imraan47 Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Hey guys. Ok so been a while since i posted on here but now after learning from my past here i am with this dilemma. ok so this girl is 6-7 yrs older than i am..totally a bombshell and as so far she has responded well in conversation and well if she didn't like me then she wouldn't really talk to me that much or invite me over. We haven't done much but talked about everything and anything at this point so ice is broken so to speak. Now its to a point that i'd consider dating her but not really sure because well we went out a few times and each time other guys in the bar or whatever really stare at us. i know she only likes my type of guys and in fact i noticed when we were leaving this bar another guy looked at her and gave her this huge smile which was so funny but not really i guess. as soon as we walk out she mentions that "oh did you see that guy how he smiled"...now being a guy how would you react to this? what if i was to date her and this happens even more..how would you go around and recover and get a good comeback.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Ahh. So she's getting an ego feed off of it. And it looks like you're feeling maybe a bit insecure at all the attention she's getting. Do NOT feed into this. Pretend it isn't happening (fake it till ya make it). When she asks if you saw the guy.... just say, "Oh? No, I didn't notice." And change the subject as if you are SO bored with that topic. Don't be snotty, but for instance, if somebody was going on and on, ad nauseum about their love for insects (and it's not your thing) - if you had any self-respect, you'd change the subject because you're bored. Value your own time.
Satisfaction Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 That was insensitive of her. Maybe she sees you as a friend so is just talking to you like normal? Otherwise it could be a really crazy way of telling you she is a desirable girl and hoping you are one of those guys who likes that. See if she keeps doing that and if it really winds you up you can ask her why she keeps doing that.
Author imraan47 Posted January 29, 2010 Author Posted January 29, 2010 Yea of course any guy would feel insecure in this circumstance unless he really doesn't care..either way i know i should not show it because that will drive her right off my sight. We have talked about possibly dating so she know that is something we can get to eventually and she is really looking for a relationship. When i asked her what she thought about me and where she see's this going, she said that we need more face to face time and get to know each other. At this point if she keeps inviting me over and talking to me every day online then i know she is interested in going further once we get to that level. Now i can see why she would think she is a really disireably girl and she really is, i know it and everyone that see's her knows it lol. She isn't also the average girl. Picture a tall (6'1") great physique, blond blue eyes. So me being only 5'7" gives this a kick but at time's i am also insecure about my height...which she really has no problem with.
Author imraan47 Posted January 29, 2010 Author Posted January 29, 2010 Ok here is another thing...what if like in this situation if it happens again and i make a rude comment to that guy or just say something to make him look stupid for saying that, would that be ok or will she preceive that as me being insecure so i had to say something to that guy? Also what if i was to leave and come back and some guy is talking with her...what is the best thing you can do in this case? I was thinking mor like introduce myself to him, firm handshake and this would keep me in her eyes as ok he really doesn't care and is social. Or should i say something to pretty much get rid of him there? Or i can even be so cleaver and just look at her and something out of the world like "ohhh you're on fire" and try to act cool and normal. IMPORTANT POINT: I know for a fact that she isn't attracted to anyone apart from my race, sexually and physically. So in that sense i should not even concern myself and just ignore it and play along...would this be a better idea?
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