JoJola Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 I would like to ask if what I am feeling is normal; Its been a week since my bf stopped talking to me...just stopped communicating at all. I have been going through a tough time; my mother was diagnosed with cancer and has less than 1 year to live. Since September I have lost two grandmothers, a cousin, and a good friend...so there has been alot of death around me. With all of this I became very insecure with the guy I have been dating for 6/7 months. So, a 2 weeks ago i sent him some IM that explained how I was feeling; I kinda felt he was ignoring me...well aparently his duaghter read them and since then he will not communicate with me at all; now i have told him that if he doesnt want to see me jst say so...but i get silence. Now, how do you get over this type of breakup; I cant get him off my mind, morning, day, night..he is everywhere. I mean there is no closure, he wont even give me my belongings back..I feel as if I am obsessed with this! I am honestly going crazy; wanting him back; feeling depressed; thinking of ways i can get him to talk to me; praying for him to come back...Is this normal? I mean I am a 40 yr. old woman and this is not the fist breakup ive had....but maybe the worst? Anyone have suggestions as to what i can do to ease this pain.
Leia Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 I am sorry for those you have lost. Losing someone to death is never easy. I lost an aunt a couple of years ago and recently, my cousin passed away. I am still coping. I think the best thing to do right now is to spend as much time as you can with your mother. If I were your boyfriend, I would offer my shoulder or myself to help you out with all that you're going through right now. Spend time with your mother, maybe that will help ease the pain of not hearing from your boyfriend.
Author JoJola Posted January 31, 2010 Author Posted January 31, 2010 (edited) how do you get over this type of breakup; I cant get him off my mind, morning, day, night..he is everywhere. I mean there is no closure, he wont even give me my belongings back..I feel as if I am obsessed with this! I am honestly going crazy; wanting him back; feeling depressed; thinking of ways i can get him to talk to me; praying for him to come back...Is this normal? I mean I am a 40 yr. old woman and this is not the fist breakup ive had....but maybe the worst? Anyone have suggestions as to what i can do to ease this pain. Yes, i agree; however is this normal to be so obsessed with these all these feelings over him. I feel like i am going crazy with all these thoughts and I cant get them to stop....I have been in a few long term relationships and I have never felt like this. Edited January 31, 2010 by JoJola change wording
ginyi1111 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 What was the reason for him ignoring you in the first place? Shouldnt a man that loves you would want to be there for you in times of need and stress when you need support the most??
Author JoJola Posted January 31, 2010 Author Posted January 31, 2010 He was upset about the IM I sent him cause his daughter read them...or mabye that is an excuse. All he told me was that was Not Kool and he wished I would have called.. ok, so it upset him I get that .. I apologized and commented on how I was feeling about my mom..he has not responed back at all? I sent him another text asking him why he was ignoring me...and if he didnt want to speak to me jst say so and I would walk away. I mena Im not a stalker or anything. He does have my bracelet that my mom gave me and i would like that back. I was clear about not talking to me..but he cant answer that question or tell me to go away which is so easy since he can do it by text..I dont care. He also a hard time dealing with emotions so I dont know. If he does not want contact with me just say it, give me my stuff and we can be done and Ill move on...but now I feel Im in limbo..afraid he will pop back into my life
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