Jesper Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 1. What would you think if your SO deleted every post/comment you made to his/her wall on Facebook after an hour or two, but s/he left everyone else's comments up for days or weeks before deleting it? 2. What would you think if your SO went to great time and expense to visit an opposite sex "friend" from college in a tropical location every single year?
Left in a Lurch Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I think I would drop her and never look back.
Eeyore79 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 1) I'd think that my SO didn't want someone to see those comments 2) I'd think that he/she was shagging their "friend" and possibly had feelings for him/her
Johnny M Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 1. What would you think if your SO deleted every post/comment you made to his/her wall on Facebook after an hour or two, but s/he left everyone else's comments up for days or weeks before deleting it? 2. What would you think if your SO went to great time and expense to visit an opposite sex "friend" from college in a tropical location every single year? I would think that she deleted your comments on facebook by accident and that the relationship with the opposite sex friend is entirely platonic. What other possible explanation could there be?
Author Jesper Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 I would think that she deleted your comments on facebook by accident and that the relationship with the opposite sex friend is entirely platonic. What other possible explanation could there be?
make me believe Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Uhhh this person would absolutely not be my SO if either of these scenarios occured.
BG1985 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Jesper, the fact that you are asking us OBVIOUSLY means that you are an over-controlling boyfriend who has trust issues with his girl. You expect her to stop having friends?! The horror!
Author Jesper Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 Jesper, the fact that you are asking us OBVIOUSLY means that you are an over-controlling boyfriend who has trust issues with his girl. You expect her to stop having friends?! The horror! I'm a girl, but thanks for expressing your opinion.
alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 2. What would you think if your SO went to great time and expense to visit an opposite sex "friend" from college in a tropical location every single year? i would think they are in some type of long-distance relationship and having sex
You'reasian Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 1. What would you think if your SO deleted every post/comment you made to his/her wall on Facebook after an hour or two, but s/he left everyone else's comments up for days or weeks before deleting it? 2. What would you think if your SO went to great time and expense to visit an opposite sex "friend" from college in a tropical location every single year? 1. I would ask them why they are doing this. 2. Same thing. I would ask how they would feel about me meeting an opposite sex friend in a desireable location.
Author Jesper Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 1. I would ask them why they are doing this. Asked a couple times, and got the same answer both times. "I did? I dunno? Go write on it, I won't erase it." In other words, asked and received a bull**** answer.
BG1985 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I'm a girl, but thanks for expressing your opinion. Oops. My bad.
Author Jesper Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 So I asked him if it's because he's ashamed of me just now (kind of joking, but kind of serious), and he wanted to know if I was serious. So I told him, I'm kind of joking, but I'm serious b/c of XYZ. His response was to write something, he'd leave it up, STOP acting CRAZY, and that he's kind of annoyed about this. I just said I don't give a **** if he's annoyed by me asking him to clarify a situation that hurts my feelings.
DiscoChick Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 That's right, girl. Fight for your right to be on his comment board or drop him like a hot potato. He should be proud of you and all the...stuff you want to write on his wall.
Author Jesper Posted January 28, 2010 Author Posted January 28, 2010 Oops. My bad. It's OK, I just swapped "boyfriend" for "girlfriend" and "girl" for "boy" and figured out what you meant
BG1985 Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Write something dirty on his wall since he said he'll leave it up this time.
Author Jesper Posted January 28, 2010 Author Posted January 28, 2010 Write something dirty on his wall since he said he'll leave it up this time. HAHAHA any suggestions?
BG1985 Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Hell, I don't know. I'm sure you can think of something good. Nothing too bad so he doesn't have a real justification for removing it. Maybe, "I had fun the other night! :)"
Author Jesper Posted January 28, 2010 Author Posted January 28, 2010 I guess he's a good guy. He wrote something mushy on my FB wall and made a status about me on his profile. And he invited me on the trip. Now the only thing I'm watching is how he handles my feelings and conflict, since I'm not a fan of his reaction to my perfectly reasonable and calm questions (calling me crazy and saying he was annoyed by it).
hoping2heal Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 1. What would you think if your SO deleted every post/comment you made to his/her wall on Facebook after an hour or two, but s/he left everyone else's comments up for days or weeks before deleting it? I would think something is fishy. Something is fishy. 2. What would you think if your SO went to great time and expense to visit an opposite sex "friend" from college in a tropical location every single year? Ooooh no no no, I wouldn't tolerate that at all. I would "think" that this relationship was due for an ending. I would KNOW that kind of behavior in a relationship is unacceptable.
Awesome Username Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Don't let your feelings for him cloud your judgment. He's treating you like a FWB, and having relationships on the side.
txsilkysmoothe Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 I guess he's a good guy. He wrote something mushy on my FB wall and made a status about me on his profile. And he invited me on the trip. Now the only thing I'm watching is how he handles my feelings and conflict, since I'm not a fan of his reaction to my perfectly reasonable and calm questions (calling me crazy and saying he was annoyed by it). Does his FB status indicate that he is in a relationship with YOU? Inviting you on a trip and taking you are two different things. It may have just been to alleviate your suspicion. How about writing "I love you, too!" on his wall and seeing if he leaves it up.
Author Jesper Posted January 28, 2010 Author Posted January 28, 2010 Does his FB status indicate that he is in a relationship with YOU? Inviting you on a trip and taking you are two different things. It may have just been to alleviate your suspicion. How about writing "I love you, too!" on his wall and seeing if he leaves it up. Yes, his status does reflect that he's in a relationship with me. I thought maybe he had blocked people from seeing it or something, so that it would only show up on my page, but I asked a friend who is not his FB friend (and therefore can't see his profile) to look, and the fact that he is in a relationship with me is one of the only pieces of information that is available for everyone to see. He also has some pictures of us together in his profile picture album. I will write something on his wall and see what happens. As far as the trip, he's gone every year for the last couple years (only once by himself, the other times one other person went). He invited me last year but I couldn't go. This year I thought was also going to be only him, but when he invited me he phrased it this way (which included new information): That she invited him; she was trying to get a group together to do it, and he gave me the names of people who were definitely in, or who were invited and considering it. He also said that he told her he would probably rather go someplace he hasn't been before, but since I've never been he would run it by me and see what I wanted to do.
OceanTropic Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Do you REALLY not know the answer to that?
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