Jimmy87 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 I got dumped by my girl just after new years, we had been together for 3 and a half years, we did break up once before only to get back together after about 3 or 4 months but this time is different and I know its not going to work out for us, I know she's not "the one" we argued alot, she used to drive me crazy! but I LOVED her, and this ****ing hurts like hell, its been a month and she is constantly on my mind, the day after she told me it was over she tried to smooth things out but I refused and just let it go....yet im still devastated, the thought of her with another guy sickens me, I don't know what id do, ive been going to the local gym, hanging out with my friends, ive even got another girl ive took on a few dates before, I could go and **** her but im not sure whether to do it or not, Im not sure its fair on the girl and if it doesn't help me whats the point? Ive deleted all emails thrown away all cards gifts I have no means of contacting her yet she is still on my mind all the ****ing time, Its driving me crazy!!!
jwork313 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 you are doing the right thing. I did just the opposite of what you did and it ruined the next 6 months of my life. Stick to your guns and don't have any contact. put yourself first. it might still be painful now, but in a few months you will be happy you have remained out of contact. it will make you a stronger person. had i known then what i know now, I would have cut my ex out of my life cold turkey the moment she dumped me. hang in there!
Author Jimmy87 Posted January 31, 2010 Author Posted January 31, 2010 Ill try but its taking every bit of will power I have not to contact her, I still love her, the only way of getting a message to her is through facebook, even though I don't have her as a friend you can still send PM's to that person, I did this last time we broke up, I came home drunk last night and I was so close to just messaging her, she told me 3 weeks ago she didn't want us to be over, I didn't do anything about it then.....but now its killing me. I will eventually bump into her on a night out as we go out the same places sometimes, if she's with another guy it will kill me!! Do you think I should pursue this other girl?? she's a nice girl and it could help me take my mind off of things.
jwork313 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 on facebook you can go to her profile and click on block/report this person. Doing that will block the person. Do it! you are doing the right thing by not contacting her. it will only make you stronger. If i could go back, after I was dumped i would have started dating right away. it lets you know there are many many many many more women out there. Go for it!
Author Jimmy87 Posted March 26, 2010 Author Posted March 26, 2010 Its now been almost three months.....im with that other girl now and she is with anoher guy, she trie phoning me about a month back but I ignored it...I still love her and think about her all the time, I havent spoken to her in 2 months, I wonder what could have been all day and im so tempted just to send her a message even if its just for her to tell me theres no way in hell. I drove past her on the street today and my heart nearly jumped out of my chest, she looked great, it even looks like she has lost a bit of weight and we awkwardly gave eachother a wave. She's so stubborn, she's with guy who I know is somebody she doesn't like that way, he's just a retaliation to my relationship, the guy she goes out with is a work collegue of hers but I used to tease her about him and she said with sincerity she thought he was ugly and stuff... Do you guys this I should risk contacting her? I know she still feels something for me, you can'[t just turn it off, but I also know she is almost certain not to even talk to me or give it another chance...weve tried twice before after all. How can I stop thinking of her?!?!?! this has been the worst year of my life!!!!!!!
Rearden Metal Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 Take a deep breath bud. Don't contact her. Especially if you're still with someone. Give the one you're with an honest effort, or be single. Good luck, stay strong!
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