Dark_of_the_Moon Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 (edited) So why don't I feel better? Is it because I am so afraid that I will never feel passion again? I never felt it before, and no man has inspired it in me before or since....I know it has not been that long and I have not allowed myself to really be open again but. Is that it? Is that what I am afraid of? I dont want to die and never feel that again. He came back...His apology was full of lies...he said he wanted me back....I turned and walked away. It was the right choice I know. But, he was the only man who I felt this bond with. I see so many stories of people not finding love again for 10 or 20 years.....that makes my heart just sink. Edited January 29, 2010 by Dark_of_the_Moon
DenverBachelor Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 I see so many stories of people not finding love again for 10 or 20 years.....that makes my heart just sink. Yet so much better than being with someone for 10 or 20 years and thinking it was love.
cybersister Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 And there are loads who find love again quickly. decide that your heart has broken open , not closed and love will find you when the time is right.
curiousnycgirl Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 I see so many stories of people not finding love again for 10 or 20 years.....that makes my heart just sink. Really? I thought I was the only one who went so long between relationships, and that is because I am broken - not because of the situations! Most folks do rebound fairly quickly - and find that by bringing what they learned from their last relationships, they aer able to have even better ones. chin up - you will move on and find the next one. I do understand your fears, and it is hard to believe you will move on - but look around, everyone does! It's human nature.
sunrae Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 I see so many stories of people not finding love again for 10 or 20 years.....that makes my heart just sink. Most of those peoples hearts have been closed off and are not ready or willing to open themselves back up due to the fear of getting rejected or broken again. Not because they cant find it, because they are affraid to find it.
sedgwick Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 It was 12 years between my first true love and my second, but I did date a lot of people in there. And I know plenty of folks who seem to be passionate about someone new every couple of months. I think the latter is the norm, and I am the weirdo!!
Stanley Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 (edited) It was 12 years between my first true love and my second, but I did date a lot of people in there. And I know plenty of folks who seem to be passionate about someone new every couple of months. I think the latter is the norm, and I am the weirdo!! Hi sedgwick, I really don't mean to hijack this thread and I apologize for doing so (and I hope you don't take offense at me publicly addressing you like this), but I'm a lurker of this forum and was searching through some results for personality disorders and I saw some of your former posts which I found of particular interest, because I believe my girlfriend may (or may not) suffer from the same condition as you. I tried to PM you about this but apparently I am too new a member to have this privilege. Is there anyway we could discuss this matter in a setting more private than the forum? (I only ask this because you seemed to have an especially authoritative grasp on the matter) EDIT: I can post my email here if you are willing to continue the conversation through that. Edited January 29, 2010 by Stanley
silverplanets Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 I turned and walked away. It was the right choice I know. But, he was the only man who I felt this bond with. I'm trying to post something positive and I can't. I did the same last year and it just sucks. On one hand I KNOW I did the right thing and I am in a better place, on the other hand I have to live with the fact that I chose to say no to someone whom I would have stood side by side with until the end of time. In my heart I know I gave it every chance I could, and let them push it right to the end (and many times) before I finally said enough. Even ending it was my choice, I am still very sad. It was 10 years between my first true love and this second one. It's slighly easier this time because at least I know it IS possible to find it again in one lifetime. The first time around I didn't think I ever would ...
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