hoggy522 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 Hey im new here, was recommended by a friend to this site. My ex dumped me after 4 years of being happily together, she dumped me on our 4th year annerversary date too. Basically she's left me for an internet love interest, a far away love interest (my ex lives in UK, the love interest in America). My ex met her off a forum she used (a forum for social anxiety sufferers), she added this person on msn and began chatting to them, she then broke up with me saying she didnt love me anymore and that shes been feeling like this for a year!!!! BUT showed NO signs of falling out of love with me, either shes lying or shes a very good actress! 2 weeks after our break-up (i was still in contact with her) she told me that the American loves her....How can anyone fall in love that quick?! Also the American had sent her a txt saying something like 'Im fine with whatever living arragements you want in the future' - okay wtf?! (sorry). Since been in contact with my ex, my ex has continued to hold me, try to kiss me then decides she cant and instead kisses me on the cheek, holds long eye contact with me until one of us has to look away cos its that intense. My ex also showed me txt msgs from the American (why would she do that?!) and some of the txt msgs i read sound really possesive saying that they dont want her to be in contact with me, its too soon blah blah blah, basically the American sees me as a threat. My ex once said to the American 'If you meet my ex you will see they are no threat at all' -The American was making out like i am the worst enemy here and that i have physically assaulted them or something. On friday my ex came round to my house and as soon as she got through my door she burst into tears and fell into my arms, i was hoping it was about me but it was about her dad humiliating her in front of relatives she has hardly seen, we sat down and i continued holding her and telling her to ignore him, The American sent a txt and my ex let me read it for some reason and the American put 'I thought i had your word, you said you wouldnt go round there, so yah im hurt!' - i thought this was a bit weird seeing as thought they have never met each other, it sounded like they where a couple! My ex then sent a txt back saying 'It turns out i need him as much as he needs me, im very upset atm, you wouldnt understand' The American txt back and put 'Im off work today so i got all day to chat/talk, try me' My ex went on msn and when i went into the room for my cup i caught a glimpse of the conversation and the American put 'Wish i could hold you' and my ex put back 'me too' - when 5 mins ago she was in MY arms!!!! Sorry this is a long post, i just want to get it all off my chest cos i just cant get my head round how quickly my ex has moved on from me, but is still intimate with me - but if i question her about the intimacy she always says 'It doesnt mean i wanna get back with you!!!' BTW, My ex is 20 years old and has been in 2 relationships, The American is 29 years old - if i didnt know the age i would of thought they were around 20 aswell, the American seems very immature with the 'love you's' and the 'hugs' in txts.... It Was the American that was hitting on my ex, being pushy, i once told the American that my ex still kissed me - they got extreemly upset but soon forgave her and was been more 'all loved up' for her, my ex once said 'lets just be friends, take it slow untill we meet each other in person' The American had seemed to ignore that and kept on with the romance bull! My ex also letting it go on. I just dont understand why my ex is still intimate with me and i know we both are still in love with each other - ive tried begging for her back but all i got in return was 'you desperate git' and she was just being mad at me. Also yesterday i went to Leeds with her and there was a mirror and she pulled me next to her with her arm round me and went 'We look good together dont we' - why do that if we are not together?! This is my first day of No contact, i feel its best as i hate been stringed along, it hurts me too much, but even after i told her last night that i wanted some space she txt me today thanking me for a wonderful day yesterday. If i continue being there for her i am basically holding her hand through this break-up making it more easier for her to move on whilst im still hurt, and plus she wont miss me at all if im always there and wont have time alone to think what shes put me through and how shes hurt me by being intimate with me but still wanting the other person. What do you think of all this crap? BTW....The American has booked flights and a place to stay for coming in March, so im like
ginyi1111 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 Aaah seems like she is all infatuated with the American and you are the comfy pillow that she has gotten so used to.... Doesnt it hurt you to see her so smitten with the other dude? What are you doing still hanging around her? She broke up with you, lied to you for a year...get away from her! You deserve someone honest and respectful towards you in a relationship, not someone that treats you like a doormat.
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