dance511 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 I seriously messed up my relationship but my boyfriend is still willing to give me a chance. I just don't know how to fix things and need advice. My boyfriend and I have been on and off for a couple of years now. Well in between one of our break-ups I started dating a new guy and actually moved away for the summer with him. Well things didn't work out b/c I was still into my current boyfriend and this guy just wasn't him. I came back home and started dating my current boyfriend again but didn't tell him that I moved in and away with another man. I lied to him about it and told him I lived with my cousin. I didn't tell him until recently about all of this. I actually didn't tell him until I was a 12 weeks pregnant with my current boyfriends child. Also at this time I told him that I had been talking to another guy for the first part of our recent relationship. We tried to have an abortion but he couldn't walk me into the clinic. Our relationship is really messed up now but i'm 16 weeks pregnant and very emotional. He tells me I need to manage him and make things alright but I don't know how to do this. I messed up bad and don't know how to fix it. The relationship is so bad right now that he doesn't even believe that it is his child. It definitely is. I tend to shut down emotionally and he wants me to talk to him and make everything alright. He constantly asks me why I did the things i did and I don't have an answer for him. I feel it's because he broke up with me about 3 times just when i thought things were going well. I went from seeing him one day a week and on the weekends to now living with him and having a baby. We are both unsure about the baby just b/c we are so unsure of our relationship now. I need to step up and rebuild that trust that I took away and I don't know how to do this. He is still willing to give me a chance if I can make things better. I need help making them better.
David V. Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 Your argument can easily that the upcoming baby is and will be your final and ultimate proof of loyalty to him and him alone. And, is not it, really?
Author dance511 Posted February 1, 2010 Author Posted February 1, 2010 I tried to tell him about the baby and that is proof of my loyalty to him but he doesn't want to hear it. He wants constant reassurance about my feelings for him and I try to tell him I'm having your baby and wanted this for us that should make him feel special. Right? As of now I'm 4 months pregnant and it sucks. I get no support from him and it sucks b/c I may only get one pregnancy in my lifetime.
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