Confronting Girlfriend About Cheating

[Droors]

I've been seeing this girl for about a month now and we really seemed to hit it off. Our relationship moved at a breakneck speed (i.e. we have sex pretty regularly) and I am definitely starting to have serious feelings about her.

 

So this morning, as I was leaving for work, I saw some guy walking her dog around outside her apartment (we live in the same apartment complex). She rooms with another guy who sometimes does this for her but it definitely wasn't him because the guy got into a different car then the one she had identified as her roommates car before. It was also conveniently parked right next to her car. I have witnessed other red flags but they are far less worrisome than this current incident.

 

I know that it's hard to offer advice on whether or not she is actually cheating (although any advice is welcome). So my real question is would you think it is wise to confront her with this info? Should I wait to gather more evidence and play it cool for now? We are suppose to meet up tonight but I don't think I'll even be able to look at her with my current state of mind. It's gonna drive me crazy...please help!!!

 

TIA

[Buttnutter100]

Did she ever tell you she thought the relationship with you is exclusive?

 

When did that conversation occur?

 

It has only been a month right?

[Green]

who the heck knows if she is cheating. Seriously I wouldn't want to date a girl who has a male roommate. Don't confront her its pointless, you will look and feel like a tool. If you say something about it do it in a non confrontational way, like "it bothered me seeing some strange guy at your place walking your dog" seriously that may have been all that happened. Like I said I wouldn't date a girl who had a male roommate or random men comming around and walking her dog.

[SleepingDog]

If you have been having sex for six weeks you hardly have solid relationship.

Though many people would be immediatly stick to one partner in such an event, there are many others who would consider themselves free agents until you have both voiced a commitment and/or love to each other. In fact, this is probably the norm.

 

However, even if it is not an actual betrayal, having other lovers now can put a bomb under your future happiness. You should say something like . ' I know we have only been seeing each other for six weeks, and I don't know where it is going, but I really like you and I'd prefer it if we both not see other people so we can give this relationship a chance and see how it goes.

 

If she agrees: there you are, you have committment without being controlling.

[Droors]

@ButtNutter100:

 

We never agreed that we were exclusive but it seemed implied. Except for the last two days, we have spent time with together nearly every day since we met...usually right after we get out of work until late into the night. Anyways, if she thinks it's cool to be in an intimate relationship with me while she still sees other people, then I want nothing to do with her anymore.

 

@Green:

 

Yeah, the male roommate does bother me but he is almost never there and I know because I have spent the night numerous times. He's always at his girlfriend's house. As for confronting her, I would rather feel like a tool then be two-timed; I have no respect for people deceitful who have multiple sexual relationships, especially if they don't let the other party know. I did like your non-confrontational approach though...thanks for the tip!

[Droors]

@SleepingDog:

 

Thanks...thats exactly the kind of advice I was looking for.