broncosfrk83 Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 My ex girlfriend broke up with me a month ago and i have been having my ups and downs, but tonight is an all time low. I blocked her on facebook because she kept talking to me cause she want to be only friends. Then i saw my cousin on her profile and say that she had posted a new profile pic. She was all dressed slutty with her clevage showing and a sexy pose. She had totally different make up and everything. Im shaking im so upset. Why would she post that? I cant believe how after 3 years she is acting all slutty and is doing it just to make guys come to her....Idk how she is soo happy all of a sudden as is doing all this sexy stuff now since we broke up. Please guys i need serious help! I cant take this anymore....I want her back so badly...
GrayClouds Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Get off facebook it will drive you crazy. It sounds as if the person you loved is no longer the person she is so your wanting what you had not what she has become. Hang in there it does get easier, stick to NC.
Howitzer Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 You have to learn to view her as "not yours". I struggled with the same thoughts awhile back, but I realized that I was getting so upset because I saw my ex as still belonging to me. It's really upsetting to see your girlfriend slutting it up for other guys. But once you see her as someone else, it makes it much easier. I know it's hard to see her as this way right now, but do your best to try. Your thoughts affect your mood. Not the other way around. That being said, it does suck . I too feel your pain.
Morgued Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I'd have to agree with Howitzer's comment, you have to accept the fact that she is NOT yours anymore. I know you probably hate me saying that, but it's only too true. In a way i'm still going through the same thing you are right now. It's hard to HAVE to deal with it, but once you get ahold of yourself and truly convince yourself that she isn't yours anymore, you'll be that much closer to feeling better. My ex and I were together for three years (much like yourself and your ex) and after she finally decided she didn't want to come back, she immediately (ok about 1 month) went to Vegas to see somone else. She changed her profile picture to a more..."flashier" one, and posted comments about how much she looooooooooooved this new guy, and slapped up pictures of him and her together. Soon she apparently got bored of him and not a month after she came back to CA she flew off again to Wisconsin to see another guy, that she was also sooooooooooo in love with. Through this whole time, if I had kept my facebook/myspace account, I probably would have done something not so nice to myself. So trust me, she's not worth your heartache anymore. It's not fair to yourself, or her to hang on to something you believe to be 'yours' when it's not (though i'm kinda shoving my foot in my mouth here.). So do yourself a favor, either delete your myspace/facebook accounts (which I highly recommend) or stop signing on. Otherwise, you'll eventually find yourself either catching a picture of her on someone elses page, or end up "unconscionably" looking FOR HER. Things will get better, I promise. I made the mistake of letting myself get so bad that I stopped all contact with my friends, and moved out of state just so I wouldn't have to be reminded of her, but unfortunatly that didn't do anything. She still wanders in and out of my mind... Please don't let yourself go through that. Once you get down to it, it's really not worth all the BS you'll put yourself through. Goodluck bud.
Author broncosfrk83 Posted January 31, 2010 Author Posted January 31, 2010 (edited) Hey guys having kind of a rough day...Just need to vent and write some things out. I really miss her today for some reason. I dont know if i miss the idea of her or if i actually miss her. She had her problems and there were a bunch of things i wish she could change about how she is. But shes one of those types that is one way and you u try to bring her attention to it she gets pissed and turns it all back on u. Like she will bitch at her sister for being slutty but now she is, but of course to her shes not being "slutty". I do miss having someone to kiss and hold and someone to go out with, but i still cant imagine doing any of those things with someone besides her. Dont want a full blown relationship yet but it would be nice to meet a nice girl to take out that could show me that i dont need my ex to give me those needs i listed. It especially hurts because since the break up my ex has gone back to the way she use to be and is becoming the person i fell in love with. Shes going to the gym again and is being all happy and friendly. I mean for the last 6 months we were like zombies, thats both of our faults, she said we didnt get out enough but everytime i would ask she would say she was to tired. Now she goes out all the time!!! I have also started to find my old self and working on my health but she doesnt want me so it hurts that i want her and the person she is working to go back to and i know that in our relationship she wanted us to go back to the people we were before. I just cant figure out if i miss her? Or i miss us? I mean its really hard to not break NC when all we wanted when we were together was to be the people we use to be and now that we are apart we are becoming those, so it makes me want to conatct her and to see if it could work, even through all the pain she has caused. I would love to meet up with her and us both be changed and just to have her want me again like we did when we first started dating, but of course i kno if i talked to her or went out with her that i would get hurt and she wouldnt feel a thing. I just hate feeling lonely and still finding it hard to believe that someone will be all of what i loved about me and my ex and more. I try to get out and just look at other women to just get my mind off but none of them attract me like her. Shes not the most beautiful girl in the world but for some reason she is soo attractive. Seems like no one even compares. Doesnt help i was lucky in getting her to begin with. Sorry this is all so long but i just really needed to get this of my chest since it still feels like its eating me away. -It seems that the saying that says something like absence makes the heart grow founder, is working for me and not the ex....total backfire Edited January 31, 2010 by broncosfrk83
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