carlito Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 (edited) i dunno where to start... but ik i feel like s**t me nd my girl or ex now... had been together for 2 nd a half years.... nd just before christmas... she said 'i love you... but im not in love with you' i went so cold and all of a sudden empty. wed made so many plans together nd i was gonna work hard nd give her everything she wanted... even tho she said shes not intrested in money just my love. wed planned a future.. getting married, haveing kids... nd now its all over. we got back together in the new year after she came back from scotland seeing her grandparents.. we were together for like a week or two... nd she sent me a text breaking up again. i feel so hurt and... used.... she told me i was hot... but she also told me other things which she broke... so now i dont believe anything she told me... nd... even tho some othrs have said im hot... i dont feel i am nd im too shy to find another girl... im clueless but i still love her... i hate me for still loveing her... i hate every last bit of me because i do.. nd then i found out that... shes been seeing another guy... who i think is hotter than me.... nd... i just wanna die... i hate myself. yesterday she asked me to have a talk after her exams... in two weeks... why i dont know... if its over... its over... why does she like dragging me thru everything again and again. she said she wants to be friends but... i... i cant... i cant be her friend... not when shes hurt me nd i still love her like hell. lastnight i tried to kill myself... whata looser i am.... i couldnt even to that right... i took loadsa sleeping pills... tonight... i might try cutting my wrists shes driven me insane and... i just cant escape this hurt... i never let her down not once in the relationship... but she managed to let me down time and time over. please... if anyone my age knows what im going thru of has the magic key to get over this then please im begging you... thanks for listening D= Edited January 31, 2010 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Tony T Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 The dating process is supposed to work precisely this way. If you can't handle it, then stop dating and confirm yourself single forever. We date in order to find the right person for us. If the person isn't right, either we leave them or they leave us. That's just the way it's supposed to work. I'm very sorry you're sad. However, to try to kill yourself because a process is working exactly as it's supposed to is like trying to kill yourself because cows give milk. Cows are supposed to give milk...and breaking up is supposed to feel sad. We are all human! Sure, it's sad and emotionally we go through some tough times. This happens to EVERYBODY. However, most people have figured out what the deal will be ahead of time and they are willing to take the risk for love. If you think you can get through all this without a little heartbreak here and there you are sadly mistaken. The great thing is that most people ultimately find the love of their lives and that makes all the bullshxt we have to go through to get to that point worth the while.
Catseye8 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 lastnight i tried to kill myself... whata looser i am.... i couldnt even to that right... i took loadsa sleeping pills... tonight... i might try cutting my wrists The most important thing right now is that you TALK TO SOMEONE about this. Parents, friends, any adults in your life you can trust, somebody. Let them look out for you. Do this first. As for the rest of it... there isn't a magic key to get over this, but the good news is that you will get over this. Give yourself time, and you'll heal. You won't always feel the way you do now. Some things to remind yourself: - Don't blame yourself for how you feel. Hating yourself for loving her isn't fair to you; you didn't do anything wrong. - It's perfectly normal to feel like every other guy in the world must be better-looking than you. It's still incorrect. And you'll get over that, too. - You don't have to be her friend, and you're perfectly within your rights to tell her that. - Don't worry about finding another girl just yet, but do know that you're perfectly capable of being with someone in the future. And that it's going to be great.
Pentel Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 The most important thing right now is that you TALK TO SOMEONE about this. Parents, friends, any adults in your life you can trust, somebody. Let them look out for you. Do this first. As for the rest of it... there isn't a magic key to get over this, but the good news is that you will get over this. Give yourself time, and you'll heal. You won't always feel the way you do now. Some things to remind yourself: - Don't blame yourself for how you feel. Hating yourself for loving her isn't fair to you; you didn't do anything wrong. - It's perfectly normal to feel like every other guy in the world must be better-looking than you. It's still incorrect. And you'll get over that, too. - You don't have to be her friend, and you're perfectly within your rights to tell her that. - Don't worry about finding another girl just yet, but do know that you're perfectly capable of being with someone in the future. And that it's going to be great. i second this, i you WILL feel better, i know it's hard right now, but believe me and a lot of people in this site when we say it will be better, stay strong
GrayClouds Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 It hurts, it hurts like hell. And it will but it will also get better. This is where you need to talk to friends and family. Read the follow it will make it easier, not easy, but easier: The No Contact Guide So you want a second chance? Keep posting.
Green Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 First off if you think it will help tell your family about what you are going through. There might also be people who work at your school who can help like a counslor. Your not alone many teens feel this way when breaking up. This number is open 24 hours a day and free if you need some one to talk with 1-800-422-4453
DenverBachelor Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 Hey little brother, I know what you're going through feels like the end of the world and that you don't have anyone who knows you better than she does -- but read this very carefully. You need to put the pills down and stop thinking about suicide and here is why ... You're about to have a whole lot of fun adventures and you WILL meet another woman soon, but you have to be tough for yourself. If you hurt yourself, you're going to make a lot of women in your future very unhappy that they didn't get to know what a great little brother you are to me. I know you aren't really my little brother, but I had two of them and not only did I have to go through what you are, I had to watch THEM go through it. You better post again.
health Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 Tony T, I feel your advice is a little harsh for a 15 year old. That's not necessarily how the dating process should go. Once and while one can experience a major loss. carlito - that girl you were with didn't sound like a good character and you deserve way better! Take walks, read and be good to yourself. Learn to love yourself at this age. Trust me. If I learned to love and respect myself at 15, I would be at a better place than I am now. Treat yourself well. You don't need a girl like that. You will have fun and great adventures in your life. Ignore her completely. Know it will take time too. I'm almost 30 and have gone through a 5 year relationship break up. Over 1 year later it still scares me at times. Then life comes together and all is well again.
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