because it's a cold approach, but you're not guaranteed success, either.

 

If you see someone you like, GO TALK TO HER. It might work out and it might not, but don't be a big crybaby about how scary it is, or how painful it is to get rejected, because practice is the only way to learn.

[hoping2heal]

Yes well Alpha better get back in the game. I'm still waiting for him to take out Shelly and Joyce.

[Stockalone]

yes that would count as long as you hadn't talked with them before

 

Thanks for clarifying that, but I am confused now. Women don't usually come knocking on my door to introduce themselves. Approaching women out of the blue as outlined in my previous post is basically the only way for me to meet women.

[Match Factor]

It is how I met my fiancé. There is a fool proof way to do it, but you can't be seen as "picking her up".... It doesn't work that way. And the bad thing is, the better you are at a "pick-up line" the more she will think you've practiced it on other women.

[Pizzaman81]

Twice.

 

Once at a restaurant during happy hour, and the other time in college.

[calizaggy]

Several times.

 

I think of one girl I waited for in the parking lot of the grocery store.. I just said "You have a really nice body", and she laughed.

 

I asked for her number, but instead of giving it to me, she asked for mine. She called a week later and we dated for a year.

[A_guy]

In honor of this thread, I promise to approach at least 3 women this month at the liquor store.

 

HAHAHA...and I promise to approach 3 women at my local bookstore, next to a liquor store.

[laRubiaBonita]

i met my husband at a bar, went home with him that night, spent the night AND we did not have sex!

 

we slept on the floor.

[Phateless]

ANYTHING can be your approach. I once saw a girl in line at safeway with two handles, a couple of six-packs, etc.

 

I looked her up and down and said "Looks like you have your work cut out for you."

 

She laughed and smiled at me.

 

This really isn't that difficult.

[wheream_i]

Two times stand out in my mind but both times I called them on their business lines. I didn't really want to embarrass them in front of their co-workers or make them feel like they had to say yes just to be nice.

 

First time was at an office I used to work at. We had a new Marketing rep who was this gorgeous knockout blonde. It was only me and another horny single guy working there and she walked in and floored both of us. Before she left, she gave us her business card. The next day I bit the bullet and called her before the co-worker had a chance. I asked her out to lunch later that week. After lunch, I was completely casual and asked her out on a date that weekend. We dated for about three months before she moved away. Later she would tell me that she was impressed by my confidence. She's still one of the most beautiful women that I've ever dated.

 

The 2nd was a brunette at my Dr. office when I went in for a shoulder injury. I couldn't take my eyes off of her but she didn't even seem to make eye contact me. After I left, I made it a point to go back to her window and ask her name and thank her for her time (whatever that means) mostly just so she would remember me. About an hour later later, I called her office, asked for her and told her that I thought she was extremely beautiful and asked if she wouldn't mind if I called her sometime. She gave me her number. I think I called her a couple of times and never heard from her.

 

So I gave it about a week and I placed one of those ads in the weekly personals. The title was something to the effect of "Beautiful brunette at so & so Drs. office" with a description of what I thought of her,etc. She texted me about a couple of days later and asked if that was me who placed the ad. She thought it was sweet and creative and agreed to finally go out the following week when we were both free.

 

Just a few days later I was with a friend at some huge event at a local bar and we were all completely hammered. I remember the exact moment it happened. I was walking back to our table with a handful of drinks, I'm pretty sure my eyes were rolled in the back of my head and I made some rude comment about the bartender the second I walked past this cute brunette that looked strangely familiar. About 10 minutes later I get a random text from my brunnette that said," Was that you?" I was completely embarrassed that was her. I answered back, Yeah, that was me! You should come join us."

 

Never heard from her again. God, I wanted to get in that girl's pants so bad.

[alphamale]

so basically i gather that not a lot of guys are meeting women in public places and getting a date out of it.

[Phateless]

so basically i gather that not a lot of guys are meeting women in public places and getting a date out of it.

 

?!

 

I really hope you're being sarcastic.

[D-Jam]

LS men - how many of you have approached a woman out of the blue at a gas station, library, bookstore (any public place) and actually gotten a phone number AND a date out of it?

 

Now remember we are talking about public places only and approaching a girl you've never met before.

Not once.

 

Managed to strike up conversation, but it never went anywhere from there. She was either friendly, but wanted to not know me further than that...or I could tell she was creeped out by the idea of a stranger talking to her.

[Explorer]

so basically i gather that not a lot of guys are meeting women in public places and getting a date out of it.

 

How do you go about meeting women?

[Joe Normal]

LS men - how many of you have approached a woman out of the blue at a gas station, library, bookstore (any public place) and actually gotten a phone number AND a date out of it?

 

Now remember we are talking about public places only and approaching a girl you've never met before.

 

Done it a few times, but it's not my preferred way of meeting. Quite a few women get freaked out if a stranger approaches them when they are just walking around.

Edited February 3, 2010 by Joe Normal

[USMCHokie]

There are really only two instances that I can currently recall...

 

First time, I got a number and date from one of those girls that sells those skin care products at one of those kiosks at the mall. Nothing really came of it.

 

Second time, I got a number from a college student standing out in front of Target selling magazine subscriptions. Ended up chatting with her for a little while out on a bench in front of the store. She was weird...

 

Just have to approach it like having a casual conversation with anyone...if you get a number, you get a number...if not, no biggie...it's just creepy if you do it with the sole intention of scoring a date...

[Phateless]

Done it a few times, but it's not my preferred way of meeting. Quite a few women get freaked out if a stranger approaches them when they are just walking around.

 

I've done it quite a bit but it's not my preferred method either. My preferred method is social circle and becoming friends first, to see if we connect.

 

Never had a girl freak out because I approached her.

[alphamale]

How do you go about meeting women?

singles events, parties, happy hours, thru aquaintances....

[In_Repair]

It's the first way that I ever learned to approach a girl. I grew up close to the beach, and as a teenager during the summer, this is how you get to play with all of the tourist girls wanting to break away from their parents/travel groups for a little while.

 

But I have only done it a couple of times in the past year or so, since my wife and I split up.

Edited February 3, 2010 by In_Repair
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