Post your "working on me" acheivements.

[dietpepsi]

There's a lot of gloom round these parts, so post what you've been able to accomplish in your "working on yourself" phase, and maybe give a little hope and positivity to those who have fresh seperations, or maybe just aren't there yet.

 

I'll start-

 

I've lost 45 lbs in the last 5 months, i exercise regularly and maintain a healthy diet these days! I have an all new wardrobe, I feel so confident in my appearance these days, and I feel better than i ever have before, smoking is next on the list! (I started back after my breakup, arg)

[curiousnycgirl]

WOW 45 pounds - I'm a stress eater, thankfully I haven't gained but I certainly haven't lost any of the weight I put on when I quit smoking and the relationship turned bad.

 

I got a new dog (pictured in my avatar) - he's wonderful.

 

That's about it so far. Need to work on controlling my food intake!

[JoJola]

I am freshly on the dumped list..two weeks ago and still hearbroken but trying to heal with:

 

Starting to volunteer my time at a local womens shelter; thought maybe helping others would help me.

 

Also, joined a meetup group for beginner skiers...learn how to ski and make new friends.

[Tasha1675]

My ex broke up with me over three months ago and when it happened, I moved out of the flat we shared, left my job and moved back to my home town to start my life again. When it happened, I felt like my world had come crashing down, I felt lost, suddenly I had nothing, I spent days and weeks crying, not eating, not sleeping and feeling like 'what's the point'.

 

When I look back to those dark days now, I can't believe how far I have come; I have a whole new life. After a couple of weeks of utter misery I started to pick myself up. I started thinking about what sort of work I would really like to do - so I decided to apply to go back to university. I started volunteering with people who have suffered strokes and I also volunteer at a nursing home with people who have dementia. I have a fantastic new job working with autistic children and all this experience will hopefully get me a place at university to study Speech therapy. I am also studying an A Level in English. I see my friends and family all the time now too (where I was living with the ex I had no friends or family around me).

 

Although the volunteering should help me get into uni, it also has helped to take my mind off things and has made me feel so good to do something for other people. I am quite shy as well and I really had to force myself to combat my shyness and meet loads of new people.

 

So, over 3 months on and I am certainly not over my ex, I am positive that I will always love him dearly but I am almost thankful that our break up happened as I have grown so much in the last few months (sounds so corny but it's so true). I know that my ex is miserable without me (he told a friend of mine that he is having a bad time a few weeks ago and that he still loves me) and I feel like he is living the same crappy life and I have come a long way and found myself a much better one. It is sad that I am not with him but I know that whatever happens in he future, I have become a much better person for the break up and I feel much happier with so much of my life which I hadn't felt in years, literally!

 

So, for everyone out there hurting so much, I know how you feel, believe me but try to do something new now you have the opportunity, even if you really can't face it, force yourself to. Start a new hobby, learn something new, anything! See your friends and family as much as you can too and talk about how your feeling, moan, cry, shout! Post it all on here! In the long run, it will benefit you and you will get through this.

 

I hope I can tell my ex one day about all the wonderful things I am now doing as I know how very proud he will be, but if I never do get the chance to because he is too busy seeing what else is out there, well then it's his loss!

[Reading Machine]

Its almost been seven months since she left me. Everything happened to me at once. I was laid off from my job of eleven years on April 21,2009. My Mother passed away from her thirteen year battle with breast cancer on June 11, 2009. My new bride left me thirty one days after we married.

 

I am a very presistant person! After drowning in shame, grief and disappointment, I realized it was time to put on my BIG BOY PANTS.

 

I started volunteering with the Catholic Charities as a senior partner. This is where I befreind an elderly person in my city and do whatever they need. I met a wonderful couple who are in their seventies. The treat me like their son and I have benefitted greatly from their wisdom and love.

 

Afer being unemployed and broke, I got a job with Prodigy Payment Systems as an account executive. Then, I decided to finish my PhD in Psychology. I applied and was excepted by Capella University. I am in my third week of classes.

 

I have to focus on me. I have big dreams and I am very passionate about life and my accomplishments.

 

After watching Denzel Washington in "The Book of Eli", I have come to understand that if I have faith in my creator and myself everything else will take care of itself in time. I never quiet thinking that I would eventually get back on my feet.

 

It has been hell dealing with all these set backs, but I have made it and I will not accept any woman in my life that does not love me 100%. I respect myself entirely to much to settle for anything less.

Edited January 31, 2010 by Reading Machine

[dietpepsi]

great stories guys and gals

[CaliGuy]

(In relation to the woman that brought me here 5 years ago)

 

Hmmm I've gained all the weight I lost back (and then some haha). I was down to 140lbs at one time and am now up to a healthy 170. Fit a trim and looking F-I-N-E if I don't say so myself.

 

New career, new city, new place to live by the beach.

 

Possibly a new band thing going on.

 

Lots of traveling, vacationing, etc.

 

May be moving to Europe somewhere if I can find a job over there.

 

I don't know what she is up to or doing and the best part is, I haven't cared for a very a long time.

 

Life is beautiful and I am enjoying it to the fullest. Lots of dates and hanging out with friends, lots of reading, watching movies, playing Golf, etc. No more racing but that was a money-sink anyway.

 

No, I still haven't met Ms Right so far, but at this point I am happy single so there's no real rush!

[Silver_star]

Ive lost weight due to more excercise and running (great stress relief) and I am just 3 months shy of earning my business degree. Yay!

