Stockalone Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 For those of you who had some questions that I was unable to answer in that thread. Why did I use a new username? I wanted to get unbiased opinions and I thought that using my regular username would influence the “votes”. Why did I start that thread? Two reasons: 1. I simply wanted to know what women think of my looks? This was the main reason. As some of you may know, I was rather unsuccessful in the dating world. It had recently been suggested that my looks back then weren’t responsible for that at all. Since I can count the number of women who complimented me on my looks on one hand, I wanted to get other opinions. Based on the responses in my thread, it seems that most women who replied, corroborate the theory that my looks weren’t the problem. For me, that is useful information and I found it interesting to hear what women had to say. I want to thank those women who responded, both for giving me their honest opinion and the flattering overall vote. 2. I wanted to show that being tall doesn’t automatically get you dates. We have seen plenty of threads on LS from men who claim that they are short, and/or just average looking and they can’t get dates because of that. They claim that women are to blame for it, that women are picky, and will only date the proverbial tall, dark and handsome guys. Or that they will only date tall men, regardless of their looks, attitude or character. I wanted to show that being tall (and according to the responses in my thread, being above average looking to boot) isn’t good enough. This doesn’t mean that being shorter than average isn’t a hindrance, that those guys don’t have a point when they complain about it. However, being short isn’t a death sentence either. They usually don’t listen when women tell them that they are wrong, that for most of them their height is at best part of the problem. I thought those guys might take another look if the same advice comes from a guy who, according to their logic, must fend off women every time he leaves the house. When in reality, like them, I am not successful when it comes to dating. Why did I use old pictures instead of more recent ones? I haven’t dated in quite a while, that is why I used the old pictures. That is how I looked like the last time I dated. Was that really me in those pictures? Yes.
DiscoChick Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 So... glad that went well for you. I still say you'd look nice with a beard.
cognac Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 I don't get it OP. The majority of women in that thread commented that how attractive you were depended on your height... or am I missing something here? Some even went as far as to make a 5 point different (out of 10!!) depending on your height
Stung Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Thanks for clearing that up...I was curious after the thread disappeared! I'm assuming that you've been off the dating market due to finding a successful union...if that's right, then congratulations. I guess some lucky woman finally noticed how tall you are. Joke!
Payden Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Thank you for clearing this up.... I've been wondering all day about why why why and I'm so greatly relieved now, that I can rest. yepp....yepp.....
donnamaybe Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 I don't get it OP. The majority of women in that thread commented that how attractive you were depended on your height... or am I missing something here? Some even went as far as to make a 5 point different (out of 10!!) depending on your height Those women said that JUST because of all the claims that guys under 6' never get women. Which is TOTALLY wrong.
ella23 Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Those women said that JUST because of all the claims that guys under 6' never get women. Which is TOTALLY wrong. And there were only 2-3 women who said that.....far from the majority.
Awesome Username Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 I'm not going to rate people in numbers anymore. I never rate people like that in real life, so it almost doesn't even make sense to me. It's a shame I never got to see the pics though.
Author Stockalone Posted January 29, 2010 Author Posted January 29, 2010 So... glad that went well for you. I still say you'd look nice with a beard. That's definitely a first. Usually, women want me to get rid of the beard when I have one. I don't get it OP. The majority of women in that thread commented that how attractive you were depended on your height... or am I missing something here? Some even went as far as to make a 5 point different (out of 10!!) depending on your height As others have already mentioned, those women were being facetious. Thanks for clearing that up...I was curious after the thread disappeared! I'm assuming that you've been off the dating market due to finding a successful union...if that's right, then congratulations. I guess some lucky woman finally noticed how tall you are. Joke! Ever since those "women are height obsessed" posts, I am waiting for a woman to notice my height. No luck so far. I think the sad truth is that I am just too short. I am only 6'2" and we all know women don't even look at guys under 6'5", no matter what they say on these threads. Sounds like I missed a lot today. Actually, you didn't. My thread got far more attention than it probably should have. Certainly more than I had anticipated. I'm not going to rate people in numbers anymore. I never rate people like that in real life, so it almost doesn't even make sense to me. It's a shame I never got to see the pics though. I don't like using a rating scale either. Obviously, looks and personality aren't exactly quantifiable, but in the context of that thread, using a scale made sense because I was looking for a general opinion. That is difficult to do when you have cute, handsome, or decent looking to work with. Numbers make that easier.
ella23 Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I am only 6'2" and we all know women don't even look at guys under 6'5", no matter what they say on these threads. Shall I book your trip to Mexico?
threebyfate Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I sincerely have no idea why you're unsuccessful in the dating world. If anything, I'm guessing it has to do with getting out there and risking rejection and the subsequent pain. You've got looks, intelligence, can cook and when people get to know you, you also display a pretty witty side to you. Oh and of course, you have the most important ingredient, which is height too!
Lizzie60 Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 Shall I book your trip to Mexico? I was thinking about booking him a trip to Mexico WITH me..
ella23 Posted January 30, 2010 Posted January 30, 2010 I was thinking about booking him a trip to Mexico WITH me.. Yeah, height lengthening surgery is painful, he'll need someone to take care of him.
Author Stockalone Posted February 2, 2010 Author Posted February 2, 2010 Shall I book your trip to Mexico? I was thinking about booking him a trip to Mexico WITH me.. My mom told me to never accept candy from strangers, I could hardly accept a trip to Mexico. It would be an expensive trip too from Europe. Lizzie, please don't be mad, but it would never work. Your (baby) factory is already closed. That would be a deal-breaker, even though you have at least two big compelling arguments. I sincerely have no idea why you're unsuccessful in the dating world. If anything, I'm guessing it has to do with getting out there and risking rejection and the subsequent pain. You've got looks, intelligence, can cook and when people get to know you, you also display a pretty witty side to you. Oh and of course, you have the most important ingredient, which is height too! Thanks for the compliments, I'll have to remember to stand tall then. That should do the trick. Seriously though, getting out there (exposure) is certainly part of it. During college, women were suddenly part of my everyday life, they were practically everywhere. There was an unbelievable amount of exposure compared to the times before and after college. More exposure, more opportunities. It's probably a numbers game after all. I am not sure about risking rejection though. That doesn't always bother me, only in special situations or when it becomes the only response I get. Likewise, there isn't always pain, that usually is reserved for times when relationships that I have become fond of, end. More often, it's disappointment about having invested affection, time and energy and in the end, having nothing to show for it. You have a point though, if you look up the definition of loss aversion, you should find my picture there. There are various reasons why I have problems. Some of which I'm probably not even aware of. But it's not like I have no clue at all why I have problems. For months now, I have been thinking about and working on a list of what I suspect could be part of my problem. That has also been part of the reason why I started that "rate me" thread.
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