Men: how many of you have successfully approached a woman in a public place??

[skydiveaddict]

i don't approach women in this manner, its futile

 

I agree hence the big fat ZERO

[Hot Carl]

I've rarely bothered to approach women in public places.

 

When I was in high school, I met a girl at a library. I was acting like a dumbass kid and made her laugh a lot, then asked her out. I blew it after that.

 

Another girl I had a crush on I hit on at a book store. Got a date with her, but blew that one, too.

 

While the chances of success are pretty low, the confidence shot you get from doing it probably makes it worthwhile. It's almost better to get shot down, because you come away from it feeling like you killed a dragon.

[Art_Critic]

I've only tried once...

 

I met my ex-wife in a convenience store gas station by my work.. she was behind the counter.

I had no idea at the time she owned the store though...

[threebyfate]

As far as I'm concerned, my H. approached me in a public place which was on the street. He helped to dig me out of the snow but I left before he could get my number, which he's since fessed up that he had full intentions of doing, once he chatted me up a bit more. Too bad I left, afraid to stop, once he dug me out. But I had my friend, who was his neighbor, ask him to a NYE party so I could say thank you to him, as well as see him again and he got my number from my friend. He called me to accept and also, to invite me the NYE party he was already going to. So we ended up going to both parties and the rest is history.

 

The other one was a neighbor of mine, the actor I was in an STR with, last, last September. He and I met in the elevator going down and he asked me out before we hit the lobby. I turned him down and he gave me his business card, so I would call him, if I changed my mind. I didn't call him and he then had roses delivered, with a little note asking why I hadn't called, which was pretty cute and also, a tad arrogant. I then slipped my business card under his door with a thank you note written on it. Then, he called me and we started dating.

 

So, these are out of the blue, public meets that turned into relationships.

[xXMarlboro_ManXx]

Only once at a bus stop and it only worked because I didn't have to go out of my way to talk to her, she was sitting right next to me. You also learn that in these situations that you have nothing to loose because you will probably never see them again if it goes bad. But on the other hand if it goes good and you don't get a # you're screwed.

[TheLoneSock]

LS men - how many of you have approached a woman out of the blue at a gas station, library, bookstore (any public place) and actually gotten a phone number AND a date out of it?

 

Now remember we are talking about public places only and approaching a girl you've never met before.

 

More than a handful of times at least. Although with most of the girls I've met it has been in a more casual way; meaning not as direct, for instance in class, at a restaurant, through a friend/within a distant social circle, ect.

 

I will say though that at least half of the times I've approached a woman and walked away with her number it has been at a bookstore. Interesting now that I think of it. Maybe because that's a place that's quiet, relaxed and I feel comfortable there. Maybe the bookstore is a domain I feel more confident in or something? There are other places I've been successful at, but none as easy as the bookstore. Funny!

[FryFish]

The public cold call. This is terrifying... but my record is 2 for 4 as far as getting intimate dates from it. Sadly neither date was all that satisfying. One chick was a spoiled, high maintenance attention whore and the other had a boyfriend or fiance or something. Sadly I was with the cheater before I had developed a good bit of cheater radar. At the time I thought she was just odd.

 

I havent done the public cold call in a LONG LONG time. It was back when I was forcing myself to jump into dating and I had no skill, no eye for proper opportunity and no practice at reading body language. Now I have enough experience to know when a person is open to me before I advance.

[Mr White]

I've done it twice. 1st time - phone number and a date; 2nd time - phone number but no date.

Basically good success ratio. If it wasn't such an effin chore and if I didn't have a wonderful gf, I'd imagine that these are tolerable odds.

[SoulSearch_CO]

I had a gorgeous S. American guy chat me up on the bus once. He got my number out of it - never called me.

 

I worked security at a construction site and I guess one of the engineers saw me around and decided he liked what he saw. But being just out of a divorce, he said all he wanted was sex - he made the incredibly stupid decision to tell the other security guard to let me know he wanted a booty call. I never got to see the guy, but he lost two points: one for thinking I'm "like that" and the second for not approaching me himself. Funny enough, he ended up deciding he actually wanted to DATE me and gave the other guard his number to give to me. Jesus - why not just pass me a note during homeroom asking me to check yes or no? LOL Even if I weren't already skeeved from the booty call offer, the lack of balls to approach me himself was a huge turn off. I knew he had a job - so as long as he were at least "average," I would've considered a date (minus the booty call assumption).

[meerkat stew]

In honor of this thread, I promise to approach at least 3 women this month at the liquor store.

[counterman]

In honor of this thread, I promise to approach at least 3 women this month at the liquor store.

 

 

Tell us how it goes after!

 

I saw this girl that really caught my eye the other day and I was going to talk to her and ask her out. It was a stationery shopping centre and she was with her parents and sister. Damn, haven't had someone that caught my eye like that in a while. There will be others!

 

Though, you reckon we should approach girls in public places in general?

[randall]

Never. I'm very surprised by how many men here claim good success rates.

