betamanlet Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 If there even is a female loser. I'm talking about losing in the dept. of interpersonal relations/dating. I'm not a 8th grade drop out with 4 convictions and a minimum wage job. I did well in high school, went to a top 25 college, and graduate law school in the top 5% of my class, was on law review, was published, and my publication as been cited in many law review articles, a treatise, and even a casebook. I have a job, not ideal, that pays low six figures.. I haven't been on a date in years. Haven't had sex in years. Have spent only 8 or so months of my 34 years in a relationship. So I would say, yes, i'm a loser in the interpersonal relations department. I know women who have absolutely no jobs, no degrees, and are constantly in relationships. They are not losers in that department.
Ellezz Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 well, you really need to get off here and go out on a date:p
Pizzaman81 Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 If there even is a female loser. I'm talking about losing in the dept. of interpersonal relations/dating. I'm not a 8th grade drop out with 4 convictions and a minimum wage job. I did well in high school, went to a top 25 college, and graduate law school in the top 5% of my class, was on law review, was published, and my publication as been cited in many law review articles, a treatise, and even a casebook. I have a job, not ideal, that pays low six figures.. I haven't been on a date in years. Haven't had sex in years. Have spent only 8 or so months of my 34 years in a relationship. So I would say, yes, i'm a loser in the interpersonal relations department. I know women who have absolutely no jobs, no degrees, and are constantly in relationships. They are not losers in that department. So then my friend... what is the issue? I too did good in high school, went to a good university in cali, got an engineering degree, and make low 6 figure salary working for one of the greatest company ever. Volunteer at homeless shelters, elementary schools, food bank. I am by no definition a convict (only offense was pulled over for broken taillight), and I am by no definition a "bad boy." I am however, think that I am confident and portray myself well in society. I've been in 3 relationships, last time I had sex was 4 months ago with my ex, get dates regularly. So how are we different?
DiscoChick Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I agree too. I'm a loser because I don't sleep around, wear fake nails, or tight skirts. I'm really considering moving. The guys here are so not cool. Also, I think I'd make more money in my field...
Zeegagge Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Nice summary of the other 908798045 threads that are just like this. We've tried the snap out of it, get it together, quit whining, everything! What do you want from us? I don't even think you're real honestly.
randall Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 What do you want from us? I don't even think you're real honestly. I agree. Is there any particular point to raising so many of these self-pity threads? By mid 30s most people have had relationships, even guys with far less education and income than you. This tells us all that your personal situation has more to do with you as an individual rather than the general male/female dynamic.
Explorer Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 (edited) If there even is a female loser. I'm talking about losing in the dept. of interpersonal relations/dating. I'm not a 8th grade drop out with 4 convictions and a minimum wage job. I did well in high school, went to a top 25 college, and graduate law school in the top 5% of my class, was on law review, was published, and my publication as been cited in many law review articles, a treatise, and even a casebook. I have a job, not ideal, that pays low six figures.. I haven't been on a date in years. Haven't had sex in years. Have spent only 8 or so months of my 34 years in a relationship. So I would say, yes, i'm a loser in the interpersonal relations department. I know women who have absolutely no jobs, no degrees, and are constantly in relationships. They are not losers in that department. What do you consider your ideal woman? What do you look like (i.e. height, body build, hair color, etc)? Rate your looks on a scale of 1-10. How do you think you come off in a date? i.e. dorky, goofy, funny, confident, arrogant, etc How often do you approach women? How do they react? What do you think is the cause of your relationship failure? Edited January 30, 2010 by Explorer
BobSacamento Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 How many women do you ask out in let's say a given year?
threebyfate Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Gender aside, IMO, a loser is someone who's constantly bemoaning his/her life, never seeing the good things, solely focusing on the negatives, never doing anything to change themselves. A loser can never be happy, no matter how much he/she's accomplished or has got, no matter what it is that they have. A loser always plays the victim, believing that it's [insert gender/race/society] fault. Refer to Karpman's drama triangle, in reference to being a victim.
DiscoChick Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Gender aside, IMO, a loser is someone who's constantly bemoaning his/her life, never seeing the good things, solely focusing on the negatives, never doing anything to change themselves. A loser can never be happy, no matter how much he/she's accomplished or has got, no matter what it is that they have. A loser always plays the victim, believing that it's [insert gender/race/society] fault. Refer to Karpman's drama triangle, in reference to being a victim. Yep! Sarcasm aside (from my original post), I haven't been able to fit this category in six years. Personal empowerment is a great thing!
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I agree with Bejita. The problem is your attitude. I offered you a possible date with a friend, Beta, and you made a joke out of it. So it's obvious to me that you aren't really interested in getting out of this rut - just want to complain about it. I guess once you get tired of complaining, you'll actually do something about it.
ella23 Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I'm pretty sure that the problem is that you are not asking enough women out because of the fear of getting rejected. I doubt it could be anything else.
counterman Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 That seems to be a major issue for many of my friends. Though, some will never admit the fear rejection and claim try to spin it other way by saying that they have never been rejected (because they are scared to ask girls out).
txsilkysmoothe Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 If there even is a female loser. I'm talking about losing in the dept. of interpersonal relations/dating. I'm not a 8th grade drop out with 4 convictions and a minimum wage job. I did well in high school, went to a top 25 college, and graduate law school in the top 5% of my class, was on law review, was published, and my publication as been cited in many law review articles, a treatise, and even a casebook. I have a job, not ideal, that pays low six figures.. I haven't been on a date in years. Haven't had sex in years. Have spent only 8 or so months of my 34 years in a relationship. So I would say, yes, i'm a loser in the interpersonal relations department. Believe it or not, you will find women to whom all the above applies as well. I know women who have absolutely no jobs, no degrees, and are constantly in relationships. They are not losers in that department. Yes, a series of failed relationships; must be in relationship to have a roof over their head; mentally void; I consider them losers in all departments. [/QU *************************
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