block3482 Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Hi. This is my situation. I got married to my wife a few months ago, and we have a great relationship. I love her, I know she loves me. However, I began talking to this girl at work out of nowhere and I can't stop thinking of her. She introduced herself to me and we started talking. I was not looking for a relationship at all, and a relationship doesn't even exist. I just feel incredibly guilty because I am always thinking of this girl and I have not actually told her I am married. We email a lot because we work in the same building. We don't flirt, but there is a ton of back and forth. I have not lied to her or anything, but I feel like I should tell her. But at the same time, I don't want to be like "Hey, I'm married". I can tell this new girl likes me, we get along really well. I think about her all the time, but I love my wife and I want our relationship. Ahh, ADVICE?! Do I need to just banish this new girl from my life because I think about her so much?!
JackJack Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Tell her you are married. Why wouldn't you? Because you are enjoying the attention she is providing for you right now? You've only been married to your wife for a few months and already thinking about another girl. Here is the deal with that, you either tell her you are married and stop with the emails, or you just risk losing your marriage, its whatever is most worth to you. BTW if you can't get this new girl out of you head and you don't want to stop emailing and she makes you feel special etc, , then do your wife a favor and divorce her, so she can move on and you can too.
blair08 Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 If you feel guilty like you say, then maybe that's trying to tell you something. Its not fair to this new girl to not tell her you're married and its not fair to your wife to be emailing this girl and thinking about her all the time. Make a choice on what you want to do. Living a double life or could be living one isn't the answer.
SuburbanOblivion Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Divorce your wife now, because if you don't cheat with this girl, you will with someone else. And yes, I am dead serious.
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