LostInLimbo Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 (edited) I could really use feedback on my current/past issues, I have made many posts here in the past yr about my own relationship as well as answered but..... I have/had a relationship for the past 4 yrs with the same girl and her 2 young kids (she doesn't have custody) , I am 40 she is 32 in the 4yrs she has walked out on me 4 times, cheated on me twice and just recently has moved out again 3 weeks ago, no word from her. When we got back together the last time (4th Time), I left a girl I had met in the summer and treated me like gold, as opposed to the one I had been with, what brought me back was the fact it seemed like my ex had missed me and treated me like a human and I also missed the kids,now im not sure if it was because she knew I was seeing someone or not. Are get back together the 4th time felt right, she moved back in with me still never charged her rent, nor asked her to pay any bills and nor did she offer in the 4 months, when 2 months after being back together, I seen her profile on a dating site, I asked her, she told me she was only looking at her friends profile, I believed her, so 4 months into being back together, thats when she told me in a text message she was moving out and its not something she planned, she did ask me to drop her things off, which I refused as I told her I didn't want her to go, she then followed that by I was a effing idiot, cuz I told her I felt she had planned all this, she did come by when I wasn't home to pick her things up off the porch. Sorry for the long description, my question is, I use to say why do girls always go back to the guys who treat them like crap, but yet now I can't answer why I kept going back (tiny part of me still would want to go back), when knowing I was treated terrible, with the verbal abuse, cheating, lieing and hanging up on me many many times. I have re united with the one I left in the summer and taking it slow. Could use some feedback LiL Edited January 30, 2010 by LostInLimbo
DiscoChick Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Because of love and that overwhelming hope that fills our mind with unrealistic optimism. I'm glad you're done with that relationship. You deserve better. Good luck with the new girl.
GrayClouds Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 Buy and read the book "No More Mr Nice Guy" it could give you some insight into your behaviors.
Author LostInLimbo Posted January 31, 2010 Author Posted January 31, 2010 (edited) Buy and read the book "No More Mr Nice Guy" it could give you some insight into your behaviors. Thanks GC. is that by Doctor Robert Glover?, if so, I went to his website and did the quiz, im not on the border of scoring that Im a nice guy, actually scored Higher that says I got it bad... (great) As I go over things time and time again, I think what bothers me that I can't shake is, in which im sure I will soon enough is, I felt I did all I could do, now im on the outside again for the 4th time and someone maybe taking my place with her and the kids. Thats Life I guess.... LiL Edited January 31, 2010 by LostInLimbo Added More
GrayClouds Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 (edited) Thanks GC. is that by Doctor Robert Glover?, if so, I went to his website and did the quiz, im not on the border of scoring that Im a nice guy, actually scored Higher that says I got it bad... (great) As I go over things time and time again, I think what bothers me that I can't shake is, in which im sure I will soon enough is, I felt I did all I could do, now im on the outside again for the 4th time and someone maybe taking my place with her and the kids. Thats Life I guess.... LiL You did more then you should have, and knowing that you would do even more a creature like that will never appreciate it, she will use it and abuse it, but not appreciate it. The good news is that you do not need to prove your worth loving, specially to someone who will never see it. Get the book. Start focusing on yourself and making you strong. Take heart the guy who wrote these was a major "Nice Guy" too: The No Contact Guide So you want a second chance? And do what they say it will help. Edited February 1, 2010 by GrayClouds
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