Tulips-n-Daisies Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 My Fiance and I have been together for 6 years and engaged for 6 months. He recently took his dream job in another state. He is in training currently for 7 months while I am at home until his training is complete. Here is the question. Last weekend he went out with 2 other guy friends and 2 other female friends that are at the training camp with him. They all got really drunk and him and another guy and the 2 girls slept in a hotel room across the street because they could not drive home. He told me that he slept in a bed with 1 of the other girls while his friend and the other girl hooked up in the bed next to them. He swears nothing happened with him and the other girl, but I am really upset about this. I am at home supporting him and his career 100% while he is sharing a bed with another female. Am I wrong for being upset, am I blowing this out of proportion? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks! I just think he is crossing serious relationship boundaries.
whichwayisup Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Yes, you have every right to be upset. HE put himself in a stupid situation where 'something could happen.' It may or may not have, the point is, those girls should have had their own room - OR the girls in one bed, guys in the other bed. Either way, it was stupid and wrong of him. Inappropriate. The ONLY good thing out of this is - Atleast he didn't drink and drive. Though, they could have taken a taxi. Talk to him, let him know how this has made you feel and why you're upset. Ask him HOW HE WOULD feel if you were out with another girl and 2 guys, then you crashed in bed with another man, all the meanwhile the other two "hooked up". My guess is he would be PISSED and be wondering if anything happened between you and the other guy.
FryFish Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Ya, be pissed as hell. THere is a good chance that something happened. It sux but its true. He should have been the "odd man out"... not the guy who DIDNT have to stay at the hotel...
Jeff1962 Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 You have every reason to be pissed. For me this behavior goes beyond trust. You just don't do this if you are in a committed relationship.
Natsumi Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 You are right to be upset. You have to talk to him and make sure that he understands why. He also needs to understand that he did something wrong, so instead of accepting his apologies make sure that he does. Will you trust him again? The choice is yours, you know him better than us. Is he capable of doing things like this again? If you are in a long distance relationship trust is key. Otherwise the time that he is away will be hell for both you.
HeyThere Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 The other posters here are pretty much saying the same thing. The story has a fishy smell and you feel what exactly?
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