Thebob Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 I feel like this is what it comes down to, in the eyes of the males. I'm prolly completely wrong or decently right, so don't hate on me toooo much. -If guys come off to emotional, then girls think were too needy -If we come off to quiet, then were considered creepy or something is wrong with him - If we call or text to much before exclusive dating, then were to needy again - Females can change their mind within 2 days and be like pff, I'm not interested anymore. - where is the even ground? I feel like guys are pressured so much by all these calling rules, texting rules, gaming girls, that girls are starting to think they want that perfect guy and never know when the perfect guy is actually standing in front of them and will treat them greater than they would have ever imagined. Thebob
stevejohnson1976 Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 I would love to know the answer here!!
Woggle Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Once men realize they are wrong no matter what with women they will be better off.
Patrice Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Pssssst - You haven't found the right girl yet Keep looking - no hard and fast rules apply.
Angel1111 Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 I like quiet guys. I really like it when a guy calls me the day after our date. But I don't like guys who are too emotional (although I'm not sure what your definition of that is). I don't know what the deal is with all these perceived rules. Just do what feels right to you. If women are that hung up on little things like that, then you're dating immature women. I would be more bothered if a guy took too long to call me than the other way around.
BG1985 Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 It all depends on a girl's interest in the guy. There's no need to ever be overly emotional with anyone except your therapist, if you have one. Just do whatever you're comfortable doing. Do you like it when girls call/text you all day? If you don't like it, then don't do it to other people. If you're typically not an overly emotional person, then don't become Mr. Sensitive around girls. Just be yourself and find the girl who's compatible with you in terms of communication and emotion.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 The problem is that the rules generalize too much. Every girl is different, and what appeals to some, does not appeal to others. I agree with Patrice, when you find the right girl ( and you're not too emotionally invested in chasing her) she'll return interests all on her own.
Satisfaction Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Just think of girls as highly expressive guys. You are not too needy if you text alot. What are you saying in these numerous texts? I don't think you should look at a girl and think that you can treat her better than any man can. You should be checking to be sure you can get along with her and you can make each other happy. Treating her well is standard.
soulm8 Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Pssssst - You haven't found the right girl yet Keep looking - no hard and fast rules apply. I totally agree with Patrice. Reciprocation and communication are key...
OceanTropic Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 What do you mean? A girl can do those things and she will be seen as needy and clingy too.
Crazy Magnet Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 What do you mean? A girl can do those things and she will be seen as needy and clingy too. Oh yeah. I've got a friend who takes the definition of needy and puts it on crack. But she is like that with everyone, including other female friends like myself. I have to tell her to back off a lot. However, she still found her dream man and is engaged to him. He's the male version of her in terms of neediness. It's uncanny!! When people figure out there are no dating "rules" things tend to get easier.
You'reasian Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 I feel like this is what it comes down to, in the eyes of the males. I'm prolly completely wrong or decently right, so don't hate on me toooo much. -If guys come off to emotional, then girls think were too needy -If we come off to quiet, then were considered creepy or something is wrong with him - If we call or text to much before exclusive dating, then were to needy again - Females can change their mind within 2 days and be like pff, I'm not interested anymore. - where is the even ground? I feel like guys are pressured so much by all these calling rules, texting rules, gaming girls, that girls are starting to think they want that perfect guy and never know when the perfect guy is actually standing in front of them and will treat them greater than they would have ever imagined. Thebob Sounds like you're playing with girls - not women. The difference is that a woman is emotionally mature - regardless of how young or old she is.
St. Nick Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Once men realize they are wrong no matter what with women they will be better off. I've been on dozens of gotdamn internet forums since 2003 and this is by far one of the smartest posts I've seen ever! I wish I could shake your hand or give you an award, a Noble Prize or something!
Woggle Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 I've been on dozens of gotdamn internet forums since 2003 and this is by far one of the smartest posts I've seen ever! I wish I could shake your hand or give you an award, a Noble Prize or something! I appreciate it. Once I realized that women are unpleasable my life improved drastically. I am who I am and a woman can take or leave it. If she does not like my ways there is the door and I will have a new woman ready to please me the next day.
Pyro Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 I've been on dozens of gotdamn internet forums since 2003 and this is by far one of the smartest posts I've seen ever! I wish I could shake your hand or give you an award, a Noble Prize or something! Don't let him fool you St. Nick, he is married. This is all an act he is putting on.
Satisfaction Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Don't let him fool you St. Nick, he is married. This is all an act he is putting on. You've got the best sig ever !
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