Nikki Sahagin Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 LEARN FROM ME! As soon as you're dumped; as soon as you've gotten your things back, have perhaps had a conversation explaining and reaffirming a few things if possible and if needed, then go NC. Its such a tricky thing. Do you avoid contacting them but reply if they do? How much do you say? How little do you say? My ex broke up with me last May but has been dragging the hell out of our breakup up until now. I was about to go NC with him when he beat me to the finish line and insisted upon it...THEN got back in touch to explain he would always be mad at me and had to get it off his chest. He gets back in touch a few days later to write an email saying he doesn't want to speak often at all so that he can get over me but still painting me as the villain saying how its because of the things i've done and when I bring up all the things he's done, he wont be held to them and disapears. I'm sick of the pain, sick of the agony, sick of the tears, the games; loving someone that can do so much damage to me. I know it sounds dramatic but sometimes I really do feel traumatised by him and the way he started to treat me but I LET HIM. Please be strong & don't talk to them. They aren't worth the mental and emotional damage. Start again with someone knew who you don't have all that horrific history with!
GrayClouds Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 Hang in there Nikki, you may have had a slow start, but your getting there, your figuring it out.
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