Hi, I've been cheated on by every gf I have ever had

[betamanlet]

Apparently because I'm male, it must be my fault. So what did I do? I can only guess that I didn't provide enough excitement.

[ella23]

Well, depends on what happened in each case.

It may not have been your 'fault' at all btw.

[Woggle]

It is because women can't be trusted.

[laRubiaBonita]

faulty GF picking abilities would be my guess

[betamanlet]

faulty GF picking abilities would be my guess

 

 

So if you dated absuive men, I could say you had faulty BF picking abilities?

[xpaperxcutx]

I don't think you give yourself enough credit.

 

I really don't see how every girl you've dated cheated.

[ella23]

Maybe it's just bad luck.

Try to move on.

[Boundary Problem]

So if you dated absuive men, I could say you had faulty BF picking abilities?

 

 

This is pretty common. Women tend to either pick the "safe" option Mr. Boring but High Income, or they go for the "fun" option of Mr. Challenge.

 

Frankly neither will bring happiness.

 

I know Mr. Boring isn't an option for me. yawn.

I know Mr. Challenge is just going to do some horrendous emotional, physical or medical damage to me.

 

So I'm pondering women. Maybe women really are better in all things. Maybe me being a lesbian is the answer. Men have porn. Us women have each other.

 

I'm editing to add this - I know lots of women who wouldn't cheat on their man. They might be bitchy, but they won't cheat. Then there are the women that are bitches AND cheat. So good luck.

[laRubiaBonita]

So if you dated absuive men, I could say you had faulty BF picking abilities?

 

maybe... i would hope i would have learned what to look out for, but it is not that easy to spot right away.

 

cheating is similar, it's a violation of trust.

 

give us some examples of what lead up to the act of the cheat.... were you unaware that the girlfriend was not happy? did it totally blindside you?

 

also did you discover they cheated, or did they tell you?

[betamanlet]

I don't think you give yourself enough credit.

 

I really don't see how every girl you've dated cheated.

 

 

I've basically only had three girlfriends my entire life.

 

(1) dumped me on the spot for someone she just met

 

(2) went lesbian on me

 

(3) well she denies she cheated, but she was spending lots of time with her "best friend" who she admitted she had sex with before me, and after me..

 

And that's it.

[laRubiaBonita]

soooo.... no real proof, but #3 was a probably.

 

and currently how often are you going out or doing anything to improve your chances of just meeting someone? not dating- just meeting people?

 

you live near DC, so start going into the city... find a spot- a coffee shop, a bar, a museum, etc... and become a 'regular'.

[xpaperxcutx]

This is pretty common. Women tend to either pick the "safe" option Mr. Boring but High Income, or they go for the "fun" option of Mr. Challenge.

 

Frankly neither will bring happiness.

 

I know Mr. Boring isn't an option for me. yawn.

I know Mr. Challenge is just going to do some horrendous emotional, physical or medical damage to me.

 

So I'm pondering women. Maybe women really are better in all things. Maybe me being a lesbian is the answer. Men have porn. Us women have each other.

 

I'm editing to add this - I know lots of women who wouldn't cheat on their man. They might be bitchy, but they won't cheat. Then there are the women that are bitches AND cheat. So good luck.

 

I went lesbian a while back. On the date, I didn't know whether to act as the female or male.

[xpaperxcutx]

I've basically only had three girlfriends my entire life.

 

(1) dumped me on the spot for someone she just met

 

(2) went lesbian on me

 

(3) well she denies she cheated, but she was spending lots of time with her "best friend" who she admitted she had sex with before me, and after me..

 

And that's it.

 

So B, you're 35 and you've only had 3 " serious" relationships. I think you need to get out more.

 

And turn into another OpenGL, because for all I know you don't fit the type to completely go ballistic if you got rejected.

 

Time to find your kitties a babysitter while you go out hunting.

