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[debzeppelin]

I innocently contacted a schoolmate on FB about a years old incident, because I thought he would know the real details. One thing led to another and we became friends. after he viewed my pics he wanted to become friends so we did. He is a caring person with alot on his plate, elderly parents, bad marriage etc. I too had issues, I am a widow. One thing lead to another and I could tell he was wooing me, we are both in our 50s, both lived the rock and roll lifestyle, love music lots in common. He was in the biz for years but after his marriage fell aprt came home and immersed himself in re sposibilities, which I found admirable. He could not tell me how beautiful I was enough, we were becoming good friends. Then made plans to meet at a show, dressed to the 9's I could not contact him, he had just gotten a new cell, but I finally did get him, pouring rain I went to his aid, he had over done it soaking wet I called a cab to get us to his house because I paniced for a flash he reminded me of my husband when I found him, and it frightened me. Not about to leave him, all I could think of was Hendrix, choking I just couldn't dump him in a cab, what if he would have died, over reaction from past trauma. Soaking wet and freezing he was going to pass out in wet clothes, I got him to change and he got me some warm clothes. Not knowing where linens were I slept with him, body heat nothinng happened obviously. So in 2 daYS HE CALLED TO APPOLIGISE, BUT TOLd ME HE NEEDED TIME TO REFLECT AND WANTED TO KEEP THE FRIENDSHIP CASUAL, i SAID FINE, BUT REMINDED HIM WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES, i REALLY LIKE HIM HE HAS A GOOD HEART. sO HE WROTE ME ON FB AND REPEATED HIS MANTRA CASUAL, WELL HAVING A TEMPER i WROTE BACK A PRETTY SCATHING REPLY, TOLD HIM HE OWED ME MONEY FOR A TiCKET AND A NEW JACKET. i was angry. It was like a brush off, which I am not used to, plus he had been the one at fault I had helped. I did not however tell him about the flashback of tragedy. He said give me your address and Ill send you the money, which ticked me too. Realizing I had let my Irish temper get me in trouble I wrote him and said it wasn't about money that he had hurt me. He replied, I need some time, I said cool, he said we can be casual friends for now. I wrote 1 more email to tell him about a movie about the rock business which was uplifting and hilarious. I told him even though at this time you hate my guts, you have to see this, I just had to tell you, it might uplift you. Im the kind of person I do not chase men, never had to, he has not called, thats been about 5 days. Silly as all this is, and even though we r in our 50s I felt 17. Goofy. I will never contact him again though, ever, besides people always want what they can't have. He has not blocked me on Fb nor I him. Which indicates I know he still looks at my "sexy' pics. His pic was an older pic. trust me. All I wanna know is what is his deal, is he mortified? This woman he wanted to do all these things with saw him at his worst? Is he embarrased to the point of never calling. I believe he will call. To me it is something we will laugh about later, or has he given me the blow off? Any ieas, guys? Men, it is driving me nuts.

[dietpepsi]

Is it possible he might be regretting thinking about overstepping the bounds of his marriage? Even if a marriage is bad, i wouldn't assume that it could go further, the "OD" night, you, that entire time, may have him thinking or realizing "what am i doing?" and he may have returned back to his married life. That may be why he needs some time, because he may not be sure if what he is doing feels right.

[debzeppelin]

hI PEPSI, THANKS FOR THE ADVICE, I FAILED TO MENTION, HE HAS BEEN DIVORCED MANY YEARS, LOL SORRY, SO ANY OTHER IDEAS?

[nobmagnet]

i have a penpal in USA he is coming over to stay for 10 days end of next month. I will let you know if the same happens to me!!!!!

 

I have known him for 11 years and it could go the same way. Maybe the "dream" and fantacy of you freaked him when it became real?

 

Nobby xx

[dietpepsi]

Ahh ok, well if he's divorced then, perhaps right now, he is associating you with a bad experience maybe? Maybe a little cool off time will help.

[debzeppelin]

Thanks Piep, for your real man reply, I was thinking the same thing. He isn't a man like some men, that cannot be a man, until a long think. I don't think it is over, today I could care less. This I do know about men, no offense, they ALWAYS want what they can't have, and I am a capricorn goat, and if he wants to play the waiting mind game, hes in for a long wait, and the biggest mistake he will make will be me waiting a long time, because by then another fish might swim by. What is sad is, though my intuition tells me he has a good heart. Que sera sera, anymore toughts you ponder will be much welcomed, and thank you for caring.You sir are a gentleman.

[debzeppelin]

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