EM47 Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I am always reading here that online dating sucks, and especially sucks for men because they often outnumber women on many sites with 5-1 men-women ratio but here are some points to consider... 1. There are in fact quite a few quality women that use online dating. If you ask women why they tried online dating, the answer will usually be either a) I got sick of the bar scene or b) one of my friends tried it and has success with it 2. Even though men outnumber women...most of the men on the sites are huge losers. I like to think of it as a game...you are competing with other men and you simply have to be better than them. But the good news is that you are not even competing with the best men. 2 reasons for this...a) many of them will already be in relationships and b) most of the top "quality" men will not use online dating because either they have enough women in their life already or they feel above using online dating. The ironic part is that if they tried online dating, they could often have their pick of any girls on the sites so be thankful that most will not use it. less competition for you. So for the guys...the toughest competition is not even using online dating for the most part, so even though you have to be better than lots of guys to get the interest of women, it shouldn't be so tough because most of the guys you are competing against are losers.
bayouboi Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I don't want to give a blanket opinion, but from what I've seen (at least in my area) it seems like a place for losers of both sexes. Browsing you mostly find a) obese women, b) women with multiple children who are looking for a meal ticket, c) obese women with multiple children who are looking for a supersized meal ticket. So while you're not competing AGAINST the best of the best, you're also not competing FOR the best of the best.
meerkat stew Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I don't think online dating men are losers, just that they aren't smart in how they approach women or in using the site. For example, when seeing my friends do online dating, they may live in Georgia, and are 40, but for some reason they start searching and sending Emails to 22 y.o. women in D.C. Will tell them to search locally, and they will for a minute while you're around, then next time you talk to them and ask how the online dating is going, they say, "Well, I've been talking to this girl in Idaho..." :lmao: Could list several more examples, equally stupid, but you get the idea.
canadaman111 Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I have just started using online dating. I have met a great girl that lives just 15 minutes from my house. We have chatted a lot and might soon be going to meet. I really care about her and want to move slow though. So my first experience with online dating has been very positive so far.
BobSacamento Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 It is true. A lot of the men on those websites are creepers. Pretty much all the women I've meet up with through the sites were very excited to meet a normal guy and told me this. However, this can also have negative effects. Sometimes the women will come on way to strong when they find a normal guy haha.
meerkat stew Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Sometimes the women will come on way to strong when they find a normal guy haha. This is true, thank goodness for all the weirdos online, both the crazy men -and- the crazy women will get you laid. The men chase women to you, and the crazy women are the ones doing most of the "laying." When is "National Personality Disorder Appreciation Day?" If there's not one we should start it up.
Awesome Username Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Yeeee, sounds like online dating sites are full of creepos if girls are that excited to meet a normal guy!
randall Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 (edited) I have a friend who tried a dating site last year. He's very funny, cool and confident but he's never bothered to find a girlfriend because he does so many extra-curricular activities. He's also an engineer earning very good money. He's pretty good looking but when he setup his profile with a normal portrait picture he got no interest from women. Some of us decided to have some fun and we swapped his portrait photo with one of him topless after he'd gone swimming. He is very well built -- has a six pack and is very muscular. Within a day he was getting dozens of messages from women. He probably averaged more than 30 messages a day for the next two weeks until he decided to get together with one of the hotter girls who contacted him. My friends and I thought it was really funny how many messages he got once he had the photo showing his six pack up. The difference was unbelievable. Edited January 30, 2010 by randall
meerkat stew Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 My friends and I thought it was really funny how many messages he got once he had the photo showing his six pack up. The difference was unbelievable. I bet women with the bikini pics get some ginormous mail volume. The quality of pictures is extremely important for men, had one up for over a year and a woman told me it was a bad picture and didn't look like me. She picked one that I liked less, but after putting it up, my results improved fast, but not like you describe. Maybe time for some two a day gym sessions
Johnny M Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 2. Even though men outnumber women...most of the men on the sites are huge losers. Unfortunately, the same is also true of most women on online dating sites. In order to find one decent chick, you have to sort through literally dozens of women who are ugly, crazy, emotionally unstable, flaky, retarded, insecure, spoiled goods, attention whores or all of the above. Online dating gives you the illusion of choice, but in reality it's slim pickings.