[BlueeyedJonesy]

Sit down and make a list of things about your parents 10 things positive...10 things negative. Recognize the similarity in the traits they have and your GF's have. We sometimes pick people by what we know. My dad was a cheater but had a great sense of humor. My mom is strong but controlling..guess what?!? Every guy I've ever dated had all of those qualities and they ALL cheated, you have to break the cycle.

[BlueeyedJonesy]

It is because women can't be trusted.

 

Not true woggle.

[xpaperxcutx]

EDIT: I meant to write " don't turn into another OpenGL"

[pyroguy]

Apparently because I'm male, it must be my fault. So what did I do? I can only guess that I didn't provide enough excitement.

 

 

Well, welcome to the modern world. Yes, women are cheating in droves..then again, so are men. I think men and women are not meant to be together anymore.

 

I can only suggest the following to you:

1) be a man. want women, don't need them

2) Be attentive, charming, romantic etc., but don't ever be a doormat

3) Have high standards and don't accept behavior that you don't like-move on. This includes cheating or even flirting excessively, or any other game playing. If you don't want it, don't accept-no 3 strike policy.

 

Be the boss of your own life, the master of your own soul.

[pyroguy]

This is pretty common. Women tend to either pick the "safe" option Mr. Boring but High Income, or they go for the "fun" option of Mr. Challenge.

 

Frankly neither will bring happiness.

 

I know Mr. Boring isn't an option for me. yawn.

I know Mr. Challenge is just going to do some horrendous emotional, physical or medical damage to me.

 

So I'm pondering women. Maybe women really are better in all things. Maybe me being a lesbian is the answer. Men have porn. Us women have each other.

 

I'm editing to add this - I know lots of women who wouldn't cheat on their man. They might be bitchy, but they won't cheat. Then there are the women that are bitches AND cheat. So good luck.

 

 

Yes, I agree. I think men and women should take a ten year break from eachother-relationship wise. everyone wants to f**k everyone else anyway. So, I'm a pessimist and think we should separate like little school children again.

 

If you go lesbian, please take pictures

[pyroguy]

[QUOTE=xpaperxcutx;2625910]I went lesbian a while back. On the date, I didn't know whether to act as the female or male.

 

What do you mean you turned lesbian awhile back? You are either a lesbian or you are not.

 

Anyway, I don't think the OP needs to be turning to men.

[laRubiaBonita]

Yes, I agree. I think men and women should take a ten year break from eachother-relationship wise. everyone wants to f**k everyone else anyway. So, I'm a pessimist and think we should separate like little school children again.

 

OR how about this.... People act like adults.

[Woggle]

I do often think that society would be better off if the genders were segregated. Of course we would have to deal withe ach other for reproduction but the girls can go to the female side of town and the boys can go to the male side of town.

[pyroguy]

OR how about this.... People act like adults.

 

 

Umm, I'm not sure that possible for many men and women anymore. I fear that it's too late. Pandora's box has been opened, and it's like Dante's inferno out there.

[Brady_to_Moss]

Not true woggle.

 

 

True about 90% of the time. Thats why i wont even bother trying to get beautiful women becasue why would they want an average guy like me when they can have some guy with muscle and money?

[betamanlet]

So B, you're 35 and you've only had 3 " serious" relationships. I think you need to get out more.

 

And turn into another OpenGL, because for all I know you don't fit the type to completely go ballistic if you got rejected.

 

Time to find your kitties a babysitter while you go out hunting.

 

 

Actually two of those "relationships" were only about 2 months old at the time I was dumped. That's the limit to my "experience"

[betamanlet]

[QUOTE=xpaperxcutx;2625910]I went lesbian a while back. On the date, I didn't know whether to act as the female or male.

 

What do you mean you turned lesbian awhile back? You are either a lesbian or you are not.

 

Anyway, I don't think the OP needs to be turning to men.

 

 

Nah, there are some women that go back and forth, thinking they are lesbians, then get into relationships with guys.. I know several. however the chick that dumped with me only shortly went with guys, and she's been with some chick for 4 years now.