lil_miz_depressed Posted December 31, 2003 Posted December 31, 2003 [font=century gothic][/font] well let me start by saying thanku 2 the ppl who put this site 2gether there is so much helpful information. last november i started going out wit a guy who really made me feel special. then i moved atleast an hour away from my orginal city. we decided 2 do a long distance relationship i neva knew it would last so long. 2 nights ago he wrote me a message 2 tell me he couldnt be wit me nemore. apparently he said hed been thinking of dumping me 4 months but didnt want 2 hurt me. i think it hurt me more finding out so late. did this mean all the times i went & saw him he acted like he luved me but didnt. it hurt me so much like all the things he would say about neva wanting 2 lose me!!!!!! every1 was going on about how i had my whole life ahead of me & not let him stop me. i had so many feelings 4 him i was willing 2 spend the rest of my life wit him but he let me down so much i mean he really seemed 2 lie through his teeth. my self estem has been ruined god its taken me a while 2 get my head around things wat can u tell me that will help me? i dont need u telling me im young i'll have lots of guys ahead of me coz im telling u it doesnt work like that ive been put off guys but would neva consider luving another woman i guess maybe im just meant 2 stay single i always seem 2 help the 1s that dont mean nething 2 me & the 1s that do hurt me instead wat has happend 2 this world am i the only person that has feelings? luv is like a dog bite the pain will go away but the scar will last 4eva
MousePotato Posted December 31, 2003 Posted December 31, 2003 I know it hurts, I think everyone can understand. I remeber when I broke up, people told me it would get better but I couldnt see it. And I dont expect you to either rigth now. You need to respect the pain you are felling just feel it. Cry and cry and hurt, it will help beleive it or not. I hate it when people tell me to get over it. Im in the same situation as your x. Im considering breaking up with my GF, but I dont want to hurt her. I care for her, and sometimes feel confused about whether or not im being selfish or whether or not breaking up with her will be mistake. Maybe he was confused. But anyway im sorry.
dario Posted January 1, 2004 Posted January 1, 2004 Mouse Potato, you should really talk to your girlfriend.
Rayven Posted August 20, 2004 Posted August 20, 2004 lil_miz_depressed, I just broke up from a relationship as well. I no a lot of what youre going through. Ill tell you what, that crap about more fish in the sea is a load..., the hurt remains all the same. Ill tell you this, after years of playing the relationship game the on real absolute that Ive been able to determine is that "the scars will be there for life" and no matter how much youll try youll carry some if not all of that baggage ove to your new relation ship ("More Drama"). So Ive adopted a perspective I'll share with you. Not all people and couples were meant to have life long relationships. Its nice when it happens but the reality is that the chips are stacked against all of us. So accept these two pieces of advice 1. Keep going, dont stop looking, in spite of past failures and short comings- you'll just make yourself miserable suppressing your natural desire to explore new people and eperience what they have to offer you. Along with that try your best to not be guarded in these new relationships. After being hurt we tend not to want to make ourselves vulnerable again- perfectly natural. Involved in doing this is not going to the same trials and a sacrifices in the new relationship as we did in the first one. Well, if you hold back so will they and the circle goes round and round until your out searching again. Love to your maximum everytime, how else can that feeling be reciprocated to the fullest by the other person. No guarantees, but if and when the relationship end you'll never wonder "if only I had tried a little harder". 2. Remember that although relationships end, that doesnt mean the good times and experiences dissapate. Remember this person for what you loved in them. Take with you, not just the end but the beginning on through as well. Let those initial feelings of love and affection fuel you in your quest for new intimacy. If you stop and become bitter about how things ended between you two, denying yourself happiness and not allowing yourself the joys that youd other wise know; what did you really show him about how he treated you? Here endeth the lesson, good luck.
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