on1wheel Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 The difference is that you & your partner chose your lifestyle. If that's what makes you 2 happy & turns you on then all the power to you guys. But what happens with infidelity is betrayal; the most painful type. When you have had someone betray you on that level all of life's little joys are gone. It's not about possession my friend, it's about broken promises & taking advantage of someones trust; someone that would have never have done the same to you. I hope this has helped you to understand better. Cheers.
LakesideDream Posted February 13, 2010 Posted February 13, 2010 I think we should stop feeding the trolls.
Steadfast Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 (edited) Like a steady diet of only sugary deserts, feeding the heart and soul only sexual thrills will very quickly leave you weak and malnourished. I'm always amazed at how people in this 'lifestyle' view swapping or sharing as some kind of epiphany. The reality is, to maintain the edge sexual deviance must be fed by more of the same...becoming stronger, bolder and more outrageous until it consumes the people feeding upon it. Sex is more than a thrill, it's best experienced as an act of love. Edited February 15, 2010 by Steadfast
NoIDidn't Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Like a steady diet of only sugary deserts, feeding the heart and soul only sexual thrills will very quickly leave you weak and malnourished. I'm always amazed at how people in this 'lifestyle' view swapping or sharing as some kind of epiphany. The reality is, to maintain the edge sexual deviance must be fed by more of the same...becoming stronger, bolder and more outrageous until it consumes the people feeding upon it. Sex is more than a thrill, it's best experienced as an act of love. I agree. I like to sample blogs and came across one hosted by a swinging couple. I was amazed at the amount of heartache they posted about, considering they claimed to be so enlightened. They linked to many others that basically told the same story over and over again. I've never had to take a break from Monogamy. But I read so many stories of those who returned to monogamy to re-solidify their primary relationship, until they had an itch again. I think its sad to be ruled by base urges in this way. But to each their own, I guess.
schewter Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 We all have different values dictated from experience, culture, religion, philosophy, etc. I choose to live monogamously and take pride in the devotion to one woman. The OP is right about the primitive urges in all of us whether we admit or not we are turned on by many of the opposite sex we encounter. I've known people who swing and partake in open marriages and the only thing I commonly find is that it was typically the idea of one partner and the other went along. I've yet to see one of these arrangements run at an equal pace...seems one partner is always more popular out on the circuit, usually the one who wanted the arrangement in the first place.
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