nyr81 Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Question for the ladies...So my second date with a girl ended with a passionate kiss. I invited her to make place for dinner on the third date. I really like this girl and would like to try to develop something here. Do you think she is expecting sex? Don't get me wrong, I would love that but I also want to try to build something longtime and don't want sex to ruin that. Thoughts?
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Whoa, Tiger. I certainly wasn't expecting sex on the third date with the guy I'm seeing, and we had made out for 30 mins on the second date. I think that taking it a *little* bit slower also makes it easier for something "longtime" to develop, if it's going to.
stevejohnson1976 Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Whoa, Tiger. I certainly wasn't expecting sex on the third date with the guy I'm seeing, and we had made out for 30 mins on the second date. I think that taking it a *little* bit slower also makes it easier for something "longtime" to develop, if it's going to. i think he is saying 'is she expecting sex?', not him. He is worried that by inviting her over he may have signaled to her that HE wants sex... you slow down a little tiger
Buttnutter100 Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Whatever you do, don't rub your nipples like Austin Powers.
Author nyr81 Posted January 29, 2010 Author Posted January 29, 2010 You mean the Austin Powers' charm won't work? lol..Its just I wonder if I'm moving it along too fast. I guess I'll find out soon enough
carhill Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 So, what are you going to cook? I ask because foreplay often happens in the kitchen.
alphamale Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 I invited her to make place for dinner on the third date. since she is coming to your crib she will be thinking that you want to get her in the sack. do not do this unless she initiates it. be a gentleman. have dinner and drinks. make out, etc.... but whatever you do, do not suggest sexual activity unless she is the one who wants to. she will be testing you throughout the evening. be wary oh and for gods sake make her something good to eat
carhill Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Yes, not the time for a new recipe, in more ways than one
hoping2heal Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Question for the ladies...So my second date with a girl ended with a passionate kiss. I invited her to make place for dinner on the third date. I really like this girl and would like to try to develop something here. Do you think she is expecting sex? Don't get me wrong, I would love that but I also want to try to build something longtime and don't want sex to ruin that. Thoughts? This isn't complicated. If she starts to go in for sex, tell her what you told us. That way she won't feel rejected, instead she'll be complimented if she is wanting the same.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Question for the ladies...So my second date with a girl ended with a passionate kiss. I invited her to make place for dinner on the third date. I really like this girl and would like to try to develop something here. Do you think she is expecting sex? Don't get me wrong, I would love that but I also want to try to build something longtime and don't want sex to ruin that. Thoughts? Tease her... then walk away... she will want you ten fold next time. Do not give it to her until 3 months later.
Author nyr81 Posted January 29, 2010 Author Posted January 29, 2010 I'm making chicken parm..can't go wrong with that lol. I was thinking along the lines of letting her make the move if she wants to. This meeting someone and dating is different for me. With my girlfriend from college, we knew each other for months and then it got serious. So this dating thing is unchartered waters in many ways.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 i think he is saying 'is she expecting sex?', not him. He is worried that by inviting her over he may have signaled to her that HE wants sex... you slow down a little tiger I understood the OP. I have pretty good reading comprehension - thanks, though, for your condescending tone. I am also female, so coming from a FEMALE's perspective, I was stating that I certainly wasn't expecting sex on the third date, I DOUBT that she is. Thanks for no help whatsoever, dude.
Vintage79 Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I've had more than enough women expect sex on a third date - heck, do just a cursory search online and it essentially says date 3 = sex. Basically, if she says she wants to head over to your place on date 3, it means she's likely open to sex, or at least considering it - if she was terrified by the notion, she would be prone to chosing a different destination than an intimate apartment, locked away from the rest of the world. Regardless, obviously don't force anything, but I think the "is she expecting sex" question is definitely a fair question to ask - my impression is that half of the women I've gone out with have expected/wanted sex on, or before date 3...that doesn't necessarily mean I gave it to them - teasing them can be just as much fun, but that's starting to diverge from the topic a bit.
Author nyr81 Posted January 30, 2010 Author Posted January 30, 2010 hey vintage..I understand exactly what you're saying. I think it is better to tease and let the sexual tension develop. Sex is the best when you wait to the point that you can't wait any longer.
Cinnamon Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I would assume that a girl would not want to have sex on the 3nd date unless she says you that she wants it.
meerkat stew Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I'm making chicken parm..can't go wrong with that lol. Spaghetti-Os, and Pop-Tarts for dessert, she will probably throw you a pity f*ck. Don't hold back, hit on her hard if you want her, let her be the one to slow things down. Don't jump her, don't even touch her until she touches, but flirt and charm her into the bed. Of course if you want to go slow, do that, but do what you want and you will find out what she wants, and hopefully you will be on the same page.
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