Ilovecake Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 My ex kept promising to buy me a camera for every holiday imaginable and never did. When I tried to go and buy it myself we would fight because there were always bills to be paid, then he would come home the next day with a new stereo or new bicycle. It was infuriating because he knew that taking pictures was extremely important to me. Today I finally bought that camera and tomorrow I'm going to sign up for some classes. It feels really good and makes me even gladder that he's no longer in my life. I suggest everyone do something like that whether it's go on a vacation your ex had no interest in or starting a hobby your ex though was silly. It's really reaffirming and puts a positive spin on the breakup.
curiousnycgirl Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 My ex was opposed to adopting rescue dogs. He felt you were just taking over someone else's problems and not knowing the genetic history woudl be a problem. I brought my resuce pup home friday night. He's adorable. Granted he is not even close to anyone's definition of the breed standard (in fact he doesn't really look purebred although apparently he is) but he is sweet as the day is long.
teanoranges Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 my ex used to love having conversations with me and tell me how much I should talk to other people the same way... meanwhile when I tried (you know, the few times he shut his mouth and allowed someone else to talk) he would pretty much bash my views infront of everyone! Sometimes, he even would take his frustration of others out on me, like someone would annoy him and he would tell me I was being obnoxious and leave. Then when we'd get home and be alone, he'd apologize and say he didn't want to hurt the other person's feelings! I'd forgive him like a chump and he loved how much I understood. God, I really let him step on me! Unappreciative turd. now, I really enjoy conversing with people and really not feeling held back!!
teanoranges Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 My ex was opposed to adopting rescue dogs. He felt you were just taking over someone else's problems and not knowing the genetic history woudl be a problem. I brought my resuce pup home friday night. He's adorable. Granted he is not even close to anyone's definition of the breed standard (in fact he doesn't really look purebred although apparently he is) but he is sweet as the day is long. You know, I've never been a fan of pure breeds.... I think its because of all the unwanted mutts and I feel so bad for them.... I don't think I could ever get a full breed... I'd have to rescue a mutt... lol.
laRubiaBonita Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 hanging out with my friends going to bed later than 10:30PM drink "cheap beer" smoke
silic0ntoad Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 hanging out with my friends going to bed later than 10:30PM drink "cheap beer" smoke I feel that! Work on my car Drink what I want to drink Eat where I want to eat, and as often as I'd like Go out with friends on the weekends Play CoD Mw2 til as late as I want whenever I want The list goes on and on.
Tasha1675 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Eat chocolate and other treats without him making me feel so bad I'd end up crying! See my friends whenever I want to. Watch whatever TV I like without him moaning about it. Working in a job I really enjoy and applying for university. Basically doing whatever I want, when I want instead of around his schedule!
twinklecat Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 My ex hated me going out and socialising, generally having a life outside of him. So since the split, I've been out quite a bit, meeting new people and socializing ^^ Also, he thought I could never fly on my own, well I did that in December, flew all on my own and it felt great! Also he thought that I was incapable of doing anything for myself. Got my own apartment, taking care of my own money and bills
curiousnycgirl Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 You know, I've never been a fan of pure breeds.... I think its because of all the unwanted mutts and I feel so bad for them.... I don't think I could ever get a full breed... I'd have to rescue a mutt... lol. I love mutts too - but this time I really needed a very happy and friendly dog, and they don't get happier or more friendly than goldens! hanging out with my friends going to bed later than 10:30PM drink "cheap beer" smoke I quit smoking for my ex - I seriously thought about picking it up again as soon as we broke up. But I've decided that wouldn't work for me. Maybe later
silic0ntoad Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Oh. And one thing I am doing that being with her prevented. NOT WATCHING AMERICAN IDOL. Thank god.
laRubiaBonita Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Oh. And one thing I am doing that being with her prevented. NOT WATCHING AMERICAN IDOL. Thank god. haha.... i would have died too
bananaboat11 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 She prevented me from being me... I kind of like being me. I think I'll start doing that again. (seriously...)
silic0ntoad Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 haha.... i would have died too Yeah, it was horrid. I felt like driving rusty nails through my eyelids would be more enjoyable. Her love of TV is disgusting (I haven't watched cable beyond sports games and the weather in over 8 months, thanks to her being gone!)
Author Ilovecake Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 You know, I've never been a fan of pure breeds.... I think its because of all the unwanted mutts and I feel so bad for them.... I don't think I could ever get a full breed... I'd have to rescue a mutt... lol. I feel the same way. All these people I work with have been getting dogs lately, not only are they flying half way across the country but they're paying hundreds of dollars for dogs that have been inbred for generations. I'll take a mutt any day of the week. Mutts are smarter. [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT]
Author Ilovecake Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 My ex was opposed to adopting rescue dogs. He felt you were just taking over someone else's problems and not knowing the genetic history woudl be a problem. I brought my resuce pup home friday night. He's adorable. Granted he is not even close to anyone's definition of the breed standard (in fact he doesn't really look purebred although apparently he is) but he is sweet as the day is long. Congratulations on your new friend.
Author Ilovecake Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 I love mutts too - but this time I really needed a very happy and friendly dog, and they don't get happier or more friendly than goldens! I quit smoking for my ex - I seriously thought about picking it up again as soon as we broke up. But I've decided that wouldn't work for me. Maybe later I did that, sort of. My ex always hated the fact that I smoked. I actually quit because I found out I have a slight heart problem but the fact that I knew it would make him proud really helped me quit. When we broke up I started smoking again because for some stupid, broken hearted reason I thought I was punishing him when in reality I was punishing myself. It's been 6 months since I last bought a pack of cigarettes and it has nothing to do with him this time.
missmay Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 I've been hanging out with my friends more. Although he said he didn't have a problem with it he would be constantly texting me when I did go out without him and would start guilt tripping me if I was gone for more than a few hours. Eating healthy and exercising. He ate horribly and would constantly bring junk into the house. He was a binge eater and would seemingly sabotage my attempts at eating well. He didn't like to exercise and didn't like me doing anything that we would have to part company for me to participate in. In the last 15 days of no contact I have lost 10 pounds. Im going back to school in September for a degree in Social Work. He was massively in debt and wanted me to go to school to be a licensed practical nurse because in a year I could enter the work force and make $25 an hour (which I almost make now) and contribute to the lifestyle he wanted to live. However, as a waitress I make more than enough money (with tips) to support my own lifestyle because I have no debt. In 8 months he accumulated $50,000 in consumer debt buying a new flat screen, computer, snowmobile etc. Without him in my life I can pursue my long range plans for a career that is meaningful to me although it will take triple the time.
Citizen Erased Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 I have been almost dying to get out of this country for the last few years, finally I am doing just that. If I talked about doing it he'd invite himself along and I'd shutup about it because I wanted to do it apart from him, have something for myself. My diet has improved dramatically, which has improved my health thankfully. I eat what I want, when I want it, unlike before when he was around. Nothing bad on his part, just how it works when you live alone. I met someone that makes me incredibly happy.
MySweetie'sGone Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Yep, I applied to several law schools out-of-state. Previously I tried to apply to places in cities close to him...now I can explore the world. lol
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