xXMarlboro_ManXx Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 As a general question how often do you make contact after the first date? Do you always expect the guy to make the first contact or does it all depend on the person and the date? Guys you can share your experiences too but this question is targeted at the women.
alphamale Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 whether or not thet want to go out again i find that most girls want the dude to call after teh 1st date
Angel1111 Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 As a general question how often do you make contact after the first date? Never. The guy must show interest first by calling after the first date.
Greenpeacer Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 (edited) Well the date can tel you if she gives you the long glances or laughs etc... Try sending a Short email. then wait for the response. If she doesn't in a week, try another one. then move on. After I meet her the first time, I dont call anymore bec it sounds desperate. If she emails me then Ill call her Edited February 1, 2010 by Greenpeacer
Angel1111 Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 Forget the email. You need to pick up the phone and call her. If you wait too long, she'll think you're either playing games or not interested in her. What's the big deal with this, anyway? Are you afraid to contact her for some reason? Surely you're not waiting for her to call you...?
Green Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 As a guy I feel its my duty to get things rolling and do most of the chasing in the begining.
homersheineken Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 What do you consider the appropriate time to wait after a 1st date to call?
alphamale Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 What do you consider the appropriate time to wait after a 1st date to call? 2 to 3 days homersheineken
D-Lish Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 I never contact a guy after a first date. As a guy, if you are truly into someone, you should let them know you had a good time the following day. The truth is, the longer you wait, the more disinterested a girl will become (if she has self respect). If a guy waits 3 days to call me, I assume he's following rules... It can be a turn off.
skydiveaddict Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 2 to 3 days homersheineken Alpha, stay out of this . He is askinig the Ladies
homersheineken Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 2 to 3 days homersheineken yeah I've found most success there. Sometimes I'll wait up to week and that works.
homersheineken Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 I never contact a guy after a first date. As a guy, if you are truly into someone, you should let them know you had a good time the following day. The truth is, the longer you wait, the more disinterested a girl will become (if she has self respect). If a guy waits 3 days to call me, I assume he's following rules... It can be a turn off. Funny, a lot of girls are turned off by the next day call.
jms76 Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 XM, I normally initiate contact after the first date and normally wait a couple days before calling. However, after my most recent first date, the girl called me two days later! I was surprised but glad she called. Glad because I was actually going to call her later that evening. She just beat me to the punch. I also let her know that I was going to call because I wanted her to feel good about her choice to call me. It also showed me that this girl has initiative and knows what she wants. To me, that's attractive. On the flip side, I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman calling after a first date. Society views this as a woman being desperate and unattractive because this role is normally filled by the man. I say BS. It's a whole new ballgame and there's no reason for a girl not to call a guy just because of what society thinks.
Author xXMarlboro_ManXx Posted February 1, 2010 Author Posted February 1, 2010 Are you afraid to contact her for some reason? Surely you're not waiting for her to call you...? No I'm just speaking hypothetically for the most part.
DiscoChick Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 I never contact a guy after a first date. As a guy, if you are truly into someone, you should let them know you had a good time the following day. The truth is, the longer you wait, the more disinterested a girl will become (if she has self respect). If a guy waits 3 days to call me, I assume he's following rules... It can be a turn off. Yes. I agree with this woman.
Kristine Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 It's up to the man to make the initial phone calls. I don't call him until later in the dating process or by request (as in call me when you get home so I know you made it safely).
D-Lish Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 Funny, a lot of girls are turned off by the next day call. For me, it can be a call, or a text, e-mail, just a simple "I had a good time" will suffice. You don't have to set up a second date at this time- just an acknowledgement you enjoyed the date. Bottom line is, if a girl isn't into you- when you call won't matter. If a girl IS into you, she'll appreciate it. A confident guy isn't concerned with playing by dating rules, and that sets him apart from other guys in my view. A girl that respects herself isn't going to date a guy that calls her a week later.
A_guy Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 I enjoy the chase as a guy. I always thought calling too soon just made you seem desperate. Operative word being 'seem'.
Johnny M Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 I never contact a guy after a first date. As a guy, if you are truly into someone, you should let them know you had a good time the following day. The truth is, the longer you wait, the more disinterested a girl will become (if she has self respect). I don't buy into the whole "it's the man's job to call" theory. If the girl is interested, she is just as capable of picking up the phone and calling the guy up. The generally accepted rule, at least among the people I know, is that the person who was asked out on the first date (the invitee) has the responsibility of making the follow up call. So if the girl asked the guy out, he follows up with a call. Conversely, if the guy asked the girl out, it is incumbent upon her to make the call. This is fair because the person who did the initial asking out had already put himself/herself out on a limb. It's not fair to make the same person do it twice.
D-Lish Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 I enjoy the chase as a guy. I always thought calling too soon just made you seem desperate. Operative word being 'seem'. I can see where you are coming from- but most guys I have gone out with will shoot a quick text after a date asking if I got home okay, or saying they had fun. I appreciate it. If a guy goes overboard, asking me out for the following night or gushing too much, then yes, it comes off as needy. In my eyes, a follow up call or text shows me they are confident and not into playing games. I'm already starting to write them off by day 3. I do a lot of online dating- so a date is usually preceded by daily contact. If we have the date and he is silent for 3 days or more, I assume there is no interest and continue on with other prospects.
threebyfate Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 I've always relied on the man to make all the moves and contact, during the dating process.
bac Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 never. except, when i was a newbie a long time ago.
SadandConfusedWA Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 I want a guy to call first. I enjoy getting a text or a call the next day. But with each passing day that he doesn't call, my interest decreases about linearly. Typically, after day 4 - he is a goner. If you had a good date and want to keep the good feeling going, call the next day.
SadandConfusedWA Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 BTW, calling the next day is far from desparate. It shows that you are interested and we girls like that. But say calling 5 times the next day would be considered desparate.
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