dyzfunctioned Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 So I got dumped for her ex then when her ex found out she'd been with someone else he rejected her and now, hardly more than a day later, she's back. I know she's probably just looking for someone to make her feel better but she came back and was all over me, and yea, we hooked up even though I know I shouldn't have. The rest of the day she acted like we were back together again... tried holding my hand, tried to kiss me, was asking me if we could be together again.. The thing is even though we hooked up I felt nothing emotionally. I didn't want to hold her hand, I didn't want to kiss her. I think I'm over her. But it doesn't mean I haven't considered the possibilities... friends with benefits being one, the other, that maybe after time, she really would move on from her ex and that I could regain what I felt before and it would be like old times... I know the fact I'm even considering any of the options is stupid, I should just tell her I'm not a ****ing rebound and move on with my life. But after it happened I felt like my old self again for the first time since we broke up, and I miss the old me.
TheLoneSock Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Don't let her drag you down. That 'old you' that you want so badly will come again, but not if you're in a relationship with someone who will dump you for an ex, and then try to make amends a day later. That is the absolute definition of fickle. It can only end in hurt for you. Move on.
CaliGuy Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 She's going to dump you again the minute another guy comes along that strikes her fancy. Why wait for the inevitable? Dump her now. I mean really, if she could walk away so easily and think she can come back so easily, what's to stop her from doing it again -- especially given that you've already pretty much taken her back. You're rewarding her bad behavior.
DustySaltus Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 This isn't Burger King, she can't have it her way. First off, you need to throw the idea of ever having a serious relationship with this girl out the window. Her neediness is an issue that is not going to go away without intense therapy sessions over a long period of time. If you want to sit there and help her through it, hey more power to you. But I know you miss the old you. I know that feeling very well. Before you can ever be happy with someone else you need to be happy with yourself. This girl is treating you like a pawn in her game of trying to fulfill her own needs. I would just cut things off completely at this point as Cali said. I think continuing to hook up with her will of course have its benefits but in the long run it's not going to help either one of you become better people. Actually, it might help her to think her behavior is justified. I would walk, good luck.
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