Brady_to_Moss Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 (edited) Never been in a relationship and i am a junior in college..i am just afraid there will be even less options when i get out of college...am i doomed? Dont think it helps that my college is 70% guys..30% girls. I only have a total of 20 girls in 6 of my classes....yep deff doomed lol Edited January 29, 2010 by Brady_to_Moss
OceanTropic Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 You're not doomed, you're just limited. 70% guys in your college? Yikes. Get out there!! Be social, you will for sure meet someone
DiscoChick Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 The university I attend, the chick/guy ratio is like... 60:40. I like looking at guys. They are all so beautiful in their own ways. hahaha I think you should look beyond campus, just like OT says.
Ellezz Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Never been in a relationship and i am a junior in college..i am just afraid there will be even less options when i get out of college...am i doomed? Dont think it helps that my college is 70% guys..30% girls. I only have a total of 20 girls in 6 of my classes....yep deff doomed lol Well you still have more than a year, long enough to get a girlfriend, you just have to go out and meet more girls, I'm sure you'll meet someone. My old college has 80% girls and 20% guys, yes it sucks...
betamanlet Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Never been in a relationship and i am a junior in college..i am just afraid there will be even less options when i get out of college...am i doomed? Dont think it helps that my college is 70% guys..30% girls. I only have a total of 20 girls in 6 of my classes....yep deff doomed lol I didn't have a "girlfriend" until I graduated law school. I wouldn't recommend it. It depends, if you get a job, you might be able to meet people at work... I did better at work than even in college or law school.
boogieboy Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Forget school, hit the bars and clubs for now, look up "Magic Bullets"...if youre clueless about how to talk to women.
Zeegagge Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I felt so doomed when I graduated college without a girlfriend but I met someone soon after and it was smooth sailing from there. Well, for a while.
Tinker Bell Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I would say try not to focus on getting a girlfriend too much. Just get yourself out there and have fun but no expectations. I can see that you are frustrated but you know what they say...you meet someone when you least expect it and its true. Try going to different places and see what happens. Don't force anything and try to enjoy your life.
start-fresh Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Well, you're worried for a good reason. I graduated last spring and my dating options have become seriously limited. Depending on how strenuous your job is, your routine will most likely go like this: wake up, go to work, go home, eat, sleep, repeat. You have to make conscious efforts to meet women. College is really the ideal place to meet a mate IMO. You have the opportunities to spend time with people casually without having the forced feeling of 'dates'. Everybody's poor so girls don't expect you to spend nearly as much money on them as they do once you're out. Plus, you'll never meet so many people your age in such a short time again. On the other hand, I went through some pretty depressing times last summer, trying to figure out what I really wanted to do for a career. I feel like I have a lot more direction in my life now and feel a lot more ready for a relationship. I think if I would have had to try to carry over a relationship from college right after graduation it would have imploded. Overall though, I wish I would have been a lot more proactive in college. That's really my only regret.
counterman Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Yeah, I would have thought that college would have been the ideal place to meet girls that are around your age but it is not the only place of course. Just join social clubs and the like and get your friends to hook you up. A lot of my friends are worried about that too, so they are planning on putting more effort into talking to girls and dating. I would tell them that if you're interested in a girl then go for it, who cares about rejection because, later on, when you feel that it is so much harder with no experience and you would not know how to approach situations.
Thebob Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Man I'm in the same boat. I have hooked up with a total of 6 girls in my whole life and had sex with 1 of them, but I have never been in a relationship. I should be in one but the distance killed it and it would have never worked and that happened last summer. Then recently this girl said she liked me and wanted to date me and give it a try but she changed her mind within 2 seconds of saying that. I am a junior in college, sophmore credit wise and I feel if I haven't gotten a girlfriend in 21 years, that I am doomed as well. I am not a bad looking guy at all, all my buddies say im like a 8.5 outta 10 when im goin out sometimes a 9 outta 10 but I cant seem to get a girlfriend. I keep finding these rich snobby girls that like me but it never goes farther than that. I have this problem that girls like me that Im not interested in but the girls im interested in aren't the right ones for me. I'm screwed, but whatever. Thebob
cognac Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Same here. I'm almost 100% sure I will graduate college without a girlfriend. In my opinion women are a lot harder to approach in college than they were in high school. I think maybe my height hurts my chances more in college too for some odd reason, maybe because high school kids are smaller. I remember in high school a lot of girls were attracted to me but I was so anti-social I didn't really care. Now in college no girls are attracted to me and I'm decently outgoing (but not in the loud fratboy kind of way) to the point where I'm not afraid to talk to women or hit on them. Just can't win
jdot Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 same exact boat as you guys, in particular the thebob, as I'm 6'4" and am told I am attractive, yet the only relationship I've ever been in was when I was a senior in highschool and that lasted for about a month. My main problem has been not recognizing when girls are interested, but I am getting better at deciphering this. The main thing is that even if you know you are looking to find a girlfriend, you cannot ever make it obvious to college girls that this is your intention. You have to just let it grow naturally.
virgin Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 same exact boat as you guys, in particular the thebob, as I'm 6'4" and am told I am attractive, yet the only relationship I've ever been in was when I was a senior in highschool and that lasted for about a month. My main problem has been not recognizing when girls are interested, but I am getting better at deciphering this. The main thing is that even if you know you are looking to find a girlfriend, you cannot ever make it obvious to college girls that this is your intention. You have to just let it grow naturally. Aspergers syndrome. Not a good prognosis on this one.
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