borealis Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 My ex and I broke up a month ago, we went out for nearly a year. It was amicable, though done at a bad time and right before I was planning to visit him. He said that he needed time to grow up and he needed to focus on his studies. He wanted to stay friends, so I obliged, though I really would like to see a future with him. He contacts me every day and we talk for hours; he wants to spend time with me when he has less schoolwork and has a consistent schedule and says that we could have potential as a couple once we're out of college. Were we simply not meant to be a couple and are better off as friends? Currently, he says that I did nothing wrong in the relationship.
0hpenelope Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 My ex and I broke up a month ago, we went out for nearly a year. It was amicable, though done at a bad time and right before I was planning to visit him. He said that he needed time to grow up and he needed to focus on his studies. He wanted to stay friends, so I obliged, though I really would like to see a future with him. He contacts me every day and we talk for hours; he wants to spend time with me when he has less schoolwork and has a consistent schedule and says that we could have potential as a couple once we're out of college. Were we simply not meant to be a couple and are better off as friends? Currently, he says that I did nothing wrong in the relationship. Meant to be? I wouldn't use that. It sounds like it's just the timing that's off.
EM47 Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 ok, what he is doing is leading you on with the "maybe" stuff in the future. right now you are a doormat. he has all the say, he can't just break up and get together at his will and expect you to just wait for him. excuse the expression but grow some balls, live your life...try to meet someone INTERESTED in you now...not someone leading you on with potential false hope for some kind of future relationship that may or may not happen. if you still have feelings for him, which it is obvious you do, talking hours on the phone and staying friends is not a good thing. and the ironic part which no ones really sees at 1st is when you back away from him and live your life and meet new people, that will be when he will be more interested in you. and then at that point it will be YOUR choice if you even want him back in your life...not his. good luck.
Author borealis Posted February 2, 2010 Author Posted February 2, 2010 I'm still living my life. Nothing's changed. He was supposed to come with me to a party this weekend but didn't come because of work commitments but I went anyway. It's just very hard hearing "you're awesome, you're cute, you're funny and great to talk to, i don't think badly of you and i never did" but...I'm not special anymore. I keep blaming myself.
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