broncosfrk83 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 I was sitting here thinking today about my ex and came across something. How do you know if you can really take them back IF they do come back? I mean how are you for sure the did there time to think and they seriously feel like they made a mistake by leaving you. How are you suppose to know if the only reason they realize they want you back is because they found no one else or anything better? Can you trust them again? How soon before they bail on you? With my past ex I broke up with her and then after a week I had realized what i had messed up and truly wanted her back. I was in my first year of college and i didnt know if i wanted a relationship or to be single. A week without her was miserable, i asked her out to dinner and we had a nice conversation and were back together. I know this is not the case now because its been a month since she left me. I dont really believe in the whole if they left you then you should NEVER take them back. Because i did it and i truly learned from it. Is there a way to truly know that someone loves u more than anything and that they want to be with u because its what they want deep down? I mean yea sure she could plead and say everything i want to hear, but is it the truth and could things ever work? I still wonder everyday about her and wish that she would show back up wanting me back, but idk if i would take her back. I love her soo much and i care deeply about her, she was my best friend and i want her in my life but i just dont ever feel she will want me the way i will want her and idk if i could ever just want her as just a friend. Theres just too many different cases and to many "what if's".
LoveOrb Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 I'm simply concentrating on myself as much as possible. Many of the things I have decided to improve about myself ARE directly related to things I personally messed up in the relationship. But many of them aren't as well. My plan of attack is to do everything I can to make myself a better person than before, and not only do it, but keep to it. If and/or when I see her/decide to get in contact with her, I will be prepared for the worst answer but be in the best possible position to show her that I have changed and we can start over anew. I'm not waiting around to see if she's thinking of me, wondering about what I'm doing, care about what I'm doing. I know she's not in almost all those cases. I'm improving myself as much as possible, as fast as possible (mainly to show myself I can do it fast, not for her). I will eventually attempt a rekindling of relations with her. If she makes it clear to me that it won't happen at that time, I'll move on. Easier said than done, but I'm not giving up on myself, and I'm damn sure not giving up on her. Did I even answer the question? I guess what I'm trying to say is, don't wait around wondering if your ex will take you back and if you think you can take him/her back when it happens. Improve on your faults and show your ex that you are a better person worthy of a second/third/whatever chance. If it doesn't work, move on and find someone who likes the new you. Oh and trust me, I'm not over my ex by a long shot, alot of the things I do even for myself have her in the back of my mind pushing me along.
David V. Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 How do you know if you really can take them back? My extensive research tells me that only when you can really let go of them as well, if you have to.
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