OceanTropic Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 Dont send the email. I'm sure she knows you support her 100%, she doesn't need constant reassurance. The last thing she wants is to hear from you, and I bet she half-expects it. Be silent until she reaches back out to you. Prove to her you can respect that she needs space, and she will love you even more for it.
Author creyente7 Posted January 31, 2010 Author Posted January 31, 2010 problem solved, she started talking to me today... seems like a normal day like we use to have.... but i should take it slow because i already got a warning from her friend... should i say sorry to her now for being a needy/selfish jerk?
Kamille Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 How will she know i changed if i dont explain to her that i realize myself as being clingy... She doesnt know that i know that i understand the problem now... Yes actions speak louder then words. You don't need to show her anything and you shouldn't let the fear of losing her be the reason you contact her. That first email sounds clingy to me: you write one sentence that's actually about her and then spend the rest talking about your issues - and then trivial details about your life. And now you are fretting about getting in touch with her. Go out! Go to the neighborhood pub, go out with friends, go for a run - just go do something that isn't about trying to make sure you don't lose her. Live your own life.
BG1985 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 (edited) Again, DO NOT APOLOGIZE TO HER! She knows you're sorry and she knows you're interested in her. Let her initiate for the time being. Let her apologize for being a bitch to you. Don't expect an apology, but if anything she should apologize. Things are not fully back to the way they were yet. You have to give this time if you want it to work. Edited January 31, 2010 by BG1985
Sharla Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 I don't see anywhere in your posts, that you did anything wrong so I don't think you need to apologize. If you had been rude, disrespectful or cruel in anyway, then yes. But nothing here, indicates that so the only thing you would be apologizing for, is caring about your girlfriend. And, that is not something anyone should have to apologize for.
Author creyente7 Posted January 31, 2010 Author Posted January 31, 2010 ok yea, i shouldnt say anything at all till she actually wants to hangout with me? should i make her miss me more? today when she chatted me, well i was actually away from my computer but i use my mobile phone for chatting on yahoo messenger. when she said "hey are you there?" i couldnt help my self, instead of the dont answer her till an hour after, i just got really excited and replied, but i ended the conversation anyways. and our conversation only lasted for like 10 minutes, that should keep it slow right? i know things arent going to be back the way it is for a while, but she thinks im mad at her, she keeps apologizing to me... and i dont want her to think that... or should i keep that thought to her head?
EM47 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 you are making this way too complicated,,,and also, are you 15 yrs old or something?
Author creyente7 Posted January 31, 2010 Author Posted January 31, 2010 no no, i just dont get girls, i want her to respond to me emotionally, because i want to keep her interested... im gonna stop being nice to her because she already knows im nice... im gonna make her keep guessing, and im 17 who lacks knowledge of relationships, sorry for the disturb
counterman Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 Yeah, this does seem more complicated then it needs to be. You have to be aloof man, not too excited. You have other things going for you, don't you? Well, just know that they could take up your time as well. Apologies...sometimes they're just empty words. If she is sorry for something she thought she may have did wrong, she would say it specifically to the point, instead of something like "sorry that I made you mad", and that's another story as well.
Kamille Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 People's responses to your actions are out of your control. You shouldn't, therefore, hope to get your girlfriend to respond to you emotionally. She either does or she doesn't. In relationships, it is important that you do things because you want to do them, not because you want your gf to respond to you in any particular way.
Author creyente7 Posted January 31, 2010 Author Posted January 31, 2010 she might know why im mad at her, but she couldnt tell me why, she goes "im sorry for whatever i did to make you mad" what a bitch, doesnt even know why im mad at her...
Sharla Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 You went from this: Because you are just so beautiful in every angle I look at you, whether its from the Inside or Out. To this: she might know why im mad at her, but she couldnt tell me why, she goes "im sorry for whatever i did to make you mad" what a bitch, doesnt even know why im mad at her... I'd summons that is why she is not emotionally responsive to you.
BG1985 Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 Just concentrate on your own life right now. Don't worry about your girlfriend. No need to call her a bitch. She may legitimately not even know that she's done anything wrong. And if she calls/sends a message, don't sit there by a clock counting until 10 or 15 minutes to respond. Just be busy and don't wait by the phone or computer. Don't let her affect what you do with your life.
SadandConfusedWA Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 No! do NOT apologize. Just go on with things like nothing has happened. She should be apologizing to you...
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