Woggle Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 I wish my father would have left my mother and ran off with me even if he had to kidnap me.
giotto Posted January 31, 2010 Posted January 31, 2010 Never do that. I have been one of those children where one parent stayed because of us when the marriage was terrible. It was a mistake. My home and house was a living hell for over 5 years before one parent finally left to be with someone else. I wish my parents had divorced when the problems started and then maybe it would not be as bad between my parents as it is. And I would have had a lot less problems to deal with. I think it all depends on how the parents deal with the differences and issues... if they are civilized, still care about each other and never argue in front of the kids, then I don't see the problem...
Author ladydesigner Posted February 2, 2010 Author Posted February 2, 2010 It is more than possible that you are losing the battle. I don't know any healthy relationships that survive based on deceit. Not having another woman as a step-parent, is that he main reason you haven't told your H about your A? Do you fear he would leave you and remarry? And how do you have an emotional connection with someone you know you haven't given yourself to fully? You are right I have not told him. My therapist advised against it. You may be right in your words and I am taking what you have said to heart. I feel like REAL sh*t for what I have done and what my H has done. Lately we seem to be moving in a positive way and am starting to feel more of an emotional connection. The above bolded is not why I haven't told him. I just do not like the idea of another woman being "mom" to them. I guess it really isn't a big deal as many of their day care providers have been just as much as a mother to them. I do not fear my H leaving me or remarrying anymore. I feel that my marriage can make it and if it cannot then I will have to face what comes my way. I cannot worry anymore about the future. Lately just living day by day. I thank you for this point of view, it doesn't rest easy with me but no less I have to face my own consequences.
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