Ellezz Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I met this guy once about 3 months ago and we had a good time together. He seemed quite interested in me but I didn't pay much attention to him then and we haven't contacted since. But afterwards when I think about it, he is actually kind of hot and I quite like him. I'm happy to see him again on a class yesterday(we're in the same college by the way), sadly he doesn't seem to notice me. I really like to reconnect with him and show him that I'm interested, but I'm not even sure whether he still remembers me after all it has been a long time, and I think he was a bit drunk when we first met... I guess I'll meet him on the same class next week. What should I say to him without making it looks desperate? What if he doesn't remember me? I'm a rather shy girl. Any suggestions or encouragement will be greatly appreciated!
Johnny M Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I met this guy once about 3 months ago and we had a good time together. He seemed quite interested in me but I didn't pay much attention to him then and we haven't contacted since. But afterwards when I think about it, he is actually kind of hot and I quite like him. I'm happy to see him again on a class yesterday(we're in the same college by the way), sadly he doesn't seem to notice me. I really like to reconnect with him and show him that I'm interested, but I'm not even sure whether he still remembers me after all it has been a long time, and I think he was a bit drunk when we first met... I guess I'll meet him on the same class next week. What should I say to him without making it looks desperate? What if he doesn't remember me? I'm a rather shy girl. Any suggestions or encouragement will be greatly appreciated! It sounds like your interest has been sparked by the fact that he is ignoring you now. Do the poor guy a favor and leave him alone.
Itzo Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I met this guy once about 3 months ago and we had a good time together. He seemed quite interested in me but I didn't pay much attention to him then and we haven't contacted since. But afterwards when I think about it, he is actually kind of hot and I quite like him. I'm happy to see him again on a class yesterday(we're in the same college by the way), sadly he doesn't seem to notice me. I really like to reconnect with him and show him that I'm interested, but I'm not even sure whether he still remembers me after all it has been a long time, and I think he was a bit drunk when we first met... I guess I'll meet him on the same class next week. What should I say to him without making it looks desperate? What if he doesn't remember me? I'm a rather shy girl. Any suggestions or encouragement will be greatly appreciated! Oh yeah, I think he still likes you, but he just PLAY COOL. When I am attracted to a girl, I was doing this mistake of playing cool, you know, not noticing her or whatever. It is a mistake, because I was attracted to her, but I did not do anything about it. Since you are shy, it will be tough for you to approach him as well, you know ... try not to be direct with him ... ask him for help about something as a bait (like homework or whatever). Please, do not try to be nice with him, it is very important. After this, have a little chat or conversation afterwards ... invite him for a tea or something after school the other day ... and BuM .. you are in
DiscoChick Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 It sounds like your interest has been sparked by the fact that he is ignoring you now. Do the poor guy a favor and leave him alone. It does seem that way, but I think she may have not given him as much credit the first time around and now sees that he is a great guy. The sad thing is that he is no longer interested in her.
Author Ellezz Posted January 28, 2010 Author Posted January 28, 2010 It sounds like your interest has been sparked by the fact that he is ignoring you now. Do the poor guy a favor and leave him alone. Believe me it's not like that...I was kind of hoping I could meet him again even before yesterday. The reason I didn't like him back at the first time is that I was having this crush on another guy at the time, which is over now...
dyzfunctioned Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Stop acting like you're still in high school. Let him know you're interested. Not every guy wants to spend weeks trying to interpret minor signals. Then you find out right then and there if he's interested and it makes you come across as confident.
sagetalk Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 The sad thing is that he is no longer interested in her. Is that why she thinks he's hot? Man, I hope not.
Author Ellezz Posted January 28, 2010 Author Posted January 28, 2010 Oh yeah, I think he still likes you, but he just PLAY COOL. When I am attracted to a girl, I was doing this mistake of playing cool, you know, not noticing her or whatever. It is a mistake, because I was attracted to her, but I did not do anything about it. Since you are shy, it will be tough for you to approach him as well, you know ... try not to be direct with him ... ask him for help about something as a bait (like homework or whatever). Please, do not try to be nice with him, it is very important. After this, have a little chat or conversation afterwards ... invite him for a tea or something after school the other day ... and BuM .. you are in Thanks for the advices. Does it seem desperate to ask a guy out? I personally never did that, too scared of being refused...
Author Ellezz Posted January 28, 2010 Author Posted January 28, 2010 Is that why she thinks he's hot? Man, I hope not. Always think he's hot.
sagetalk Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Always think he's hot. Good response, just remember that if he thinks your hot too .
DiscoChick Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Is that why she thinks he's hot? Man, I hope not. Omg...I have no idea. If I were to make a decision based solely upon what she has written, I would say yes, but that doesn't make sense. Why would someone waste time trying to get someone that's obviously not interested in them? They seldom change their minds. You would do better to move on and find someone else. I'm sure you'll meet a great guy later.
boogieboy Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Thanks for the advices. Does it seem desperate to ask a guy out? I personally never did that, too scared of being refused... Well hes not going to ask you out, so you better risk that rejection, or enjoy admiring him from afar for the rest of the semester. And Ill thank you not to post here about it until you actually talk to him. Wondering posts stink.
Author Ellezz Posted January 28, 2010 Author Posted January 28, 2010 Anybody thinks it's a good idea to mention the first meet next time I see him? Have to wait til Monday though, why can't I just run into him on campus...
Author Ellezz Posted January 28, 2010 Author Posted January 28, 2010 Omg...I have no idea. If I were to make a decision based solely upon what she has written, I would say yes, but that doesn't make sense. Why would someone waste time trying to get someone that's obviously not interested in them? They seldom change their minds. You would do better to move on and find someone else. I'm sure you'll meet a great guy later. Just want to give this one a try, in case he still has any interest in me:p
O'Malley Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Anybody thinks it's a good idea to mention the first meet next time I see him? "Hi, not sure if you remember me but we met (the place/event or person that introduced you)." Smile and proceed from there. Discuss the course you're both taking. Plenty of eye contact. Flirt if he seems interested in the conversation. He'll either reciprocate or not. No harm done either way...
boogieboy Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Anybody thinks it's a good idea to mention the first meet next time I see him? Have to wait til Monday though, why can't I just run into him on campus... Thats a perfectly good opener. Run with it!
OndaChin Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 How to let him know that I'm interested? (Follow Procedure Carefully) Step.1 - Walk up to him. Step.2 - Look him in his eyes. Step.3 - Say "Hi My name is ____. How are you?" Step.4 - Watch for his reaction OR Lack of reaction. Step.5 - If he's giving a "happy vibe" continue with small talk. Step.6 - If small talk is going really well- See Step 8. Step.7- Obviously things arent going well. Say "It's nice to meet you" and politely exit the conversation. (END PROGRAM) Step.8 - Give your phone number and invite him for coffee or Lunch. Step.9 - (END PROGRAM) Good Luck!
Author Ellezz Posted January 29, 2010 Author Posted January 29, 2010 OK I decide to give up. I talked to him today and he acted like I'm a total stranger, which is so weird, when I mentioned where we met, he was like "Oh yeah right" and no more. So either he was really drunk at the first meet and didn't remember a thing or he just pretended barely remember me(which is not nice!). Either way I'm wasting my time with him...
Brady_to_Moss Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 You ignored him before and that was that....leave him alone. He can find someone better.
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