BreakingUpIsCrap Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 Today I received a very explicit message asking for me back. The background is that she left back in Sept, and has been basically impossible to talk to since then. I put in NC 31 days ago, which i broke 10 days ago to deal with some horrific issues that I found out about her. then today I receive a message that basically says that perhaps the love we had for each other can transcend all issues we've had. Please note, she has claimed, and I have proof that she was with someone else, albeit long distance. My wise friends, advice please. She hurt me deeply, and a large part of me has more or less moved on without her, and I've spent the last 4 weeks, just weaning myself off all the good things that she did for me.
malc Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 You are so much better then this, she left you to be with someone else, under no circumstances, go back, do not let her come back to you if she put you as second best. Why undo the four weeks you have spent getting your head together again, just so she can have you back, decide your not for her somewhere else down the line, then break up with you again. Dont do it my friend, she isnt the only girl around. There are so many nice girls out there, one that will not treat you as a 3rd class act.
Catseye8 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 If I'm remembering right, wasn't this the woman you thought might well have untreated BPD? Because if she does, all the love in the world won't transcend that issue.
Simon Attwood Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 If I'm remembering right, wasn't this the woman you thought might well have untreated BPD? Because if she does, all the love in the world won't transcend that issue. It won't transcend it, but it can manage it.
Author BreakingUpIsCrap Posted January 31, 2010 Author Posted January 31, 2010 If I'm remembering right, wasn't this the woman you thought might well have untreated BPD? Because if she does, all the love in the world won't transcend that issue. Your memory serves you well, I have since gone into BPD research overdrive, and it seems like everyone of the men posting has dated my ex! The experience is so similar. Thanks for being a straight shooter, I'm just amazed that she could send me such and open and explicit message. Thought she'd at best sneak up on me, if getting back together is what she wanted.
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