pastxmas Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 I don't know what to do. My situation, which can be read here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t219117/ has gotten worse. I had a brief chat with my wife about closing her out of my bank account. She said it wasn't right and that she was very upset. I told her it wasn't done out of malice but out of survival and I hope she understands. I woke up this morning and decided to get myself in gear for the day so I did something I haven't done in a long time. I fixed myself breakfast and ate it. I was getting ready to go for a walk when I noticed that our second car, an old one that barely runs and is not insured, was removed from in front of our house. I know this is her response to me cutting her off financially and I am starting to panic because I see it as a discouragement and I am getting ready to lose my breakfast. I hurt so bad and just don't know how to deal with it. My first instinct is to try to call her but I am trying so hard to stick to my resolve about not forcing contact. I don't know what to do. Please help me deal with this.
sedgwick Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 So she came and got it in the night? Are you sure she took it and not someone else? If she left you, you have every right to remove her from your accounts. As for the car, I'd be inclined to report it to the police. At any rate, I think it's okay to contact your ex about business-only matters, if you can keep it to that and not fight.
Meaplus3 Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 I don't see why contact is an issue in order to get legal stuff in order. I'm very sorry your hurting.. this must be tough on you. Know that I feel for you.. and also know you will get through this. Sometimes answers come to our problems when we least expect it. Hang in there and keep posting. Mea:)
Author pastxmas Posted January 28, 2010 Author Posted January 28, 2010 Thanks for your encouraging replies. She wanted to talk on the phone, then spent the whole time telling me she was mad at me and that I should have trusted her with my bank account. She said she feels betrayed and was crying nonstop, telling me also that I haven't owned up to what I have done. So I started agreeing with her, which she picked up on and called me on, saying I am just doing what I think I want her to do. She keeps saying she has no money and is going to lose our cats in the process. I told her that doesn't have to happen and she told me that if she couldn't have them then neither could I. That's what really hurts me at this point, those poor innocent cats that are suffering over all of this. I love them so much and it hurts so bad to think of them being in a kennel or something. Now all she dwells on is my cutting her out of my account. She won't talk about anything else. Its as if she has latched onto it and is using it as fuel for the emotional fire. I just don't get it. My mind is pretty irrational at times but I believe this takes it. She ended the conversation be telling me she regretted talking to me and only feels worse after having done so. Is this behavior common for the 3rd day after the split?
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