[nobmagnet]

I am HAPPY. Sold my house on saturday and house hunting for my new pad.I am gonna have money in the back too for the first time in my life. My kids are happy too massive bonus. I feel free and excited for my future

Life is good. Im gonna travel ( havent had a holiday in 7 years.) I have Mr USA coming over in 2 weeks for 10 days............so excited. I seemed to have turned the corner as far as Lowley is concerend.

 

my life is gonna be great. Im ,loving being single. Life couldnt be better.

 

 

Nobby xxxxxxx

[gaudi]

Much respect to READING MACHINE, you really do sound like someone who's been through it and is determined to come out the other side. A lesson for us all there.

 

I'm throwing myself into learning 2 new languages.

And I'm planning the trip of a lifetime, 6 months in South East Asia.

 

No stopping me......watch this space.

[sunrae]

Ive read a gazillion self help books, started going to the gym, and feel much better about myself...

[thepulse27]

I love this thread! thank you.

 

I'm back playing football, bit rusty but it's all coming back.

 

Started playing the piano again, should have done this a long time ago.

 

Gym every morning, looking better than ever, and it's only gonna get better.

 

And when I find the time I'm gonna learn to speak French. Or Spanish, I'm not sure yet.

 

Managing to see my friends whenever possible, including some old ones.

 

Realising that I'm going to grow from this, something can't be all bad if you learn this much.

 

 

Still think about her constantly, but hey, it was four years, and that kind of habit dies hard. Besides I've got some pretty special stuff coming up.

 

Everyone keep 'em coming, it's uplifting to hear all this.

[Reading Machine]

Much respect to READING MACHINE, you really do sound like someone who's been through it and is determined to come out the other side. A lesson for us all there.

 

I'm throwing myself into learning 2 new languages.

And I'm planning the trip of a lifetime, 6 months in South East Asia.

 

No stopping me......watch this space.

 

Thank you. Guess who called me last night wanting to start working things out. Those BIG BOY PANTS are the trick. I want to tell everyone a few things. Never give up on yourself! Believe that you can accomplish anything. Believe that you deserve the best and God will help you find your way. I absolutely never for one minute thought I would not survive. You have to tell yourself that nothing is impossible. We have seen the Berlin wall crumble, the Atlanta Braves go from worst to first. You have to beleive without any doubt at all.

[sally4sara]

I've been all about making changes within myself in the last 4 years.

 

First was being more assertive about what I would and wouldn't put up with in relationships instead of feeling like I had no say.

Then I got out of my hometown of 27 years.

Next was withdrawing from toxic associations that I felt were holding me back.

Reading more non-fiction.

Not allowing organized religion to dictate my life anymore.

I took up cycling.

I quit smoking about a year and a half ago.

I won't stay in a job that consumes my life and comes home with me.

I got serious about sewing.

And recently I took up P90X. It is a love/hate thing but it is working well.

[Toki]

lets see, recently got a six month job working for the gum'mint in Southwest Asia. Can't tell you what that is, since it's a breach of contract. Suffice it to say, I'll be coming home with a good chunk of change in about 7 months.

[skydiveaddict]

finally, finally! i think i'm starting to get over her. big accomplishment, for me anyway

Edited February 3, 2010 by skydiveaddict

[OOReeee]

I know this is an OOOLLLDDD post but I was reading through these ones and it just looked to positive so I thought I'd share.

 

Over the month I've been heartbroken, despite being highly depressed at times I:

1. lost 15lbs

2. started working out regularly (I actually have a legit 6-pack)

3. started writing a whole lot more

4. rearranged my room

5. Going to volunteers and do community work all spring break long

6. decided I will follow my dream to move to New York this summer

7. realized what I am looking for in a girl

8. got so much love and support from family and friends I am so thankful for

 

So I still miss her for some unknown reason and still can't get her out of my head, but this month had so many amazing changes for me.

Now I just wish the misery will go away.

Edited March 11, 2010 by OOReeee

[Kristine]

Well I just started a diet, that I had been putting off. Hopefully I get the results I desire. I'm also working towards my bachelor degree but that was in progress before the break up. My fantasy is lose weight run into him and have him wish he was still with me, but I'll be with my new boyfriend instead. We broke up Tuesday.

[abdellost]

Well Thing is when i was with my Ex, i used to go to the gym 5 times a week for 2 years straight. ran 3 times a week. Read a lot of books and such and such. I was doing good. When she broke up with me, i didnt go to the gym for a few weeks, stopped eating completely and lost everything: there goes 30 pounds of muscle ( I have a problem when i feel stressed i dont eat and my body weight drops way to quick). so now i am back to the gym, this girl been helping me get through all this. ii been talking to her for 3 weeks now and she seems to be by my side with everything. She makes me feel that i am worth something. So i am going back to my old ways it seems and apparently this is me "working on myself" =). thanks for the support everyone

[thehypemachine]

Next week I'm going round my mates, he has two weeks off work so were gunna spend it writing an E.P. I can get it recorded at college professionally for free so that's even better! Then we plan to do a couple of shows and stuff. I've always wanted to be in a band, so plucking up the courage to actually get of my ***** and do it feels massive to me!

[justaguy123]

Started swimming again and working out more. I have lost weight and i feel better about my body. I started dance lessons to meet new people and have made new friends and caught up with old ones. Started to read a lot about helping myself and getting happier about my life. I am feeling more proud about myself and know that life goes on and you can make the best of it, you just have to try.

[sad_dude]

I love your post Reading Machine ... brilliant attitude .. just wanted to say bravo!!! I hope your post inspires others that however bad things maybe never give up on yourself. If you don't believe yourself no one else will... well done again buddy