confused1989 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 Hi, I'm 20 and been going out with a 19 year old for about 6 months. Over this time we've gotten really close, I feel like we've been together much longer. I was the catch in the beginning, I let her chase me and chase me she did. She was the first to use the "L" word, and has said a lot of other strong things that I try not to let go to my head. Things like "I can't imagine my life without you" "I want to spend the rest of my life with you". and things like that. She calls this "unconditional love, something I've never felt before". Anyway, for the most part things have been good. She seems real into me and usually takes every chance she can get to see me. I have a few issues with her, one being that shes a bar fiend, and sometimes it isn't always easy to have some alone time with just me and her. Another thing is that she often demands sex, the first couple of times I was real nervous and didn't perform too well because she was so demanding about it. I wasn't comfortable and I'll admit I wasn't very sexually active up until this point (only had 1 girlfriend with whom I had sex with). However, she's only ever had one boyfriend too. The way she goes about sex makes me fear it and in turn there is frustration caused by it. It's gotten to the point where I've seeked out medical help to see if there's anything physically wrong with my manhood. I care about her so much and I'm trying to do whatever I can to make her happier. The past 3 or 4 days she hasn't been herself. She hasn't shown much affection toward me, or showed much interest in seeing me or talking to me. This all started after she demanded sex with no foreplay and got frustrated when I said no because she rarely wants to ease into sex, just wants me to get turned on like a light switch and go at it. She tells me she doesn't feel appreciated enough. She really wanted me to take a trip overseas with her and I busted my a$$ to make it happen so I could have the money to go. She seemed into me, so why not? I love to travel so I figured it'd be a good opportunity. So now I don't know what to do. I help her cook, I help her with schoolwork when needed, I always offer to help her in some way. I'm ALWAYS there for her emotionally, if there's ever any problem I'm the first one there to want to help her. Shes vegetarian, I'm interested in taking a cooking class so I can cook more of her type of food. I'm not vegetarian but I respect her views. I've been trying to keep the conversation up on text, but she lets it die out quickly. I don't want to be clingy so I stop texting. If I give her space, she may get used to it / think even more that I don't appreciate her and call it off. I have NO IDEA what to do. I have a feeling if I request a phone call , or a place to meet up , she'll shoot it down. Obviously, she's doubting me which goes against everything else she's shown me up to this point. I really can't imagine being without her, we haven't had barely any arguements at all and it kills me to think that the one time when things are bad, shes considering calling the relationship off. Any advice? I've been a nervous wreck with no idea how much to contact her / whether I should be at all.
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