 

Random public approaches should be a total crapshoot unless you are extremely good looking or very charismatic. It's impossible to tell if a woman already has a boyfriend so regardless of how many you approach the success rate should only be at a ratio comparable to the number of women who are actually single. For attractive girls that's pretty low. So I find it hard to believe people can have a very high success rate.

[bac]

I guess it depends on age of girls. If you approuch girls in 20s, there is a better chance that they are not married/attached. If you approuch girls in 40s, they are probably married with 3 kids.

[MissJoness]

This is how you meet ppl of the opposite sex if you live in a large metropolitan city. It's really not uncommon and not considered a form of sexual harassment. Where I'm from, its common for men to strike up conversations like at the post office, convienience store etc while waiting in line. Sometimes you'll go into a latino neighborhood store, and a guy will just start talking to a girl about anyting, usually he'll comment on something you bought and then a conversation leads to him asking for the girl's number. Sometimes they get a number, sometimes they dont. These mens ego aren't as fragile as the male posters of LS who probably live in uptight areas where men are scared to talk to women

[MissJoness]

i don't approach women in this manner, its futile

That's why you dont meet anybody.

[gypsy_nicky]

Alpha I think your thread will get wrong responses. For one people here think a public place is just somewhere outside your home, which is not the case. You can be out in public and actually see familiar strangers (w/c is what most people here are relating.)

[hoping2heal]

i have no problems meeting chicks in the normally accepted venues so i don't really feel the need to approach strange chicks in public who will most likely blow me off

 

It is my only hope that you will keep on meeting them. You have the most entertaining dating stories on here. "I am going out with Maureen tonight." "Well, Dawn is coming over this evening." You date the best girls alpha, you do.

[brock25]

I once got a woman's number at a sporting event. However she did not return my calls.

[phineas]

LS men - how many of you have approached a woman out of the blue at a gas station, library, bookstore (any public place) and actually gotten a phone number AND a date out of it?

 

Now remember we are talking about public places only and approaching a girl you've never met before.

 

Does it count if she's a single mom & my kid was playing with her kid?

 

On vacation trips with friends i've worked the "i'm from out of town" angle quite well.

 

I've never just walked up to a woman & asked her out though.

 

I have had women ask me out before though.

[Stockalone]

LS men - how many of you have approached a woman out of the blue at a gas station, library, bookstore (any public place) and actually gotten a phone number AND a date out of it?

 

Now remember we are talking about public places only and approaching a girl you've never met before.

 

That depends on what you mean by "never met before". Most women that I approached, I had noticed/seen before.

 

I would notice them because we had similar patterns, we'd be at the library at the same time on the same day of the week. Or it were women who always took the same train/bus/tram I did. Situations like that.

 

I didn't know their names, and I hadn't talked to them before. But I had noticed/seen them before. If that sort of approach counts as out of the blue, I got most of my dates that way.

 

 

If we are talking about women that I have just seen for the first time and start talking to them at places like a book store, a hardware store, or while grocery shopping, etc., then I got some dates that way too. The response rate was fairly good actually. Well above 50% but I rarely approached women that way.

[alphamale]

I didn't know their names, and I hadn't talked to them before. But I had noticed/seen them before. If that sort of approach counts as out of the blue, I got most of my dates that way.

yes that would count as long as you hadn't talked with them before

[Phateless]

LS men - how many of you have approached a woman out of the blue at a gas station, library, bookstore (any public place) and actually gotten a phone number AND a date out of it?

 

Now remember we are talking about public places only and approaching a girl you've never met before.

 

Pffft! Are you kidding?! I've done that bunches of times, it's easy.

 

Just be sincere, genuine, and CONFIDENT. Don't come on too strong, but make yourself enjoyable to talk to.

 

Anything form asking a girl to dance, to walking up to a girl out of nowhere and saying "Hi. I know this is random, but I think you are extremely cute, so I just thought I would let you know. Have a good night." and then she comes running after you, wanting to chat.

 

Dude, you just need to get your head in the game.

 

I still have numbers in my phone from my single days, half of which I don't even know which girl they belong to.

[Green]

Personaly I've met women every where from public places, to private friends parties and clubs. I've successfuly aproached women on trains before. I once got a girls number on a plane. I once went out on a date with a girl I met as my waitress. I've met women on the streets while walking, like I got the number of one of those girls who hands out fliers for an event. But my current gf I met in grad school.

[Phateless]

Personaly I've met women every where from public places, to private friends parties and clubs. I've successfuly aproached women on trains before. I once got a girls number on a plane. I once went out on a date with a girl I met as my waitress. I've met women on the streets while walking, like I got the number of one of those girls who hands out fliers for an event. But my current gf I met in grad school.

 

lol that reminds me of this time I met a girl on the freeway. We were smiling at each other through windows, and we slowed down and she yelled her number to me.

 

I called her right there and chatted her up on our cell-phones. We ended up going out the next night.

[burning 4 revenge]

When I worked as a waiter years ago I had like 2 or 3 women give me their number

 

Three..two were black....those girls are aggressive..

 

I dont know if that counts

 

Ive never been the type to approach strangers