bekki10 Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Ive been chatting to this guy on a internet dating site and we have been getting on really well over the phone. Its been a month now and he wants us to meet up and im happy to but now im unsure because yesterday he went out on a date with another girl from the site. He had mentioned her before and told me that he had been chatting to both of us but i didnt expect him to go out on a date with her after all the nice things he had been saying to me. I told him yesterday that i was disaapointed that he had gone on a date and he said he thought i knew about it and apoligised for not explaining it to me properly. He said because we havnt met yet, we are just friends but he enjoys spking to me more then he did her and plus he thinks we have some chemistry there and he still wants to meet me. Hes a really nice guy, calls and texts me several times a day and says really sweet things but im not sure wether to just cut him off. I have been through alot with my ex boyfriend with girls on the internet and im worried he will turn out the same. advise me pls.
boogieboy Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 The reason he is dating other women is because it took a month to meet up with you. He knows if youre too scared to meet up with him sooner, that he couldnt cut off all the women who werent scared, as they might be a better fit. he's probably looking for something serious, and he wrote you off as someone who wasnt serious about him.
Author bekki10 Posted January 30, 2010 Author Posted January 30, 2010 we live in different cities and the only time we can meet is next month because he works alot. If we could have met b4 we would have and we speak everyday about the meet but this girl was from his city. I cant understand why he would go on the date with someone else. I didnt tell him that i couldnt meet him for a month. He chose the date because of his work.
boogieboy Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 we live in different cities and the only time we can meet is next month because he works alot. If we could have met b4 we would have and we speak everyday about the meet but this girl was from his city. I cant understand why he would go on the date with someone else. I didnt tell him that i couldnt meet him for a month. He chose the date because of his work. Shes more available to him because hes closer, but you cant understand why he would date her? Are you intentionally missing the obvious?
txsilkysmoothe Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 You've never met this man and your expectation is unreasonable. In fact, there is a good chance that he will date both of you and maybe others at the same time. You can't expect a man to be involved with only you until the two of you have agreed to exclusivity. Never assume.................
Angel1111 Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I also think you're being a little unrealistic. However, if he doesn't have the time to meet with you for that long and the two of you live in different states, is this really worth pursuing? It means that this will be a long-distance relationship and it doesn't sound as though you'll be able to trust him.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 You can't expect a guy you've never even met to be exclusive with you. Sorry. Especially with online dating. It's a numbers game. That's usually how it turns out - talking to and dating several from the site until one "clicks."
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