Crazy Magnet Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 it worked for my bf obviously. He's normal. Well, he's my version of normal anyway.
Sith Apprentice Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 Attractive high quality women that are emotionally and financially secure receive plenty of offers offline and don't need online dating. From my personal experience most women you'll find online are low quality single mom's, fat chicks, on welfare, attention whores etc. On some of these sites there's like a 10 to 1 ratio of men to women which makes contacting women on these sites a waste of time in my opinion.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 Attractive high quality women that are emotionally and financially secure receive plenty of offers offline and don't need online dating. From my personal experience most women you'll find online are low quality single mom's, fat chicks, on welfare, attention whores etc. On some of these sites there's like a 10 to 1 ratio of men to women which makes contacting women on these sites a waste of time in my opinion. I know man! Judging by your "credentials" it seems like all you do is contact them on match.com... what a waste of money. Name: ? Girl #560 How I got her: "She likes koreans... kekeke" How she got out: she doesn't play Starcraft kekek
Sith Apprentice Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 Match.com isn't too bad. Plentyoffish.com is the worst of them all. I created a facebook page too a little while ago, but so far I'm not getting much with it. 83. Alison How I got Her: Facebook, she sent me a friends request How she blew out: Deceptive photos, she only posted a close up face shot lived in another city 45 minutes away. I'm not driving 45 minutes for a heifer. 84. Renae How I got Her: Facebook, she sent me a friends request How she blew out: Deceptive photos, another heifer with only a close up face shot. Damnit!! I'm gonna start demanding full body pics from now on!
Pizzaman81 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 Match.com isn't too bad. Plentyoffish.com is the worst of them all. I created a facebook page too a little while ago, but so far I'm not getting much with it. 83. Alison How I got Her: Facebook, she sent me a friends request How she blew out: Deceptive photos, she only posted a close up face shot lived in another city 45 minutes away. I'm not driving 45 minutes for a heifer. 84. Renae How I got Her: Facebook, she sent me a friends request How she blew out: Deceptive photos, another heifer with only a close up face shot. Damnit!! I'm gonna start demanding full body pics from now on! Hmm i find it hard to believe anyone requests random friends on facebook. I am having trouble believing 5% of anything you say in this forum d00d
D-Jam Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 I think it depends on the site and who you are. Average schmuck who has no social skills...doesn't matter where you go. Professional who can write and speak well and isn't necessarily drop dead hot, but isn't ugly either...then more chance. Too many men and women get on these sites thinking they are hotter and "all that" than they really are. So the girl with a nice body and "eh" face will think she's Megan Fox on the site, while the nice guy with a big gut and Gap fashion sense will think he can get Megan Fox or someone like her. Free sites suck in my book. People who can't cough up money for a site have little to lose in a free site...so they'll be creepy and screwed up. I learned long ago the pay sites work better because any woman who is willing to shell out money per month for a site is serious. I just wish they would make things clearer who is a paying subscriber and who is a "free" account. At least for the paying members so they're not wasting their time.
greatgirlfriend Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 I don't know about Facebook since everyone who friends me is either someone I know, or someone I've spoken to online for years. I wouldn't accept some random guy friending me. Incidentally, the guy I am currently dating (an old friend) is someone I found on Facebook. I know all about the losers. I had a membership to Match.com and posted a full length photo of me. I was a model and workout all the time. I literally got thousands of responses and most didn't read my profile. I specifically requested no guys with kids, no obese and those with jobs and most didn't even fit this. I also got guys who didn't live anywhere near me (I am in the Chicago area) though I stated I wasn't interested in moving. Met a few guys and most were either married, thought after a random date we were committed (mind you these were brief get to know you dates), losers (I had a charming guy show up in dirty clothes and another who assumed I should pay for him) or guys I didn't connect with. I am done with online dating.
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