Men: how many of you have successfully approached a woman in a public place??

[alphamale]

LS men - how many of you have approached a woman out of the blue at a gas station, library, bookstore (any public place) and actually gotten a phone number AND a date out of it?

 

Now remember we are talking about public places only and approaching a girl you've never met before.

[Explorer]

LS men - how many of you have approached a woman out of the blue at a gas station, library, bookstore (any public place) and actually gotten a phone number AND a date out of it?

 

Now remember we are talking about public places only and approaching a girl you've never met before.

 

Many times.

[shadowplay]

My father met my mother by approaching her in a bookstore when they were both 22. So it happens, but not very often.

[skydiveaddict]

I'd have to admit a big fat ZERO!

[norajane]

I dated a guy for a while that I met on the MUNI in San Francisco. We got on at the same stop in our neighborhood, and ended up sitting next to each other.

 

It was fun.

[Hot Carl]

Never. That's mostly because I don't do it. It's a little shocking when a girl I was thinking of talking to has some guy walk up and give her a nice kiss and then they leave holding hands. That reinforces the decision not to go and have a chat.

[Explorer]

LS men - how many of you have approached a woman out of the blue at a gas station, library, bookstore (any public place) and actually gotten a phone number AND a date out of it?

 

Now remember we are talking about public places only and approaching a girl you've never met before.

 

Are you including bars/clubs?

[Hot Carl]

I have in the past swooped in on unsuspecting women at parties. Depending on circumstances, I can be pretty charming. I suppose my success rate there is about 20%.

[alphamale]

Are you including bars/clubs?

no .

[crosswordfiend]

Quite often. Some of the more interesting places:

 

1. At the bus stop waiting on a bus that wouldn't show up so we ended up splitting a cab to get to the train station.

2. Between acts in the standing room section at the opera.

3. In an elevator leaving a networking event.

 

Other than that, I've met many women in coffee shops. I don't approach them directly, they just happen to be sitting next to me and we end up chatting.

[Explorer]

no .

 

Hmm..well that would drastically reduce my count. I'm assuming being introduced from friends doesn't count as well as any get together/parties?

 

I would estimate only a handful but would have to really give it a lot more thought before I could give an exact.

[alphamale]

I have in the past swooped in on unsuspecting women at parties. Depending on circumstances, I can be pretty charming. I suppose my success rate there is about 20%.

parties aren't public places

 

Quite often. Some of the more interesting places:

 

1. At the bus stop waiting on a bus that wouldn't show up so we ended up splitting a cab to get to the train station.

2. Between acts in the standing room section at the opera.

3. In an elevator leaving a networking event.

 

Other than that, I've met many women in coffee shops. I don't approach them directly, they just happen to be sitting next to me and we end up chatting.

did you date any of them? we're not talking about just chatting

[allina]

I dated a guy for a while that I met on the MUNI in San Francisco.

 

I met my ex bf of 1.5 years on MUNI

[alphamale]

I'm assuming being introduced from friends doesn't count as well as any get together/parties?

no we are just talking public places like the grocery store or mcdonalds or at the bank

[meerkat stew]

Yes, in NYC several times, at night and out at stores (NYers do things at odd hours). In the Southern suburb I live now? Never. At least 80% of the women out and about around here are seriously obese, and the ones who aren't are usually single moms with children in tow or way too young.

 

As flawed as it is, thank goodness for internet dating, as I live close enough to the metro area to date in the city.

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

LS men - how many of you have approached a woman out of the blue at a gas station, library, bookstore (any public place) and actually gotten a phone number AND a date out of it?

 

Now remember we are talking about public places only and approaching a girl you've never met before.

 

Me and a friend used to go approaching women out in public quite often back in the summer. We both found that we were simultaneously single and had recently read The Game, and thought "You know what? We should actually try some of this stuff out!"

 

So all summer long we walked around the town square in the afternoons and talk to girls in cafes, in restaurants, on benches, getting out of cars, so on.

 

Got a few ignored-responses or immediate blow-offs, but I did get a few conversations, phone numbers and dates from it. I dated 3 girls, but 1 was an unreliable flake and 1 was "Waiting for marriage" if you know what I mean.

 

I dated the last girl seriously for a couple of months, but at the cost of falling out of the habit of approaching random women in public.

 

Now that I'm single again, but my friend has moved away, it's getting hard to fall back into the habit again.

[alphamale]

Yes, in NYC several times, at night and out at stores (NYers do things at odd hours).

so you've met chicks at 3am in stores in NYC whose number you obtained and then went out on a date with?

[skydiveaddict]

Just courious Alpha, how many times for you?

[crosswordfiend]

parties aren't public places

 

 

did you date any of them? we're not talking about just chatting

 

Nothing long term. With #1 we quickly ended up being just drinking buddies for a couple of years - attraction wasn't there for anything more. I asked #2 out to dinner after the show and saw her again the next time I was in New York. And with #3, she finally stopped calling a couple of months ago (fingers crossed).

[alphamale]

Just courious Alpha, how many times for you?

i don't approach women in this manner, its futile

[meerkat stew]

so you've met chicks at 3am in stores in NYC whose number you obtained and then went out on a date with?

 

Don't remember as late as 3AM, but do remember having dates met in wine stores and grocery stores at night. There was a 24hr/7day gourmet grocery on the ground level of my apartment building that was a good place, admittedly most of the women there lived in my building or on the block, so we had seen each other before, so don't know if that counts in your research. Met and went out with women from my building roof, don't know if that counts.

 

Also don't know if you are counting women you meet in restaurants who happen to be dining there at different tables, there were a few of those. Also don't know if you are counting people whom you are in a bar with, then in a grocery next door where you meet them. NYC is a special situation because there are so many different kinds of places open at night next to each other. There's also the acquaintance of an acquaintance that you met once, then run into but don't remember their name, don't know if those count.

 

I was way too busy and stressed then to approach women during the day, so never did that in NYC.

[homersheineken]

i don't approach women in this manner, its futile

 

Doesn't seem very alpha-male

[alphamale]

, admittedly most of the women there lived in my building or on the block, so we had seen each other before, so don't know if that counts in your research.

no it doesn't count, read the OP

[alphamale]

Doesn't seem very alpha-male

i have no problems meeting chicks in the normally accepted venues so i don't really feel the need to approach strange chicks in public who will most likely blow me off

[homersheineken]

i have no problems meeting chicks in the normally accepted venues so i don't really feel the need to approach strange chicks in public who will most likely blow me off

 

An alphamale would approach them since there is a chance, even you admit it.