mimidarlin Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Well he is back for a day or so. I asked him to stay with me because we're having terrible ice storms and high risk of power outages. Last time we were without power for three days and other were without for two weeks. I didn't want to be stranded in this alone. Besides I'm the only one who is remotely prepared!!! Such a freaking caretaker. I miss him. I see him several times a week but I miss having him in the house. He's working in the office but his presence means a lot. Despite all of the damage he did to our relationship I love him and care for him. Just having him a room away helps to ease my anxiety. It is like "coming home" as they stupid line goes. He is making an effort and I have been very bitchy the last few days. I am trying to restrain myself but almost every comment comes out sounding hateful. I've been thinking a lot about my father and less about my marriage. I think my anxiety is stemming from the thoughts of my father but I am looking to my husband for attention...be it positive or negative. This is not a constructive approach. It will blow up in my face if I am not careful.
carhill Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Have you ever had someone "complete" you? Complete? No. Inspire? Yes. I'm already complete. Always looking for inspiration though. Based on your backstory, I would only continue with him, separated or together, with consistent counseling, with the goal to cohabit in a healthy way as soon as practical. It sounds like a lot more than his indiscretion is going on, and you've been traumatized with the deaths of two important men in your life. Whatever the outcome, IMO, the counseling will help.
FreeNow Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Complete? No. Inspire? Yes. I'm already complete. Always looking for inspiration though. ^^^ Perfect answer... a lot of wisdom! ^^^
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