Lucky555 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Guy whom i spent the weekend with has not contacted me via email or phone, but he did make a CASUAL comment online. WHAT? Is it me or is this weird behavior. Background Our weekend involved no sex but we had some Intimate moments though. Oh ya this is the guy that basically "rushed" me to leave his place. Its relatively beginning stages of dating. BUT it was weird to me. We have been in contact for quite awhile and are friends. So things progressed faster since we know each other pretty well. However...its now been about a month and he sent me a "comment" online. I dont know how to proceed. Should I contact him and tell him whats going on? I was going to wait for him to contact me but he has not. I feel a little concerned when its a month later and he cant call or contact me!!!! What should i do. We are technically "seeing each other" but obviously this doesn't appear to be RELATIONSHIP behavior that he is doing.
DiscoChick Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 He doesn't want a relationship. No guy interested in you would go that long without talking to you. Forget him and find another guy.
alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 What should i do. We are technically "seeing each other" but obviously this doesn't appear to be RELATIONSHIP behavior that he is doing. you are not "seeing each other" if he has not contacted you in 30 days. you may send him an email or txt msg to see whats up. don't be surprised if you get no answer, however...
Author Lucky555 Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 you are not "seeing each other" if he has not contacted you in 30 days. you may send him an email or txt msg to see whats up. don't be surprised if you get no answer, however... we just were with each other three days ago......
DiscoChick Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 we just were with each other three days ago...... You said it's been a month. This makes no sense. Just talk to the guy.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 You said it's been a month. This makes no sense. Just talk to the guy. its been a month of him and i "seeing each other" however only a total of four times.
DiscoChick Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 its been a month of him and i "seeing each other" however only a total of four times. "Seeing each other"? Explain. Do you mean in a relationship?
alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 we just were with each other three days ago...... your stated and i quote: I feel a little concerned when its a month later and he cant call or contact me!!!!
Author Lucky555 Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 your stated and i quote: yes, my mistake. I mean his form of communication after a month is just "commenting" online. I think this is kind of coward behavior. Instead of calling me or emailing me he puts a causal statement on a profile of mine.
DiscoChick Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 yes, my mistake. I mean his form of communication after a month is just "commenting" online. I think this is kind of coward behavior. Instead of calling me or emailing me he puts a causal statement on a profile of mine. But you just said you were together three days ago...
Author Lucky555 Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 But you just said you were together three days ago... oh my i am going to stop confusing everyone. We were together three days ago..i spent the weekend with him. I think i should be having a phone call or an email from him as a form of him "communicating with me" as opposed to a comment online over casual stuff. In the past relationships i have had guys would call me and ask me how my day was or plan for the next date. This guy is acting "casual"
DiscoChick Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 This guy is acting "casual" It sounds as if you are in a casual relationship. Why do you keep staying with him when he appears to show no interest? I still say leave him.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 28, 2010 Author Posted January 28, 2010 It sounds as if you are in a casual relationship. Why do you keep staying with him when he appears to show no interest? I still say leave him. ya...i think i should talk to him and let him know what i want and that things just dont seem like they are going anywhere. So if it ends im fine with it. I just want to cut ties. its hard when i have known him for awhile but i can do it.
DiscoChick Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 ya...i think i should talk to him and let him know what i want and that things just dont seem like they are going anywhere. So if it ends im fine with it. I just want to cut ties. its hard when i have known him for awhile but i can do it. Yes, you can. Just make sure you are clear about your feelings and get him to talk to you about his feelings. Probably not going to happen, but if he refuses to respond, you got your answer.
Buttnutter100 Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Ummm.....why would you spend the weekend with a guy and not have sex with him? Maybe he thinks you're teasing him and is frustrated by that?
OnlyJake Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Lucky, you've started a lot of threads about this guy recently, and I'm starting to get the idea that you're way more interested in this guy than he is in you I think you need to pick one or more of these actions, and follow through: 1. Have a serious, in person discussion about the nature of your relationship with him, and don't let him off the hook - keep discussing until your questions are answered definitively and you have the info you need and want to evaluate your situation and make a decision. 2. Assume he's not very interested. Act accordingly. 3. Date other people. Move on. 4. Assume he's not very interested, and enjoy his occasional company/comment.
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